LMFAO @ your whole post.
We agree to disagree. I should not have children if I dont know how to treat them. You sound like one of those parents I read about whose children kill them.
a pre-req for these threads should be a poll of “do you have kids?”
those who vote no are immediately banned from posting in the thread
Do bastard kids I don’t know about count?
not if you dont know about them
I recant all my earlier posts then.
This whole time I thought wrapping that shit tight was the right thing to do… clearly I have been a fool.
Whether or not someone has kids is irrelevant. As I said before, assessing a situation doesn’t require someone to have gone through the exact same thing. It only requires a brain. If you don’t want an opinion on what you do with your kids, then don’t post in this thread. I see you as the one who’s crying a river because someone’s opinion isn’t congruent with yours.
If you, as an adult, couldn’t use your brain to resolve a conflict with a child and instead had to resort to physical violence because you couldn’t think of anything better, then you fucked up. Hitting kids may teach them to fear you, but it doesn’t teach them why what they did was wrong. Eventually, the hitting will become ineffective as the child gets old enough to question it on top of just too big to be intimidated by it anymore. Personally, I think it’s hilarious when a kid hits their parents back. The parents have only themselves to blame. After all, they just ingrained in the child’s mind that it’s okay to resort to physical violence when someone pisses you off.
Thats why you tell them what they did wrong after you smack them, duh.
this.
I don’t have kids but I have three younger siblings and I know that sometimes there is just no reasoning with a child. That only happens when they’re older, if that.
What kind of strawman bullshit is this? Not one single person has said that you shouldn’t discipline your kids. We’re saying there are more intelligent ways of doing so that don’t have the negative effects of spanking. What’s with you people thinking that the only two ways of parenting are physical abuse or just letting your kids run wild?
This line of thinking is beyond ridiculous. So you are willing to completely ignore the evidence that striking a child significantly increases the chance they will become aggressive, develop mental problems and have a lower IQ because you’re a parent with no patience?
But whatever, like the other guy says, the world needs more strippers and porn stars, but if you have a son that tries to steal my stereo I’m going to Trayvon Martin that asshole.
I will. Because in the culture that I grew up hella motherfuckers got smacked and not smacked. Shit, I had my best friend slapped in front of me because he decided to question his mom. Blankly drawing at striking a child without explaining anything else about how they were brought up doesn’t explain much of anything.
I wouldn’t care what parent’s do to discipline their children. Obviously there’s a difference between discipline and being abusive. Breaking a kid’s arm over spilled milk would be abusive but a couple red marks across the ass wouldn’t be straight up abusive and if you think so, I’ve got the world’s smallest violin for you to borrow.
At my late 20’s I still don’t like the idea of devoting my life to kids yet. So where I stand is of course what other parent’s do to theirs. It’s their kids, let them discipline how they want to.
If you think you need to hit your kid you’re an awful parent.
Funny, because to me you sound like one of those parents I read about whose children kill them. If that’s how my life is to end, it certainly won’t be because I abused them. Stay free.
And in some cultures, women have restricted rights and they, along with their children, are often abused not only physically, but sexually to boot!
But does that make it right?
So if, say, a child bring a stick into the house and is playing with it. Pop don’t want him to do this, but have never conveyed this before. Regardless, he yells at him, takes him into the kid’s own room, drops the tyke’s pants and swats him on the butt with it. Hard enough to break skin across both cheeks.
But let them discipline how they want to, right?
100% of bad parents are people who have kids; 0% of people who don’t have kids are shitty parents. I think your logic is flawed.
Not nearly.
Lol what? I think you kinda missed the point of “there are a lot of other shit that happens when raising a child that does not involve hitting them; what were they taught/how etc contributes a whole lot more than the mere act of striking a child.” So since a lot of those studies constantly fail to explain how is it that conflict resolution worked in the cases and a bunch of other important shit, to me there are enough holes in them to simply say that smacking a kid makes them rotten.
Seriously though, stop being fucking stupid.
Your question is boarder line to this:
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Nothing wrong with spanking your kids to set them straight. Though once I hit like 2nd grade my folks pretty much hit me up with just punishments which is agonizing as hell cause it was always the usual punishment of I couldn’t go outside, play video games and I couldn’t watch tv for two weeks. Brutal stuff but it does make you not want mess up again.
This thread is full of messed up people. I hope they never procreate.
I think hitting your kids is okay under strict circumstances.
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When to spank a child. Spanking is not the end all, be all punishment for a kid. I’m convinced spanking is only needed when the child knowingly rebels against or talks back to their parents. If the kid didn’t know their actions or speech was disrespectful, that was their only warning.
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Your feelings. Under no circumstances should you strike your kid in anger. Kid’s will drive you nuts, but do not punish them (especially physically) under clouded judgement. You love your kids, and you want them to grow up and become someone greater than yourself. You’re only doing this because you love your kids, and they need to learn that justice must be served.
If they screw up because of their own choices or accidents, physical punishment shouldn’t be option.
IDK I’ve never raised a kid but it sounded right in my head 
I will not hit kids that aren’t mine.