Not listening to radio, using twitter or liking niki Minaj are signs you have grown up?
I think you might be wrong there.
I am not that dark. I am Sinckers in complexion. I am not Hershey’s Symphony Dark like some of these other dark asses.
Mullah: What I meant when I said that was I’m not focused on all things pop culture like so many other people. I have more important things to worry about.
What about people that shoot you in the face with a taser?
I would say I’ve stayed pretty close with most of my circlt of friends, since we all live in the same city. That being said though, people do move on in life towards different things. It’s just something you have to deal with on a basis as it happens.
You know, I was thinking about this. I have one “true” friend that I don’t want to let go of. We’ve been friends since we were 15 (17 years or so) and even though we have both changed we still keep in touch. The dude moved away, with his family (wife and kids) 6 years ago or so, out of state. He has different views on religion, politics, music, firearms…whatever. But we talk on the phone every few months and he always comes over here to visit me and catch up every holiday season.
I have no siblings or family other than the 3 people in my house, so he is really the only link left to my youth. He reminds me of great times I had when I was younger, times I had forgotten about. Reminiscing about the old days, with long time buddies, is really great, imo. Also, being able to talk about things like religion and politics with him, even though we have different opinions, is cool. I know that he will not hate me or stop talking to me just because we have different views. He’s a good friend and he respects my opinion and I his.
Friends like him don’t come along very often, he is that precious friend that I will not let go of.
/end weakness
When it comes to people, it’s part of life IMO. Everyone has paths that they go on, sometimes your path is the same and you will have great relationships during that time. But eventually for some, the path for them will veer off to another and might not be even parallel to yours. So you keep moving and keep those memories of good times. People come and go, and you have to accept it and move on. This is the reason why I don’t have a facebook anymore, the people that are important to me, will always be in direct contact via cell phone.
I understand the point you are making but it comes down to how the individual defines the term and carries it out. In my case, you set your standards/preferences and remain humble about them. ‘‘I am better than you’’ is not implicit in the term outgrow but I recognize that some will mean it that way. I do not believe in tying a negative connotation just because there are some people who do not communicate well. It’d be no different than implying that anyone who says ‘‘hi’’ to you, wants your sex right then and there. They said hi to me unsolicited, they must want me, right? A positive connotation to a greeting, equally misplaced. I do get your point, though. I wanted to clarify that the general use of ‘outgrow’ should not be a negative one implying right or wrong. It’s rarely that simple.
Even in your example, when one guy decides to cut back on the nightlife while the other doesn’t, it doesn’t mean that one looks down on the other or that they grew apart for that matter. He outgrew simply outgrew that hobby and they could still get along well in other ways.
Now, different story if he explicitly said to the other guy ‘‘You’re immature for still thinking this kind of thing is fun. I don’t want to be associated with you anymore.’’ In that case, guy may have set life standards but lacks humility. You can hold yourself to life standards you set but you cannot hold them over someone else’s head as if to say ‘‘You need to be here before I consider you an equal.’’
Unless someone has explicitly been condescending towards you, don’t make the assumption that they are. Do not assume someone is wrong but do not assume they are right either. Remain humble and take the undefined for what it is at face value. Why make something out of nothing, right?
It’s unfortunate that some people are careless with what they do and say but that makes it that more important for you to carry yourself well.
Cool. I would graciously accept and return the favour in kind. Not too keen on taking freebies…
omg i have not talked to my coworkers wife since im afraid next time she’ll shoot me in the balls or something
It’s fairly easy to look down on most people. Don’t give in
Seriously in life you’ll get one maybe two true good friends.
I outgrew them in maturity, that’s about it really. Doesn’t necessarily make them any less of my friends. Although, you do gotta drop them shady ass ones…you know, the no job, no car type dues who insist you give them a ride everywhere but won’t do shit for ya…yeah, they get dropped quicker than a chick fallin off stairs.
I feel my friends are outgrowing me 
Some people are extremely tough to get rid of, unfortunately. I can think of someone right now that you could dodge for YEARS… and years later the guy will still try and call you on occasion. Actually, “dumping” a bad friend might really be significantly more difficult (depending on the person, of course) than dumping an annoying bitch of a girlfriend. At least women can be pissed off enough to not ever want to speak to a guy again in life.
Happened to me about 5 years ago when I came back from Uni.
I have associates…im tired of being the first one to try to get everyone together…so I stopped…
if it wasnt for facebook, I would have never met anyone from my past
people come and go in your life, I once told an older coworker “dont be sad that im leaving, in five months you will forget I even existed”
Friendships come and go, it’s not nearly as big of a deal as some people make it out to be. If you need to routinely do maintenance get togethers in order to keep the “friendship” alive than chances are it isn’t worth it in the first place. Better to have a handful of close friends than an entourage of acquaintances, quality over quantity basically.
Exactly. Most people just want you to do everything first. That’s been pretty much every friend I’ve known.
yeah, i have always been the “organizer” for get togethers and i’m tired of that. i have not spoken to the deadbeat friends who are just waiting for something to happen. take the damn initiative to ask me out.
Im not trying to be a dick, but do you ever stop to think that these people (your friends I guess) you have to…be the one to get together/organize, are “outgrowing” you? I mean, thats why they never organize anything…
maybe. most of them have kids now and some are not really into the things we used to do in the past like play video games. it’s tough to just dump people you know your whole life.