I don’t like small talk, so when people try to engage in small talk I usually just ignore them, give them one word answers, or tell them that I don’t care about what they’re are talking about.
Sometimes you have to be strict with people in order to get the required action from them. Doesn’t mean you have to be an asshole about it, but people are going to dislike you for it regardless.
Mowr: I agree. I wonder if they are this honest with themselves? If you are a perfectionist with yourself and thus feel the need to belittle mistakes in other people with “brutal honesty,” chances are, you have low self-esteem. Not trying to make judgments on anyone here, as I know the thread was about harsh/rude behavior.
I think you mean, BROchure.
imo.
This may be taken out of context but I don’t agree with you. There have been a lot of geniuses through out history that where known for belittling people that were not as smart as them and good portion of them became rich or successful. Some people are honestly too proud of their intellect which would honestly lead to arrogance. Arrogance correlates with high self-esteem. My opinion anyways.
First of all, my statement said “chances are” not, “it is 100% correct that”. Secondly, are you implying that being rich and successful means having high self-esteem? That is not always the case. Regardless of how cliche it is, money will not buy you self-worth, self-respect, or anything else. But, if you could show me these geniuses who went on to lead happy lives with high self-worth I will take your opinion seriously.
I think a lot of the time, geniuses get frustrated with other people’s lack of ability to understand their ideas. They then lash out at them out of annoyance. I also, highly doubt that geniuses post on SRK.
The idea that arrogance correlates with “high self-esteem” is a new theory, can you expand on it for me? From my understanding of it, which is very limited, when someone is arrogant and is constantly putting someone down, it is because they feel the need to build up their own self-worth. Their own opinions do not stand on their own merits with rational thought; they need to make others feel low about themselves in order to gain an audience.
By the way, using an example of an extremely small segment of the population (geniuses) to try and disagree with someone who said “chances are” is rather silly, don’t you think?
My feeling behind self called perfectionist is that they try to mask their own faults by trying their hardest to put others down. Perfectionist are not to be place in the same category as geniuses. Geniuses tend to people who listen to all things or spend a great deal reading things which contradict their own beliefs and thought process, as to better understand themselves and why is it they think the way they do. The problem with geniuses is that during debates or arguments, they can come at you from different sides and even understand your points better than yourself, that most people think they are being harsh on purpose, when in reality is, they are just trying to get you to see things beyond what you believe. Perfectionist on the other hand, tend to have this selfish my way of thinking attitude and those who have a different opinion or thought process, they either try to belittle them or speak in in a tone in which they want to get the most words in, with the highest tone.
About the being rich and having high self esteem comments, money is not the answer to all things. Do you wonder how is it that some people who lose it all tend to take their own lives as well. To them, money and material items were a mask to deeper problems they had buried.
Keeping my true friends close, and utterly shunning other people apart from my family. Complete asshole outlook, but I’ve had enough of being fucked around; people have to prove their worth to me now.
Also, bitches hate when you give them the cold shoulder after they’ve done the same to you, for some reason. 
Well increasing their own self worth would in term make them feel good about themselves, so that would be increasing there own self esteem. It does not make it right. I readily admit that one theory does not constitute as a whole because every person is unique. Maybe the money can’t buy self worth or self-respect but the feeling of accomplishment does. I did a 10 page report on Bill Gates a couple years back and he was an he ass before and after he became successful.
You don’t know if geniuses post on SRK or not, it was merely an example. I could of said a professional (or regular) athlete that belittles someone for not having their skill set. Or a really good Street Fighter player who belittles someone for not being as good as them.
I don’t think it’s silly that I said geniuses because I felt they were the best example that I could think of. You had the right to agree with whoever the other poster was. I have the right to disagree regardless of the fact you said “chances are”. “Chances are”, you wouldn’t have posted your opinion if you didn’t slightly believe it.
How did you come to that conclusion from my comment? Why would I go out of my way to give an opinion to someone who didn’t ask for it? Reading is hard, huh.
Money can make one feel good about him/herself for a moment, or for as long as the money is there. Genuine high opinions of one’s self does not depend on any extrinsic factors. If one’s self-worth is measured in those terms then it easily dissipates when the money is no longer there. Superficial self-confidence is abundant in our society, but genuine love for yourself is hard to find and easily escapes many. Why do you think people with money go on these constant meditation retreats? Why do you think prescription pills are flying off the shelves?
You are correct in that feeling of accomplishment does promote high self-esteem, but there are many people who accomplish many things and fail to recognize it. Our society is not “what have I done?” but rather “what haven’t I done yet?” It’s not “what do I have that I can be thankful for right now?” but rather “what don’t I have but I want!?”
I have yet to find one. If you can point one out to me, cool, but I don’t know if pink elephants exist in space either. Until I see one or gain credible evidence that they do post on SRK and moreover, have posted in this thread, I will continue with my belief that no geniuses post on SRK.
Again, you are using small segments of the population to disagree with a statement that is based on probability. “Chances are” implies, that it is probabilistic. People who constantly belittle others have to do so in order to constantly feel like they are worth something. It makes them feel better about themselves, but it is not genuine or real, it’s an illusion.
Of course I believe it, what does posting “chances are” have to do with believing my own statement?
Your own opinion is, of course, your own opinion. Still doesn’t mean it can’t be silly. You have the right to disagree with me, and I have the right to question the credentials in which you do.
But I digress, I do not wish to further disrupt this thread with this debate as it was not the original intent of it.
Now you are just going into maslow’s hierarchy of needs, which is still theory and not concrete. It wasn’t about whether they have money or not it was about whether they can achieve happiness with money. Everybody has there own sense happiness so it’s possible for someone to be completely happy with money. As far as your second paragraph is concerned that just goes back to uniqueness of every individual. You are just rationalizing based on statistics or a class you have taken, it is impossible for you or I to speak for the whole.
It still does not change the fact that you still don’t know.
How is a feeling an illusion. That doesn’t make any sense. Regardless if it is a small population or not, I never said that I was speaking for the majority, I was trying to get my point across.
Because of the probability of you weighing more towards believing they have low self esteem.
I dont make friends w/ my neighbors…Last thing i want is be friends w/ annoying neighbors…I dont let people come over my house, last thing i want is to have unwanted people coming over all the time…
I learned not to put my penis into every hole in a wall. My god, such mistakes 
What? Bad decisions make good stories. Please elaborate.
I’ve learned not to be nice at work. I work in a hospital and RN’s will literally treat you like their personal slave if you are nice to them at all. Which sucks because you originally get into this stuff because (hopefully) you like people and want to help them but the moment people think you’ll be inconvenienced, you’re owned.
Did I hurt your feelings? You turned that defense mechanism of yours on full blast. You sound like one of the 99% I was talking about.
But no, I’m mature enough to realize that I don’t got it all figured out. I’d say that I’m learning at this point. The more that I question societal norms, what people do, what people say, and, most importantly, myself and what I say/do, the closer to the truth I’ll get…
…that and lots of reading…and tons of observing.
You should try it sometime. But I warn you, you might not like what you see…
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heh, fine…go ahead and tell absolute truth to women 100% of the time, and give your money away to bums on the street, and continue waiting forever on the positive results.
I hate to say it, Million, cause I have no issue with you, but sometimes reading your posts and all that… I can’t help but think you’re in a perpetual circle when it comes to what happens to you, especially with women. And that leads to what you’ve posted, etc.
If I find out you’re stupid I am more than happy to bulldoze you on all the shit you don’t really need. It’s the art of salesmanship and you should know better than to be taken by us. I will also bend the rules and do whatever it takes to hit quota because myself and my family are much more important than my customers. I don’t really know if that counts in the theme of the thread but that’s the life of a career salesperson.
I seldom lend people money, including family. I watch way too much Judge ____ during the week, it made me realize that nobody is worth trusting with my money.