Anyone who uses these types of cases as an excuse to talk about how they’re parents beat them too is IMO insecure and just trying to prove to the internet how tough they are.
Most of us and our parents were beaten as kids and they/we turned out fine (mostly) but that doesn’t mean that beating your kids works as intended or that the ends justify the means. Putting aside how inherently wrong it is to hit your kids there are lots of factors explaining why it “worked” for older generations and not for the current ones.
At least kids these days have technology on their side which I realize can be used for less then noble means but in this case (no pun intended I swear ><) justice will eventually be served.
I am a parent, and honestly it is just about positive vs negative reinforcement. I will swat my daughter on the leg with a wooden spoon if she does something that she knows she isnt supposed to do, but that is rare because she pretty much knows what’s up. It is obvious that the mom and dad rule the household with fear as opposed to talking to your teenage daughter. I am not saying that there aren’t teenagers out there that need a good ass whoopin, but in this case pretty much after the third swat it started getting out of hand. So it was a combo of physicality and verbal usage. Just speaking from experience, I don’t understand how beating me (your own child mind you) will make me want to respect you or anything. I mean the biggest reason for me learning Judo was because I was tired of gettin worked by dad.
People who were beaten as kids are more likely to condone it. The damage has been done and they consider it normal. Consequently, they likely assumed every other kid was getting beaten just like them.
Beating your kids is bad, period. There is no good part to it. Kids who were beaten are less likely to recognize their own mistakes and more often lie to avoid blame when they do admit to a mistake. If you ever come to a point where the only solution to disciplining your kid is physically beating them you failed as a parent long before that precipice. You inadequately exerted dominance and authority over that child, of which can all be gained without beating them.
Dang kids are too much of a liability these days. Can’t even discipline them in your own house without people getting their ovaries in a knot 7 years later.
Fundamentally untrue i do agree with punishment within reason and that you imply that "it was done to me therefor there is something wrong with me"
You mistake punishment with beating which i can agree that beating is wrong but that was not a beating nor abuse.
I was looking for a simple yes/no answer to my question.
Wait, so are you saying that belting your wife like that is not abuse? Because I did not ask you about video posted, you already offered your opinion on it the first page.
None of that babble has anything to do with what I asked. The amazing part is you still haven’t answered my question.
If you witnessed this exact same scene involving a spouse or the elderly in place of the 16 year old daughter would you consider it abuse?
No the amazing part is you have been answered 3 times now and your either to blinded or blatantly ignoring it.
Either way i think your mental talents would be better utilized perusing another avenue of discourse because we seem to be at an impasse.
Maybe Spanish would be better?
Or French i could stumble through a bit of french is that would be easier for you to understand.
Either way unless one of those is better suited i must wish the best of luck with your future endeavors of yellow inquiry’s and circular logic.
If she starts trickin’ I call dibs. Dat ass could have some PAWG status on it when she gets legal.
I joke, I kid.
My thoughts on this in a nutshell: Dad whooped dat ass. Can’t doubt on that.
Me? been there. My pops tore my ass up many a time. Mom did too. I never got double-teamed, but Lord knows I probably deserved it some times. Now, in her case I wonder. what did she DO? All I’ve been able to get is that she downloaded something. Now, she broke a rule. That part I think we can all agree on. Now, how severe is what I wanna know. I mean, is this an ongoing thing with her? and what in the name of the 29 hells did she download? If it was a song or two, well damn. now, if it was something sick like big dick butt bangers 16: the extended edition game and it cost them some hundreds on their Credit card that can’t be refunded, okay. You gonna get it.
NOTE: I have no idea if big dick butt bangers is real and I am NOT gonna search for it.
Also, how bad has this girl been? For how long? I mean, that’s pretty harsh if she’s crossing the line like this for the first time. If she’s been a female Damien to them and they’ve been trying hard to correct her, maybe it IS time for the belt. These days I know a beating like that is considered to be abuse. When I was little, it wasn’t. If you ask 100 people, you could very well get that many answers. Personally, I don’t think she’s gonna do it again. If she does…
I find it rather amazing every time somebody lies about what they said on a message board as if anybody reading their posts couldn’t look back and confirm if they are lying or not.
If you witnessed this exact same scene involving a spouse or the elderly in place of the 16 year old daughter would you consider it abuse?
This is a yes/no answer but you have given -
And -
Neither of which have actually answered the question - If you witnessed this exact same scene involving a spouse or the elderly in place of the 16 year old daughter would you consider it abuse?
No, it’s not better because it’s just as useless and intentionally ignores the fact that minors are not given the same rights as adults. Is it abuse if you physically prevent your spouse from leaving her room for a month? Is it abuse if you remove an elderly person’s television against their will? I’m not foolish enough to jump into either side of the debate at hand. I just wanted to point out that your question is ridiculous.