This got me upset as well. This guy once asked me what shade of brown my penis was, and I was like “seriously? Wanna go to Home Depot and put my penis on that scanner and see if a color matches?” So we did, and apparently my penis color is “Pumpkin Blush” and then he asked me what shade of pink my nipples where…
Side question. Im not a superficial dude I’ve dated chicks all sizes shapes what have you but I have this new chick I’ve been talking to shes seems cool, educated, cute etc but here are some things about her
- shes bald head like clean bald she has that condition called aproceia. I didn’t notice because she wears really good wigs and most black chicks wear some sort of hairpiece but bald? I just dont know if I could deal with that especially waking up to sometihng like that.
2.shes allergic to dogs and I plan on owning some dogs too.on top of that shes allergic to nuts,seafood, and some other ish.
3.She’s hella clingy, Its only been 2 weeks but I called her “baby” one night when we got off the phone and then the next day she was on some “yeah I can’t believe you called me baby,I feel so special” type. Mind you I still haven’t decided if I want to official date her but now shes catching feeling for the dude. she even calls like crazy.
I mean overall I think I could work with the baldness I think I could because shes cute and everything but this whole clingy thing is starting to worry. There Isn’t anything wrong with it but when someone is blowing up your phone 6 times a day its kind of those tell tell signs. Hell I don’t even know if im asking for advice or just wanting a confirmation of where this is going.
oh man sounds like she wanted the opposite and now shes tired of that and wants the nice guy.
probably is to her though.
Another 20 yr old is digging me but I’ve gone through the 20 yr old’s already and I hate how it ends up. It’s sex everyday for the first two years, then while she’s around 21-23 yrs old she’ll continue to want to keep going out while the sex dies down to about a weekly thing.
That sounds like a “security blanket” line. Like someone else stated, she tried to dabble in with other guys and it didn’t work out. This situation can go either way.
A: You get back together and she has a greater appreciation of you and the relationship. Shit turns out great. Happy ending. +100 EXP points
B: You get back together and nothing changes. You get back in the same cycle and she wants to leave you again. Back to square one. Do Not Pass Go, Do Not Collect $200.
Some guys don’t realize saying “I love you” and complimenting EVERYDAY can sound dry, old and repeated. Almost routine. The guy might be putting his heart and soul into it, but we can’t tell. We hear it everyday. Comes off with no significant meaning or whatever. In your case, might wanna pump the breaks on that a bit, Rico Suave.
Just how guys say things girls wanna hear, the same goes vice versa. Maybe she really wanted to start a family and the whole nine. But with this case, sounds like she scared herself.
Definitely tread with caution. Trust me. I was that girl some years ago and things didn’t turn out for the better with exes. Just more time wasters and annoyance. Nevertheless, it sounds like you were a good guy but she got bored. But, if she was able to leave you like that, what makes you think it won’t happen again? From my point of view, shit sounds sorta eh. Deal with the situation with a 10 foot pole and see if it’s really worth putting yourself out there for her. This would be the scenario where she needs to do the chasing to win you over. And I don’t mean her throwing her pussy around like it’s the end all of be all healer. Be careful and hope whatever you choose works out for the best.
I’m sure its in this thread somewhere but what’s your opinion on texting girls that’s just your acquaintance/schoolmate? This girl Im trying to see we would say hi and hug (i initialize the hug, but she always makes eye contact, smiles and initialize the conversation), talk about school, I would joke around with her (for example, she was in my math class but she dropped, so I said “oh you’re just being a crybaby” and she said “no i’m not!” and goes along with my (bad) jokes haha)
now the semester is coming to an end, and I really need to make a move. I have her number awhile ago (I initialize it) and haven’t said anything since. how should i text her? or should i just man up and call her? what is a clever/funny thing to say? or should i just go straight to the point and ask her to hang out? and if so… where to hangout?
That’s my next point, when you ask girls to hang out… where and what activity do you guys do? I know I’m not a shy guy, I can talk to girls and I can sense if they’re liking/rejecting to me but I can never close the deal.
thanks yo
[ninja edit] I don’t wanna make it sound like I have excuses, but I’m taking school seriously and I work on weekends. I don’t really have much free time since I’m always in the library. Is there a way to make that as your advantage when meeting a girl?
Pick a day that you aren’t busy and call her up and catch up for a few minutes then say “yo I’m free today we should hang.” Pick a time pick an activity like bowling or pool. Something that keeps you both active. And if she can’t hang then down trip over it. There are still women out there so you can still do your school and work thing.
Have you ever come to the point in a relationship (preferably long term ones) that seem to get stale/boring? And the newness of another person starts to become of interest?
biological urge behind that, i would imagine. i don’t think we’re really built for very long term relationships.
Perhaps. Or maybe got into one too early? Just sucks when you find another person you can connect with so well. Sorta why polygamy would be so ballin’. Instead of having that “one perfect someone” for you, you can have multiple that strike different dimensions of the personality, personal and (most likely) physical needs.
That’s just me.
opinions on whether it’s right to text or call is COMPLETELY result based. if you shoot a broad and she responds favorably and you get it popping then it was the correct move…if it goes south then it wasn’t. there’s no real rhyme or reason without more knowledge about the chick.
personally i’m a texting/skype/gchat/fb messaging type of nigga. i’m not really trying to talk to heaux on the phone. one of my boys is a phone talking-ass nigga and it seems to work out for him, so it’s really up to you.
dont get me started on this…
Yeah man… Sometimes, I wish I could wear blinders and soundproof headphones. Guys are both my kryptonite and my crack.
Sidebar: Hey Koop! I missed this thread and I missed some of you guys like whoa. Feel good to be back.
I’m curious to know what the Master Koop has to say.
Truth be told, I think it’s human nature to get bored with a significant other, but when things get that way, spend some time apart, make things fresh. If you’re getting bored with one another, you’re spending too much time together. That’s not healthy IMO.
Glad to have ya back!!!
Yeah… I have a lot of trouble. The words ‘get boring’ come very very quick and lately im tryin my damnest to not take the bait…
again dont get me started…lol.
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I know for me, I naturally get bored with things. Not just people. Sometimes art projects, majors (in college) music, television, games… Things just can’t keep my interest for awhile. I need something new. But once you get my attention, you got my attention, y’know?
But far as guys go? I’ve been through a lot in my little time on this Earth. Daiting wise, not sleeping around. Mainly because I get bored with 'em. I use to come with a disclaimer: If you don’t have my attention by the end of this week, consider us done.
Omg. This had me rollin’.
Too much too much…too fuccin much.
(you might scream yes at the monitor if you feel this or not… so here goes)
rant start
I think the part of getting bored is because we in relationships tend to unfold everything so damn fast. We don’t allow space… we don’t allow a learning process an we don’t allow things to blossom. from women who present a clingy mentality to guys who want to know what this chicks ability in the bed we dont allow ourselves to learn… just like information we search we want things off the break…instant
by month 9 to 11 we’ve basically given all information, skill, style…away. By that same time we’ve barely given space to each other an wit these smart phones an “inna-netz” (thanks unc!!) the word space is damn near non-existent. The word communication becomes a setup for arguments… its hard to literally understand the term “I miss you” an in due time within year 2 (if you made it that far) it becomes boring…
her: i miss u… do u miss me
me: no
her: ??? but we havent seen each other all week?!?!?!!
me: you texted an called everyday… i dont think i went officially 24hours witout some form of communication…
argument ensues in 3…2…
i dont know if its this day of age but relationships have become more perk standard than actually enjoying each other…learning each other. keeping attention seems to get harder as time progresses in the relationship… an as that time progresses it seem like you begin to note the flaws that really irks you in your own way… from talkin ya head off to not giving you TRUE quality time. thus the attention span begins to drift soon as the next one says something that appeases the brain.
i tip my hat to you all that have relationships that holds the test of time. I truly do an slightly envious. Im working on it by slowing some of the things i do down… i think due to past women of my life an women i deal with now my communication has come 50 fold. im no longer mister ‘cold hearted’ an i try to express my reasoning behind my ‘leave me the hell alone for a few days’ EARLY in the game so there is a understanding… im noticing my attention span is sharpening and i don’t allow these ‘keep a eye on you tools’ (texting, facebooks, twitters…etc.) to become that marvel assist for me or the party im dealing with…
i have more but i type whats on the brain now… an when Neesa said what she said i understand 100% but ive been thru that an learned a LOT about myself in the process… an LEARNED a lot about the women ive chosen over time as well. i guess the older the wiser concept is coming full fold for me.
Koop: I totally agree, man. The internet and technology seems to become the death of the relationship. I remember when I bitched in here about him not texting me enough. I’ve acually gotten use to it and appreciated it. So when he does text me, it makes it more meaningful. As a female, that can seem like, “OMG. HE DOESN’T LOVE ME IF HE’S NOT TALKING TO ME EVERY FUCKING MINUTE OF THE DAY FOR LIKE EVER.” So glad to be over that part of my life. I appreciate myself in my lonesome a lot more than that. Guess it has something to do with being comfortable by yourself. I wasn’t always that way and felt that I could only be comfortable with another person (generally male). I must say, that can be the biggest downfall for some females.
I do think that shit does happen too fast. It’s like, “Okay… I know this, this and that about you… what’s next?” I think when it gets to the “What’s next?” part, it can become slightly problematic when there’s nothing next. Or at least to me.