Do you ever hang out with someone that you used to hang out with when you were younger and all of a sudden you realize that you have surpassed that person in certain aspects? I just find it weird that there are people whom I’ve hung out with back when I was a freshman in high school (in 1997) and when I see them now, it’s exactly how it was 15 years ago.
‘Damn…remember that time back in high school when I fucked that girl in the P.E. locker rooms?’
‘Dude…that happened back in 1997. You are now pushing 30. Isn’t it time to grow up?’
Personally, I truly believe that you are who you hang out with. I’ve done a great deal of soul searching the past few years and I feel 90% comfortable with who I am (everyone has things they can improve on) so when I see posts on Facebook from people I’ve known forever and while I don’t want to say I’m better than them, I feel as though that, in terms of thinking and using logic, that I’m better.
I think I’ve just grown up. I don’t listen to the radio. I’m not on Twitter and I think Nicki Minaj is the utmost in awfulness.
Is it wrong to think that you’ve outgrown your friends? Or is this what is known as growing up?
Hrm, I’ve lost plenty of acquaintances over the years but the guys who I expect to see die or me die have been around. They’re the ‘friends-and-family’ type of friends.
No, but it is wrong to think you’re better than anyone - especially for said reasons you listed:
However, I do think everyone goes through the phase where they’ve become the person they’re going to be (at least for that point in time) and look at the people they hang out w/ and feel like they need to move in a different direction. I have friends from HS on my FB that send me the stupidest stuff and I think to myself, “I want nothing to do w/ this or you anymore”. Now I don’t think that makes me better than them, it just means that we’re moving in different directions and there’s nothing wrong w/ that.
Though I wish I had the opportunity to bang(must be hot) chicks in the locker room, I wouldn’t brag about it now unless the quality of chicks has grown dramatically.
I think you are confusing friends with acquaintance. Is this guy someone you can all on whenever to hang out and talk about anything? You’ll let him borrow money?
I got a phone call at about 3am when I was sleeping and I heard “Meet up with us at the armory, bring your board”. I figure, sweet, I’m moving next week and I have a chance to skate with a bunch of old friends before I leave, I change my clothes and skate down to them. I get there and there’s no skating to be had, only drunk wrestling, a few years ago I would have been stoked and asking for beers, but last night I just wanted to skate. My friend Dan got DDT’d on concrete (top of skull meets ground) by another friend of mine and I felt like it just wasn’t the place for me anymore, and made me more resolute in my decision of moving on and moving in with my girlfriend.
There is nothing wrong with feeling like you’ve ‘outgrown’ someone. That’s like saying you are wrong for having standards, which isn’t for anyone to decide except for you. I view ‘growing up’ as a matter of gaining experiences [not relative to time] and polishing your standards. It really is a ‘‘what have you done for me lately?’’ situation. If the people around you serve no purpose to you, whatever the avenue, then it is pointless having them around. Personally, I know what I bring to the table and what lengths I would go to for someone I care about or have use for. You get what you put in, and when you don’t, you get put out. You’ll be hard pressed to find someone who will meet all your standards but if you have set your standards well, then meeting even a couple of them will still be something worthwhile. I’m surprised you even have those people on your Facebook - it doesn’t sound like they are relevant to your life at all. Well, I suppose it did lead you to create this thread…
my friends from high school/growing up are on the other side of the country, my friends from college are scattered all over the place but mainly on the other side of the country…yeah I don’t care if we aren’t on the same philosophical wavelength anymore…it would still be nice to hang with them sometimes. Count your blessings and don’t take your friends for granted.
i frequent lots of trashy dive bars and am buddies with people who have hit rock bottom in their life and who will brag about their sexploits in the past too, but they’re still good people. are they my best friends? no, but its always fun talking to people from all walks of life
the only people i actively try to not associate with do crystal meth and have done black tar heroine (thats when you smoke it instead of shotting it up with a needle … yeah) cause that’s not a cool story bro
“Understand that friends come and go, but for the precious few you should hold on. Work hard to bridge the gaps in geography and lifestyle because the older you get, the more you need the people you knew when you were young.” - Baz Luhrmann
Don’t go all diva on us, Zulu…it’s bad enough when women do it. If you are truly better than someone…you will already have eliminated them. Rule 13 of the Foot Clan code.
In some cases it is. Connotatively speaking to suggest that you’ve “outgrown” someone implies that you’re better than them which may be complete bullshit. Let’s say a couple of guys like to club, drink, and stay out all night. One day one of the guys decides he’s not about that anymore and stops, but the other guy keeps going. The guy who stopped didn’t “outgrow” the other guy. They grew apart. There’s nothing inherently wrong with clubbing, drinking, staying out all night. If the person can hold down a job, then more power to him. To think you’re better than someone just because they still enjoy activities that you don’t may make you a douchebag. Just because the guy will eventually get to the point where he doesn’t do that stuff anymore doesn’t mean he’s somehow on a lower tier than his buddy.
Banging broads in locker rooms, sounds like Just One of the Guys, or Can’t Buy Me Love. I guess if it was the 90s, more like Clueless or Bikini Carwash Company.
Can you be grown up and still play games like AE, SFxT or UMvC3? I guess there’s pressure in some states for people to get married and settle down real young.