She works with you.
She is still seeing her boyfriend.
She still loves her boyfriend.
You’re going to secluded places with her straight after work.
Her boyfriend ( Rightfully) would be mad if he found out.
Worst case scenario, you sleep with her and she accuses you of rape. Though if worst cases scenarios aren’t your thing, getting your ass whipped by an angry boyfriend and fired for sexual harassment if you remain persistent are strong possibilities.
All I ask is if she’s interest or not… Don’t give me a list of worst scenarios man. Haha.
She’s not the type that would snitch. I just know. So don’t ask how. Haha. The boyfriend only visits on Sundays, so no big deal.
So, is she interested or not? If interested, what can I do to laid her?Lets be real, if she cheats, it’s not my fault. It’s the boyfriend’s fault for not doing his job as her man, not mine. So don’t be putting your nuts on my face like it’s my fault. Haha.
You asked 2 questions. The answer to the first question should make the answer to the second question irrelevant.
Honestly in my eyes she already cheated.
In my eyes you also sound kinda desperate to keep going after her. You work together and knows she has a bf…this will not end well.
Sent using my Evo…not the 3D ish…eff 3D!
I am certainly a dude, but I’m a far cry from the raw raw must get laid testosterone crowd. Honestly if I’m booking the getaway and I ask if we should get one room or two, and she says one – I would see that as being rather telling. If sex didn’t happen I wouldn’t be angry or disappointed, just genuinely surprised. Then again I think I’m a tad older than most here, so it might skew things.
^ she could not want you spending extra money, she could also assume you could just snuggle since you two never did the deed prior, her limit could even be heavy petting.
I say this time and time again…women and men communicate in different ways…this is one example to add to my point.
She apparently doesn’t think so, haha. I already got a girl, but I want to see how far I can get with her because a lot of guys are after her at work but she doesn’t give them the time of day. I don’t mind a little challenge. The semester is starting soon, once it starts, I’ll probably stop going after her and go after girls on campus instead.
The irony is… I think a lot of guys know she snuck into my car after work, now they give me this weird ass look like “u’re a dick for going after her”, when they had their chance but got rejected. So, now I’m up to game. Haha. It’s all fun and games for me. Once she shows any signs of hesistation, then I will back off, otherwise it’s on like donkey kong. My goal is atleasy 2nd or 3rd base, for now atleast.
She already showed signs of hesitation when she dodged your kisses earlier.
But, you have your mind set in what you want to do…shrug
If I were you, I’d back up so fast. Not only are you treading in territory you have no idea about, you are going to fuck up your work environment, possibly end up getting fired, and you’re probably going to catch a mean ass whooping, Rodney King sized ass whooping from the boyfriend. It seems like all you care about is getting laid anyway, that’s easy, go find a single woman to do that with. Don’t be the one to fuck up someone else relationship
Its on you you know right from wrong, if you believe in karma then you know how this could come back. You down the road wifey a chick next thing you know ur chick is doing this with another dude. Would you feel like damn i should have stepped my game up or would you just be on some i slacked off dude got me?
Its pretty much your move if she just throwing out oh i got a bf but still flirting heavy with you then its on you to make a move or go after whatever you trying to do with this chick.
I agree with you but we cant put it all on Wander she get some blame too if she didnt put her foot down. chances are she has cheated in the past before Wander’s situation w/her.
Don’t forget this part:
What if your “girl” did to you what this coworker is doing to her dude?
As a matter of fact, why do YOU even have a gf?
Oh she takes a good portion of blame as well, but I’m just saying, don’t be THAT guy. Let it be someone else, don’t air yourself out like that. I’m sure she has cheated in the past if she’s acting like that, and that’s a scary thing, you don’t know who’s she’s been with or what she could have or do to you.(STD, claim sexual harassment, lie to the boyfriend and provoke an ass whoopin 10x worse)
Soon or later, shit is just going to hit the fan. Two people dating in the workplace, cheating on their girlfriend/boyfriend. Someone’s either going to lose their job or some teeth.
probably both.
?uestion cause I have a situation going on too.
One of my best female friends is about to become homeless. Her living situation is super fucked up. I have extra space and she asked me would i think about helping her out for a month or more with a place to stay.
My problem is she has a bf, out of respect I told her to talk over her situation with him. They been together for yrs I dont know him so i dont know his character but she love him. So Im like cant you and him move in together?
She told me he isnt ready, that he wants them to get married first and all that. I was like ok that dont sound like BS to you? ya’ll can just go b4 a judge then do a traditonal style wedding later right? She tells me thats what she suggested to him but he didnt want to do that.
I told her you told him that you are about to be homeless right? She was like yea but his parents would have a problem with me moving in with him. I was like he make decent money tho right? She tells me yea…
So i told her you need to make a move with your bf.
Ive known her for like 12yrs i would think since she been with that dude for 4 or 5yrs it would be no question that he’d make it happen.
I think he B.S’n her but thats not my lane to cause reasonable doubt in her relationship. I told her if you told your bf that you was staying with another dude wouldn’t he flip out? I know i would. I remember back maybe 2 or 3yrs agoi met her for drinks and he was blowing up her phone like why you out drinking with some other dude.
I dont even see her like that, but i dont want to see her homeless.
Some of the dumbest shit I’ve ever seen put into words. If she cheats it’s her fault for being a piece of fucking garbage. Sure it’s situational, maybe her boyfriend isn’t doing things right, but even then she’s 100% at fault.
Are you to blame even a little bit if she does cheat? No. Do I think you’re kind of a scumbag after reading all of this? Maybe. Put half this effort into a chick without a boyfriend.
He seems to be a crappy boyfriend if he isn’t willing to help his soon-to-be homeless girlfriend, let alone be pissed over her having a close friend helping her out and offering to put a roof over her head. Personally, I don’t think you even have to disclose that to him, seeing he isn’t doing anything about it other than wanting to do everything traditionally. Why would she want to marry a guy like that? If he lives on his own, why does what his parents think matter? Her boyfriend needs to realize that you’re just helping out a friend, and nothing more.
@rodimus you made the right decision telling her to talk it over with your bf…especially after that stunt with the phone calls. Marriage is not that cut and dry…there could be other reasons why he cannot marry her…but barring any extenuating circumstances he does need to shit or get off the pot. That is for HER to figure out though.
You cannot have her move in with a controlling boyfriend in tow…if you have known her 12 years and she has dated him for 5, there is a reason why you do not know him and I am sure it is him. Sounds like a controlling prick who will probably start drama in your house. I do not know how close you are to her…but if her situation could make your peaceful domain no longer peaceful…then you have to put you first.
Maybe you can take some time to help her situation by looking for other ways to help her . She doesn’t have any girl friends or brothers/sisters willing to help? I don’t think you should move her in, it looks like her dude is just looking for a reason to start some shit.