Well i’m on the computer a lot and the other day was having a talk with my dad and basically he was telling me I needed to get my game up. He suggested online dating but i’m unsure of if I should do it or where to even start. I’m wondering what are the GD’ers opinions on this in Shoryuken forums?
Also hes a little funny video me and my friends put together about a girl he met through facebook and what ended up happening him
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Well, it’s nothing too complicated just be prepared to deal with some flaky ass people. But there are some diamonds in the rough who are worth the trouble. I’d recommend creating a profile on Plenty of Fish or OKcupid since they’re both free, unless you want to shell out some money.
i don’t think i can forgive myself for watching that video.
lulz, two minutes and thirty seven seconds of your life you’ll never get back…
The way society is today, I think online dating sites is pretty acceptable. Yeah, some people look down on you, but think of the convenience factor and expenses. Going to a club, dropping loads of money (getting in, drinks, transportation, etc.), and getting countless rejections.
At the very least, you can use the internet to indeed “step your game up.” Figure out how to talk to girls. Try different styles of talking. Hell, be an utter dick to some and see if it works.
Chicks really seem to go for guys who are complete dicks, sadly and unfortunately.
Who needs a heart… when a heart can be broken OHHHHHHH!
Online dating is stupid.
I tried it about a year ago after breaking up with an ex I’d been with for a few years. Things to consider. Women on an online dating site are much more fickle than women you’d meet irl until you actually meetup with them. Basically have to hit shit out of the ballpark in your first couple messages or just make them wet at the sight of your picture as most of the decent looking ones get hit up by literally dozens of guys a day. You also gotta be careful because some women aren’t interested in ever meeting irl they just want the attention so generally I recommend trying to get a number or meetup pretty quickly.
To be honest the picture is the most important aspect of it all. If you use OKCupid they have some cool tools to let girls give you feedback on your different pics that is pretty cool. Hell I stopped using the site and kept uploading pics up there just to try out different looks and get some honest feedback. Chicks seem to like pics of interesting things (I have one where I’m at work and it looks like I’m holding fire in my hand, it was pretty popular). If your younger (18-22) and have a good body you should flaunt it but once you get out of that age range its more about appearing to be a class act (no tie or suit type stuff though) but make sure that stuff is fitting so they can see your shape underneath. Pets are also a plus. For some girls Tatoos are a big plus so if you have any showing it seems to be a good idea.
Once you meet up with them it’s the same as any other date so its no big deal. Hell hottest woman I ever dated came from that experience. She was a TV producer (only 22) who worked the late shift 11:00 P.M.-7:00 A.M. and just couldn’t meet decent people with her schedule. So if you work the experience right it can definitely be worth it. She got free tickets to Thunder games and I even met some of the team because a friend of hers was dating one of them.
I don’t do it anymore because it’s hard to build a quality relationship out of the experience. If you don’t have confidence issues its much easier to just hit up local chicks. Think its the difference in levels of competition but competing against at least a dozen of other offers and having to put up an A+ level game or gtfo is just not fun. Shit ton of maintenance, plus if you meetup and don’t get along a string of first dates is just annoying.
Even after getting a date I recommend keep lining up other chicks. Odds are the chick is doing it as well, plus you don’t really know how long shit is going to go. Plus while its work, it’s not necessarily hard to find other good looking chicks on a dating site.
If a chick is easy to get on an online dating site than you probably don’t want her.
Pics of said producer
Largely agree with what other people are saying its a mixed bag. The only thing I have to add is make sure you are picking a decent site. There are some differences in quality(I can’t remember off hand which one, but I know that there was one that was accused of creating fake profiles to attract members.). And also, different dating websites put more emphasis on different wants(random hookups/flings vs. trying to make a long term thing of it.) so make sure you pick one that fits what you want to get out of it.
Thank you for the sound advice bro. I think this really answers all the questions I have about online dating. I’m 19 at the moment
and it might just be better for me to go to a local hooka bar or try to find local parties to get a girl. From what I have heard online dating
can be difficult and awkward at times. A good friend of mine did it for a while and she told me she meet some of the most worthless
people in her live through it. In any case the last line is pretty much true of in real life all so.
All in all thanks for the advice and helping me out bro.
If you post that you’re shorter than 6 feet tall, you ain’t getting ANY attention.
if you are not 6 feet tall, youll need
a mirror
handheld camera
big muscles
small tanktop
and a handful of cash
^and a big wiener
On a semi serious note, my friends all had horrible experiences, I also had nightmares with trying the online A/S/L?! Wanna cyber?!?!?! approach as well. There are other reasons besides “oh I got a weird work schedule,” why women go online to look for sausage, most likely they are bat shit crazy and nothing to out weigh it either. Adult friend finder might be the only valuable online hook up site as I knew a guy that got tested a few times a month due to the amount of variety he was getting every week.
It’s not too bad, but you ARE going to have to go through a lot of BS at first. One of the best things I think I can say is try not to find something serious at first, and just look to get laid, eventually, the serious person will come along. Reason why is just so you don’t stress about trying to find someone, and just say whatever if nothing goes down.
Also it’s a good place to troll…lol
But seriously though, you are going to find a lot of people that don’t know what they want. Also don’t worry about bringing up topics. I find that women online will talk about ANYTHING, they don’t give a fuck, but when you see them in person, they’re quiet as fuck smh. Oh well. But the majority seem to follow that “online anonymity” thing and will talk about anything, and will tell you anything, at least from my experience.
I read that online dating will teach you the complete opposite of what porn does and that BBC is a myth.
That shit isn’t true at all.
Now while I bet being 6’ tall helps it isn’t necessary. I’m only 5’6" and got first dates with about 8 different chicks over 3 months. I’m sure it makes it easier as when a girl finds your pic attractive the whole experience is really easy, if she doesn’t its much harder to get a number than irl. IRL you can kinda seem a bit suave or funny which makes you appear more attractive in the initial meeting which is really important imo, but online that’s harder so it is more about looks than anything else.
Be confident, be direct, tell her to give you her number (don’t ask, and try to make it fun/funny when you do so) after things have been going well.
Also on same race dating … ya … that’s 100% true.
Definitely. If those avenues had been open to me at the time I probably wouldn’t have tried it.
Women have much worse time than guys with the whole thing. They have to pick between dozens of guys and normally (especially when they are young) they pick entirely based on how tall they are and do they look sexy. This leads them to dating some creep most of the time. Being one of the good ones helps out when you meet irl.
somehow I knew you’d be here,lol
Lol ops dad is trying to confirm if his son is queer or not.
Also how do you date “online”?
Do you guys go to the same website and chat, then order delivery from the same place and pretend to eat it with each other?