this is something that came out of your gf’s mouth. has to be.
her attitude when it comes to the ring is a stronger indicator of how the marriage will turn out, IMHO.
I bought my gf an engagement ring earlier this month. It was originally $900. Got it for about $300. For any woman that tells you “I want a ring with this and that” end the relationship. My girlfriend is not materialistic at all and she is always happy with what I get her. From my experience, just getting the ring alone and you making that next step means more than the actual cost of the ring.
I just proposed to my my girl in May and I dropped about 5500 on the ring. My boss spent 22k but his wife is a an exec at MTV and he’s a vice president in my firm so the money isnt an issue for them. So i think you should base the ring purchase around you TOTAL financial situation. If she loves you and has common sense she should know what to expect from the ring purchase. i will advise that you at least get a ring that fits her taste. i had one of her friends help me. easy operation
We are saving for a house/condo right now so i made damn sure to not go crazy on the ring. we got bigger goals to accomplish
Plus no guy should be getting married before 30 anyway…
Any woman who states in private about what a man should do when it comes to an engagement ring, or how many carats the diamond is, or how much it costs is self-centered and materialistic.
If said woman was smart and knew her man loved her and would do better in the future to ‘upgrade’ her ring when he had the funds later, it wouldn’t be so bad, but since the majority of women don’t think that way, that’s too bad. If a man has to second guess whether or not he made a bad decision picking out her ring because he’s afraid of what his girl’s reaction is gonna be, well, that’s not a good thing either.
It’s tough out here these days. Putting your stock in a ring as opposed to having a place to live when you get married? What kind of thought process is that? People are mad materialistic for no reason.
It’s the thought that counts, not the amount you spent so that a woman can show off her ring and brag to her friends like she’s the one who bought the ring.
I’d rep you if I could for this statement.
Kaz hit it home. I only paid $200 for my fiance’s ring, and she’s good with it.
Honestly though, my fiance is hardly materialistic. Doesn’t really like jewelry to begin with. She doesn’t even have her ears pierced of all things. On occasion, she’ll wear a necklace, but she honestly is so pragmatic that she views jewelry as a waste of money. I actually had to change up the gift giving for her. Other girls, I’d buy jewelry, last gift I bought her was a Bluetooth, which she enjoys and actually uses. She was more excited about that than any piece of jewelry I’ve given her. I’ve found that basic stuff like CDs (even just a CD-R) or a book goes a lot further with her than jewelry does. Strangely, she’d probably be happier with the vacuum or the toaster (or seeing how she’s Korean, the rice cooker) that American Christmas commercials associate with being a “dumb husband gift,” than she would if I “went to Jared.”
For the record, my wife was like many mentioned here, not liking big, gaudy rings, bla bla bla. She even said the half-karat I was going to buy her was too big. She’s really small, so it’s understandable. She even turned down the ring I wanted to buy her from Bachendorf’s (which is a surprisingly reasonable and nice store, I discovered) and opted instead for one from Kay’s with the wedding band diamonds swapped for artificial sapphires (artificial because natural sapphires are more black than blue and she didn’t like the color). I ended up saving about $600 plus the extra $100 I saved swapping out diamonds for synthetic sapphires, but it suited her tastes and that’s all that matters.
(not so) Fast forward 4 years later. Ring is too small and not enough clarity. She wants a new one. Really? Already? Can I get a new hymen too? In all seriousness, she doesn’t really care all that much, the original rules of it not being big and flashy apply, and she expects it to be a future anniversary gift, so I guess it’s okay under those circumstances, but long story short, she’ll change her mind later. :tup:
Oh, and I now wish I had bought the Bachendorf’s one because that one was one of a kind and probably will have appreciated a bit and actually “earned” me some money. Oh well, live and learn.
I gave my asian wife a shitty ring, we didn’t even have a wedding…Yet she still loves me long time…
Dont have a wedding or an expensive ring, go the cheap way out…If she still says yes to you then she’s a keeper…
Uh, no.
Diamond rings weren’t even commonly used as a bethrothal gift until the 1930’s. And that was all thanks to the diabolical marketing blitz manufactured by the diamond cartel.
Engagement rings are bullshit, plain and simple: a worthless, unnessesary, overpriced piece of crap signifing nothing but a weak, often-broken promise. Wedding rings are the only ring of value in relationships…and even the diamond snakes are tainting that too, with people getting diamonds on wedding rings!
Dont fall for the hype, kids.
Any time I hear anyone complaining about the value of engagement rings, I immediately think of the Tom Leykis show:
Make sure you know she says yes first. /emo
You should have her buy the ring if shes not happy with it.
for reals though just fuck her sister
Here’s my idea of getting an engagement ring:
http://www.tophatmagicsupply.com/magicshop/images/uploads/24880252.jpg
yes it’s important. you don’t want to be going to Kay’s and getting some generic knock off crap everyone has. Might as well get your ring at wal-mart. Vintage/estate rings all the way.
That man is a genius.
Her: Screw you Tom.
Him: Make an appointment dear.
If this woman really valued your relationship and love , you should be able to give her a ring made out of a zip tie and have her not bitch about it.
Seriously, she needs to be worried about the income going towards you’re living situation, not some obnoxiously expensive jewelry.
Dump the broad already.
Anybody with half a brain cell would’ve heard the alarm bells hollering after your girlfriend’s statement. She allowed her inner gold-digger to shine through and gave you more than enough of an indication to bail out.
Though if you decide to completely ignore every shred of advice in this thread, then let me to be the first to congratulate you and your bridezilla on what will undoubtedly be a long, fulfilling marriage.
Oh, and she’s not going to wear it anyway after about a year.
geez @ you guys. if she wants an expensive engagement ring then she’s a money hungry whore who needs to be dropped on her head? i’m not saying the cost of a ring is the most important thing in the world. i’m not saying never buying her anything expensive is cheap. I’m the cheapest mother fucker on the planet. I’d get her an assortment of mardi gras beads and that’d be the end of that shit. but just having the desire for a ring makes her a bad person? yall fucking crazy