I’ve never been an adherent of all that PUA near-sociopathic manipulation of women, or anyone for that matter; but if you look at nature- from the blue whale, to the tiniest fruit fly, all have to do some ritual or act in order to get the right to mate. To pretend we are the grand exception to this rule is rather naive.
Since the development of civilization, the importance of continuing a landowner’s lineage became paramount. So essentially women became less in control of their reproductive rights via marriage, and didn’t regain control until relatively recently.
Now we live in a time where women have complete financial, political, and educational access, but simultaneously the West still places values on traditional gender expectations stretching back for centuries, which makes everything very confusing for both genders. Even worse, activist groups vying for relevancy, foment social strife with polarizing viewpoints.
For sentient beings, trying to navigate between what is fair on social level, while having a strong mating instinct makes our social lives overtly complicated.
As far as the dating game, from what I’ve observed, those who have natural social skills (and looks) aka “charisma” might feel the concept of “the game” to be ridiculous, because they have luxury of not seeing the hidden factors at play in male-female interactions. Some may even substitute charisma with wealth or status, and use it as a gateway to mate.
Conversely, men who might be less socially keen, trying navigating through the maze of what a woman finds appealing becomes a nightmare, so they seek help in various forms. The problem is, the extreme level of “help” they use might detract from their ability to have real interactions with a woman, or treat them as individuals. Their confidence lies in the ability to play to the formula, rather than forming real bonds with their “prospect.”
And yes, I will say it- women, and people by in large generally don’t know what they really want in the long run, because of the clash between what their bodies are telling them and what society tries to enforce, which only makes it more complicated. It’s the same reason why a tumblr feminist proclaiming the issue of women being treated as sex objects, will then gyrate half-naked at a frat party, to a song screaming “Move Dat Ass BITCH! Shake Dat Ass HO!” while proclaiming “That’s her jam!”… or why some “traditional” guys will want virginal bride who is magically a “freak in the sheets”, and find no hypocrisy racking up sexual conquests in the triple digits.
Oh Nature:
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