The Relationship/Dating Thread: We will argue over your issue like we're your parents...even yell

General Discussion
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Yea she know me I worked too hard for my peace and Im not about to have any drama. He still lives with his parents but from what i was told he makes enough to support them. I was also trying to figure out why hasnt he moved out already but idk know and Im not about to ask. So Im just like ok if you plan on marrying this dude down the line why not just pool ya’ll money together now since you gonna be homeless.

I have only met a few of my female friends bf’s so with her her last bf we was cool but this dude idk about him so Im not gonna throw him under the bus just yet.

We share a mutal friend who has space also I asked her and she was like they aren’t as cool as they use to be but she would think about it. Mind you that mutal friend has only known her for like 4yrs i think.

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Oh trust fam I have, we share a mutal friend so Im trying to see if that girl will put her up for a lil bit. Her fam is all west coast and her fam here dont have the space because they all married kids etc.

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Rodimus, it sounds like you’re doing all you can man. I don’t understand why her man won’t step up to the plate, but that’s between him and her. Smh. Sucks to see friends in situations like that.

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First up… if thats ya friend. You give it to her like a friend. If you value that friendship then it simply comes out to this…an this is YOU simply being a man:

" you door is open… but he can’t come"

Simple as that. You don’t know him like you stated. Its no drama cause its your spot and if he does catch a issue then it falls on her. She also need to be reminded to tap her REAL last resort HER PARENTS. If she hasnt done so she needs too… an she clearly doesnt trust ol’ boy and I PUT MONEY ON IT she will drop his ass cause she is at a point where life hits you hard and you REALIZE who is there an who isnt. That will click into her head unless he does have some control over her be it sex or false promises (especially if she is making excuses for him)… Till then you can extend your hand but you make sure you lay down ground rules. Either she will do what she needs to do to re-up in life or she can be stuck like hell. An don’t be afraid to ask question more than what your doing… if your going to open your home up you need to know how she lives… what she does… is she working to get back on her feet…etc. etc (trust me if she is serious those questions shouldnt be a problem).

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On no doubt fam you know I already asked all those questions, she moved back in with her mom about 2yrs ago to help out cause her mother fell sick. So at the same time her aunt moved in also cause she was going thru a divorce. The aunts got the place sorta unsafe because of the husband etc. I dont know all those details.

So the aunt ended up moving her kids in and one of my friends nieces i guess is like 14 or 15 and just had a child. The father is some 16 or 17 yr old and his fam is causing problems what have you.

My friend cant take it helping her mom and having to i guess deal with the aunts non sense too, some type of fight happend and now her Mom sorta filled on her cause of her sis the aunt.

The rest of her fam is on the west coast so cause of her work and stuff she cant just up and leave. I told her Im not dealing with her bf but if you really serious about him then you gotta get it thru his head that you have no options really.

So idk what she gonna do I wanted some peeps views on should i fall back if she dont get that her bf aint really trying to help her living situation.

I told her that my door is open and she offered to help with my rent but we friends I already discussed with her if she did move in with me what things i would need her to pay.

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I just hate to see my friends stuck especially if they are hard working you know. Its one thing if i can clearly see that they aint doing shit but thats not the case with her. I think in 2months she’d have her own place like she use to.

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Understood. You can open your door you just make sure you state the main thing about the boyfriend your unknown with. If she feels your being on some ‘parental guidance’ type shyt you make sure you slap the shyt out of her with the point he is not making a single effort to SUPPORT her as a man should and as a woman expects…

I don’t want to see my people out either… but if they cant recognize when they need to ‘restart’ and ‘ride that shyt out’ I can’t help them. If they choose a ‘lover’ that isnt the main person trying to assist them in some type of way (being grown for one) over someone that is helping and simply asking to keep STRANGERS out of your home… then so be. Life will show them how such a mistake it is and YOU cant lose any sleep or feelings over it. I learned at age 15 “you cant worry about a friend that cant recognize help”

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granted you’re a girl…but NIGGA PLEASE!

lol petting, haven’t heard that since middle school health class. snuggling is a post-coitus activity, if you ain’t getting the buns then your ass shouldn’t be snuggling a cot-damn thing.

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Here’s a vid starring my cousin: [media=youtube]nlCSk-TFMfc[/media]

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Simple an plain im not goin on no ski trip- weekend away with hopes that im tappin something… sorry. If i havent gotten the tail prior to a weekend away then its not goin down… dont care if i do love to ski/snowboard…

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Like I said I wouldn’t be offended, just incredibly puzzled. If she said we’re not having sex because she’s an undercover agent investigating reports that the owners of the mountain are smuggling diamonds using the snow and she needed a cover, I’d be like “woa…” but it would make more sense.

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i just busted out laughing at work…

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@TheWanderer: Are you cool with some dude doing the same shit to your girl? If so, then, why are you in a relationship?

I understand that, sometimes in long relationship, things can get stale and boring. So, looking for the next best thing seems fun and exciting. But, obviously her boyfriend and her are doing something right if they lasted for 5 years… But, put it this way, would you like to know that you possibly helped destroy a relationship because of some pussy? Possibly getting your ass kicked by said girl’s enraged boyfriend?

If you answered yes to to any of those questions, then proceed to enter a possible situation that could be avoided if you stopped thinking with the head in your pants. /dumbass

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See…men and women…different beings.

Sent using my Evo…not the 3D ish…eff 3D!

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Women can’t be homeless. It’s almost impossible for that to happen in Americunt.

Their hasn’t been a homeless woman since the 80’s except for the one chick that lived in a van with her mom and then they ended up becoming rich because she wrote about the struggle of being a woman that didn’t use her pussy to get by in life. True story.

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Fuuuuck. Saw this beautiful redhead today, and she flirted with me at the liquor store. But I didn’t act on it. Was buying rum on the way to my grandmas deathbed. My mind wasnt in it.

I am severely regretting it

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It sounds like you’re overly cynical. Although I think that mentality is partially to blame for how fucked up people can be I also understand why anyone would be that way but that’s definitely not me. To answer your question I’d say whatever the truth is even if it lessens my chances with a woman because I don’t think there’s ever a good reason to lie and I’m pretty sure she would agree.

Most of the time you have no way of definitively finding out if a person is lying or not you just look at the situation and either believe them or not. I choose to give her the benefit of the doubt in this case.

She texted me on new years day and called me tonight apologizing again for not talking to me more because she moved again, we had a good talk though I had to cut it real short to see The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo which was incredible:love:

Also Thurst is right even if she’s fucking other people it’s not my business since she’s not my gf, although lying about said fucking would be obvious grounds for kicking her to the curb.

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It’s sad. No matter how cracked out and nasty an old ass hooker is she’ll still get picked up by SOMEBODY.

I was driving around downtown here heading to the exes(this was when we were dating don’t send me to my room Qrazy) and it gets real busy down there when there’s a hockey game going on. So I took one of the nasty side streets where the broke hookers walk.

I pulled up to a four way stop next to one of the nastiest looking ladies I’ve ever seen. So naturally I locked my fucking doors. I’m waiting for these two girls to my right to go, cause they stopped first, and they pull out to turn down the street I’m on. All of the sudden they STOP, in the middle of the intersection. Like I was gonna pull out into them or something! So I’m still full stopped, I’ve got these dumb broads with their headlights in my eyes and this nasty hooker walking close to my passenger door and looking in my car and shit. So now these girls are looking at me all fucking weird and I’m waving them on frantically getting ready to floor it out of there.

Women drivers made me look like I was picking up some gross old lady…

I forgot to quote his post but this was directed at GeneralDs post. Just realizing this looks real off topic just by itself like this…

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This is pre-relationship ish, though, it seems like this would be the best place to post this. I have absolutely nothing against children. I absolutely love them, but every single woman that seems attracted to me has anywhere from one kid to a handful of them. I have not yet met a woman in the last year and a half who did not already have a child. I am a no drama, no games type of dude, I’m pretty much straight forward with all my problems, don’t really get lost in my feelings either. The women I am meeting really are more mature than the girls my age, since they all seem to be more worried about what kind of fun they are gonna have next. The real problem that I feel like I’m running into is that alot of these chicks will try to take advantage of my good nature

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Asked her to meet me in my car again, she said she can’t cuz her cousin is riding with her to work. I said drop her cousin off and come meet me. After work, she quickly rushed her cousin home and thirty minutes later, she texted me asking if I’m waiting for her, while I was getting gas and about to head home. I thought she was going to drop her cuz off and go home to change then meet me, not drop her cuz off and then come meet me.

I picked her up and held her hand as usual, this time she didn’t push me away, but held it out when I went to reach for it. We went bowling, I put my arms around while we walk inside the place, she smiled and tried to shook me off. We started bowling and I tried to kiss her on the cheek. She liked it. Her hand got tired, so we went back to the place we meet at. Before I got there, I took her somewhere dark and just turn my car off. We sat there and talked about random stuff and sex.

While we were talking, I would lean in, about 6-7 inches away from her face, while looking down her shirt and lips. She just laughed and we continued talking. During the conversation, I put my hand on her thigh and fixed her shirt. I fixed her hair while kissing her on the cheek. I told her we should play a game, she said ok.
I said if I guess right, what color her bra is, then I get a kiss. At first, she said no no no. I keep convincing her, so she finally say yes. I guessed right and she wouldn’t do it. She said she owed me one.

We kept talking while I keep trying to kiss her. Forehead, ear, neck, hair, while my hand on her thigh. It was getting too late, and I have to get up early to drive to NY so I had to let her go.

P.S I feel like I have won the competition at work. Too bad none of the guys at work know. Haha. I think if I stick around any longer, she’ll fall for me. Because during our conversation I asked her if she got feelings for me, she said she’s not telling with a big ass smile…For some reason, as I was driving home, I thought about my girl and what will happen if I keep this up. I think I will back off for a while now and not mack on her no more. It was fun while it lasted. :slight_smile: