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Yeah, it’s rough going without any, but I had to get away from all that to try to find something real. Macon ain’t shit anyway though so I probably should’ve kept doing what I was doing lol. Glad i’m getting the fuck outta this wack ass community.

How about we got the nerve to have a super hero? Macon Man. Google him. I’m for real. The creator of the comic book needs to be hung off a skyscraper by his nostrils

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that’s pretty much what I tried, cuz after I apologized I asked if I can see her to talk to her, but she didn’t respond.

also, this girl is hella shy. like, i’ll call her, and she’ll text me right after not picking up the phone. she aint with no dude, I’ll put any amount of money on that.

so it’s kinda tough to actually meet up with her. a friend of mine suggested writing a letter, or email, cuz it might be more fitting for her personality, since she’d feel more pressured being confronted str8 up by me. shrugs

agreed. but aye, girls are girls. this girl my dude is trying to get at, was texting him in the afternoon, even called him a couple times. he didn’t pick up or respond til like past midnight. why? he was sleepin. had a long day. but damn was she hella bitter towards him the next time he saw her. they’re good now, but still.

another girl cried bc her friends weren’t home to help her plan a surprise party for her roommate. thing is, her friends were at work, or in class. so when they came back she gave them the silent treatment. and all of’em proceeded to crying :looney:

lol @ mentioning the part about her cock blocker friends. I wonder how she’d react to that. I"ll give that one a lil more thought. other than that, I’ll keep what you said in mind.

also, about talking to her in person, it’s like I said in my response to Koop. I apologized yesterday and asked her if I can talk to her–nothing. I don’t wanna write a letter, or email, cuz I’d feel like a bitch. but if i try and fail at seeing her before I go home, there’s little else I can do.

thanks for the advice tho. if you guys know a surefire way to get her to respond to her texts and/or meet up with me so I can talk to her, that’d be helpful too.

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There’s this girl I have my eye on. I really like her and have even admit my feelings to her face to face. She said she was flattered for my honestly and it meant a lot to her. There is an age difference between the two of us (21 me, 25 her) and I told her if she was interested in a guy her age, or older I would understand. Said she wasnt against our age gap and didnt mind.

I really have strong feelings for her, not the kind where I’d want to get her into bed…real honest clean feelings. I really wish I could get her to feel the same about me, the way I do for her already. I cant force her, but I’m trying to win her over slowly :stuck_out_tongue:

Tried asking her out to go see Christmas lights this week, and maybe out for dinner while we’re at it. She was busy and couldnt go, didnt know if she was lying to me to make a excuse, or honestly busy. She didnt sound very excited either, but she was really exhausted from a long and tiring week. Guess I’m just confused since everything was going great between us before yesterday when she didnt seem too interested in talking or anything. I guess I can only just wait till we hang out again sometime, she was probably just exhausted and tired like she said…

Sucks she’s moving soon too :\

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It’s your choice but you have to ask yourself, what will things be like if I seal the deal with her? When women like her play ‘‘hard to get’’ they tend to expect the most in relationship and walk around with the attitude that you made them trust you only for you to crush their hearts any time they get upset over some bull shit.

Maybe I’m too cynical but I will always see it as a trap when women play hard to get in the sense that they want to put me in a situation where they can accuse me of sending mixed signals/deceiving them.

You don’t have to be that blunt, telling her that her friends are interfering is sufficient.

You shouldn’t have said the bold part. Shows a lack of confidence and it makes her aware of the fact that there is an age gap between the two of you.

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She always was aware of the age gap between us both from the start. I just was being honest at the moment I told her :\

Anyways she told me something like “I’ve only dated guys my age, or older than me in the past, but I’m not against dating a younger guy, after all you’re more mature than the previous creeps I’ve been with”

1466

You sure there’s not another guy involved? All the signs point towards something else taking up her time or her not being able to make up her mind. It sounds to me like she is keeping you on the back burner. Not being able to meet up or talk to her is pretty convenient for someone spending their time with someone else. How does she ever plan on having a relationship with anyone if she is afraid to be around people, unless its something about your personality that is overbearing to her. My guess is she doesn’t like to be confronted in person or on the phone because shes not a good liar.

I guess my main theory/point is that she obviously likes you if she keeps you around but it sounds to me like she has her eyes on another guy that she likes more than you and you might just be a backup plan. The biggest problem with “shy” girls is that they are afraid to express how they’re feeling or be honest in fear that they might hurt someone else’s feelings. Just meet up with her and find out what the fuck is up or get rid of her, that situation sounds like a nightmare.

edit: This gay dude, (probably bisexual) sounds like a problem. I don’t fully understand the situation at the party but it sounds like they came to that party with a strategy. Strategy being that the gay dude will always get in between you and being alone with that girl. You shouldn’t have apologized, the bitch stood you up and now feels like she is in the right for being upset with you now since she tried to reach out. She expects you to go to great lengths now to repair some bullshit that shouldn’t be an issue, I would avoid girls like that.

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His point was that your comment showed a lack of confidence. I wouldn’t worry to much about her passing up your offer to go out since she was exhausted, just try again. And when you actually go out with her show some damn confidence/maturity. And by that I mean stop acting like its so far-fetched of an idea for her to be seen in public with you.

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nah, there is no other dude. I know it’s hard to believe that I know this for a fact, since it could look like I’m “fooling” myself, but if you guys trust me on anything: THERE IS NO OTHER DUDE. I could tell you guys the whole long winded story, but nah, your guys’s advice so far has been good enough. there’s no need for the detailed situation. plus, some of it is kinda personal and none of my business (even tho I know why anyway) so yea, just gotta trust me on this one.

yea, I’ve thought about that. we’ll see :looney: and yea, I’ve already thought of a way to be less blunt about the cockblock situation, so that parts covered.

anyway, Imma see her 2mrw or tuesday. guaranteed. the only way I won’t be able to see her is if there is a higher power at work intentionally trying to stop me. otherwise, I got this shit.

1469

After reading your “spoiler” i’m more inclined to think that the girl and gay dude that were working so hard to keep you away from their friend are the problem. Maybe you did something to wrong them and they think they are protecting her. Its hard for me to tell if you are the alpha male type trying to get laid or the type that wants to treat a good girl right.

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If there’s one thing i hate and I don’t know whether its a game or not but its this idea that if i don’t let a chick look at my phone then i obviously have something to hide. Now i personally don’t mind letting a chick look at my phone, but again i really don’t get the purpose behind that?

1471

I never have anything personal on my phone ever, so if anyone wants to try and steal secrets or get dirt on me, they’ll be dissapointed.

1472

meh, people don’t respect privacy

1473

Sambo: dude stop wasting time, pick up your balls and tell her straight up if she is interested or not. If she is going to continue playing the yes and no game, or listening to her friends, why have your time wasted as well?

1474

Saying that would come off as a red flag to me. I do agree that saying that shows a lack of confidence and can come across as helpless. Just keep that in mind for the future. Let HER decide if she wants to go younger or older. Plus, 4 years isn’t that big of a deal. You’re both still within that similar mindframe of getting your shit together. Now if she was 35, then I’d wonder if she has some sort of control issues. But, that’s another story for another time.

Now, her change of attitude could be because she didn’t see you more than a friend. Or maybe she doesn’t want to get involved with anything since she is moving soon. What’s the point of starting a romantic relationship that’s only going to be temporary? The best thing you can do is try again and if it’s the same or similar response, then just back off. Just be mindful of your feelings as well as hers.

Hell, maybe she had her eyes set on someone else and you threw a monkey wrench into it. You won’t know unless you’re direct with it. Just not on that creeper status direct. Good luck and chin up.

I hate that too. I don’t have shit to hide, but still… I don’t like my boyfriend goes looking through my phone. It’s a once ina blue moon thing so, it’s not that bad. Just still bugs me a little. So I don’t look through his. Figured it’s a two-way street sorta thing. Wish more people (especially females) could respect that. If you’re always suspicious of your significant other, chances are the problem lies within the individual that’s on their paranoia shit.

Derp derp.

1475

How do you get a girl back that you have been with for two years that told you “I lost the spark”?

1476

How’d you “lose the spark” in the first place? Cause a lot of time, that shit ends up being a bad cycle and you’ll be back at square one and wishing you’d left well enough alone.

/real talk

1477

I don’t know. She won’t tell me, and also said she wishes the relationship could have lasted/misses me a lot/still thinks I’m the sweetest guy on the planet/gave her the best years of her life/etc. so I’m pretty much stumped.

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Did you stop trying to wow her? Did you guys become best friends and little else? Alot of the time it’s the little things. Telling her everyday she is beautiful. Taking her out. Trying new things together. One of my niggas basically stole a chick away from this dude who she was in a open relationship with. This dude was a really cool laid back dude. He was a really nice guy, but she told me she felt like her connection to him had lost it’s magic. Turns out all my friend did to win her over was pay her some real attention. He would compliment her everyday and just tell her how she made him feel. They also did shit together alot. Something that her ex never really did. Now it was his first relationship so he was a complete noob. Not really his fault. But check it…personality wise my nigga and her ex are basically the same dude. Laid back guys that are on the nerdy side and sweet. The main difference was how each guy treated her.

Food for thought my nigga. But if she’s spouting how she misses you and all that then it’s sign that she probably wants to try again she’s just afraid that the spark won’t return and you guys will have a repeat break up.

Proceed with caution.

But real talk you are just gonna ignore this shit and fuck her brains out like a moron and make shit way more complicated then it has to be. Ignorant ass niggas I swear. smh.

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Oh shit. It’s EL Good games the other night, brother haha.

Anyway… Man… I told her every day how beautiful she is, how much I love for, and care for her with every fiber of my being. I was a real gentleman to her. She even at one point told all her friends and family how she wanted to get married to me eventually and start a beautiful family. I don’t know how to approach this at all, and I don’t want to lose her like this as she has given me the best years of my life as well. I’m hoping for some sort of Christmas miracle here.

I’m not the kind of guy that just fucks her brains out like that and makes things worse. The sex is the least important thing to me at this point. I just want to work all of this shit out.

EDIT: I also did take her out quite a bit. We used to go to animecons together. We first met at one, and I’d cosplay Vega for her.

1480

No idea how much this irritates me. I think what bugs me the most is the hypocrisy of it. Asking to look through my phone is a sign of distrust which I can understand. I mean it doesn’t exactly make a lot of sense to go through my phone as I’d likely delete any incriminating evidence but that’s not really the point.

What bothers me is when the girl later has the audacity of saying ‘‘Why don’t you trust me’’ when it comes to you not telling them personal aspects about your life. I find it unreasonable that some women expect you to trust them more than people you have known for 15 years when you have known them for what 6 weeks.