Dude why should you feel bad over childish shit, when I’m willing to wager that she thinks her past affairs aren’t a big deal.
Don’t fall for the trap. I’m sure those emotions got you feeling like shit right now, and you feel like you ought to do something, but don’t.
Put it like this
If she’s willing to leave you over this, and she isn’t even trying to give you the benifit of the doubt or work off this.
WHY WOULD YOU WANT TO CHANCE A MARRIAGE WITH A OERSON LIKE THIS, WHO SOUNDS LIKE SHE ISNT EVEN TRYING AND PUTTING HER AND OBLY HER EMOTIONS FIRST. Do you really think this person could deal with other more pressing issues, when she can’t even deal with what’s a non issue and can’t trust you?
I’m sorry to say and I know I’m saying this from a perspective that knocks on wood, but maybe you shouldn’t chance it even if the kid isn’t yours. No trust in any relationship equals failure. No ability to work toghether thick and thin, even situations like this should be a red flag. This is a marriage, not about her or your feelings or yours, don’t put your ass on the line for somebody who abondoned the marriage this quickly based on what you have said. Because she didn’t put in the work. You dodged a bullet bro.
You’re acting like you don’t have any fucking power when you certainly do.
If you want an annulment. THEN GET A DAMN ANNULMENT!!!
WTF is this “I’m hoping?”
Hoping ain’t gonna do shit for you except make you broker the more hoping you do. Take action and go file for a damn annulment. Then do the other shit in my last post.
Also, WTF? You didn’t even have sex with your ex? You just hanged out with her and discovered that you might have had a child with her?
Bruh, you got everything on your side man.
Your story is this: You aren’t sure if it’s your child, which is why you never mentioned it. Then, once you got married, things changed with your ex, making you think that it might be your child. Regretfully, you were not able to reveal this to your wife before she discovered it, which is the source of conflict in the marriage and why you are seeking annulment. And now, seeing how it’s caused you problems, you’re filing (it will help if you’ve already done so by this point) a Suit Affecting Parent Child Relationship with the ex on the contingency that a court-ordered (the key-word here) paternity test suggests that the child is yours. You will need a lawyer to set all this up. You cannot, I repeat CANNOT do it by yourself because family law is intentionally complex in order to trip you up. Get a lawyer.
Do NOT form a relationship with this child. Don’t make a paper trail that could suggest such a relationship has been formed either.
Don’t make any verbal agreements with anyone on anything, especially any agreements to pay back anything. In fact, stop talking to everyone involved. Your ex, your wife, your in-laws, the child. Everyone. The only way you talk is though a damn lawyer sitting with you.
Do that and you should come out okay, but trusting anyone, yourself included, is a big no-no. In fact, you’re probably the person you should least trust, since you are the one who got yourself in this fix in the first place.
Hell naw, fuck that shit. They paid for the wedding because they wanted to. Don’t give them shit. I guarantee you this woman isn’t going to cut you any slack. Keeo what you can and move on.
So NOW you have a sense of duty and honor? Why are these hoes playing you like a pawn shop guitar? You are basically Scarlet O’hara in this story. You are 32, you are gonna have to man up if you want a woman to respect you and not walk all over you. I’m married and I don’t spend alone time with women who aren’t my wife. What if this kid isn’t even yours?
I’m still trying to figure out if he fucked this chick or not. It’s still bad either way, but his wife really can’t complain about shit since she went ahead and married this dude without knowing all his shit.
SRK members spend enough time reading stories about the absolute worst case scenarios in divorce court so don’t bother getting a lawyer and just listen to whoever on here sounds the most confident about what they are saying.
I agree with the notion that if she is so quick to accuse you of shit and already wants a divorce then she’s probably not worth it. Rethink the entire relationship in general. Has she really seemed like someone worth keeping? That’s something you have to figure out on your own. As for paying the family back I understand you probably feel bad about them wasting that much money but ultimately it was their own money and they decided to spend it on their little girl’s special day. It’s not your responsibility to pay them back. If you feel you must then you can surely pay them back in some other way.
As for the pending fatherhood. Keep your butthole tight and hope the test comes out good.
Ummm… no. I’m actually living the shit. And I can tell you all the things I did wrong that I wish I did right. One of them was trying to appease people and being selfless. You cannot do that in a divorce, no matter how wrong you are. Family courts will fuck you.
Pherai trollin. Don’t do that shit man, dude is making enough mistakes as it is on his own.
I’m not calling anyone out specifically (I didn’t even read the second page of this thread), but there is really only one good piece of advice this dude needs and thats to lawyer up. It’s hard for me to even believe someone who thought it was a good idea to talk through his legal woes on a video game forum isn’t a troll.
Not a troll in the slightest. Just thought I’d share with some strangers before I share with the actual people in my life.
This sucks and lots of people with similar interests go through same shit in life.
That’s all. It sucks and truly both women are hurt and I’m just wanting to hear what people have gone through.
Cause truthfully, I could never of dreamed of this drama in my entire life.
