he makes a valid point though. the idea that having less sex makes the sex better is stupid.
So you’d hit them if they wanted to cut it down? Or leave 'em? Cause that seems to be the “normal” consensus, which seems to be pretty trite in this thread.
That’s all well and good, but saying shit like “If my gf ever said that shit to me i’d slap her” just seems to be a dumb retort, man. I’d much rather you put some actual thought in it than just come up with a “typical” internet answer. I don’t say what I say because of my “superior level of maturity over everyone” cause I’m a female; that’s one of the lamest deductions ever. Throwing that I lived with relatives in my face while I’m attending college? When haven’t I heard that as a “typical” internet fall back answer? But y’know, I gave “my” opinion on it. Sorry you don’t like what I have to say.
It’s just the internet, right?
if my girl suddenly started rationing out sex to make it more “special” hell fucking yeah i’d leave her ass, that is beyond fucking stupid. the more sex you have the better your chemistry gets and in turn the better the sex becomes.
Not to say I would ever hit a woman, but if we weren’t on the same page sexually then we’d have to have some serious thought about the future of the relationship. I’ve said this before, but I really feel like sex is undervalued in its importance in a relationship.
Let’s say you and I are dating. I want to have sex 3-5 times a week. You only want to have it 1-2 times at most. This leaves me feeling unfulfilled and dissatisfied. Now what am I supposed to do? If masturbation was an acceptable substitute, I probably wouldn’t care about sex at all. And if I go looking for sex with other women, now you are unhappy, and if we just happen to be married now we get divorced and you’re entitled to half of everything I own. So…now what do I do?
Not to mention that many American women get straight-up incensed at the thought of their man looking at porn. That certainly doesn’t help things either.
Because there are so very few fixes to sex problems, I tend to rank it rather high in my list of requirements for a potential mate.
you didn’t have anything to say, you just attacked me. Anyway…i wasn’t talking about you persay…i don’t know you, how could i know you live with your parents. That’s just a general example…like what i said before. I also don’t have a girlfriend…but, i wouldn’t be putting up with that kind of shit if i did. I most likely wouldn’t slap her…but you get what i mean…or actually you obviously don’t.
Oh, I totally agree. If you’re not on the same page sexually, then it’ll just cause tension and failure in the relationship.
I understand your example and it sucks that the scenario has been the case for many relationships. I personally wouldn’t understand it cause I like sex. I wouldn’t understand just having it 1-2 a week at most. That’s just absurb. Not in a week. If that were a day, then maybe. After awhile, I need a break cause I don’t like being too sore the next day. Sometimes we don’t get around to it cause we were either out or got really into a game and hours passed. But it’s not intentional, y’know? Just didn’t happen.
I really didn’t know that some American women get mad over that, but I guess they’d consider it “cheating”. Kinda silly since the chance of you getting with the girl in the video is slim to none. Now if it was some co-worker’s picture or something like that, then there’d be a definite problem.
So yes, I’d also rank sex as a top requirement because I like feeling good emotionally and sexually.
I didn’t say anything about rationing sex to make it “special”. But having it on a constant can make real boring real fast. I agree that sex is key in a relationship, but I’d assume that personality chemistry was more key than that. Heaven forbid something happened to either one of the people in the relationship where you couldn’t have sex. Could you still stand each other? Or have anything in common? Or would you just leave them too?
Then be clear with what you have to say. I wasn’t trying to “attack” you, I was responding to what you said. If you thought I was attacking, then you mistaken and I’m sorry it came off that way.
Damn, it’s after 2am. So glad I don’t have class or I’d be real mad.
She’s talking about sex that’s thrilling as opposed to the same ol same ol sex.
Is it that hard to understand??
Shouldn’t all sex be thrilling? What the heck is same ol same ol sex? Is that like just going thru the motions? Sounds like mutual mastorbation to me lol.
For those that are in committed relationships, how long did the chase last for you guys? I’ve been chasing a girl since thanksgiving and its driving me to the breaking point.
I don’t chase anyone. Either it’s going to work or it’s not. But the idea of chasing is something I can’t do. I don’t have the patience for cat and mouse games. I believe that there is enough drama inside of relationships as it is, so there shouldn’t be drama actually trying to get IN the relationship. I mean if you were to ask me, I’d definitely would tell you to move on. There are some women out there who get off on the idea that you’re chasing after them. In either case at some point you just have to be direct, give her an ultimatum, and if she doesn’t comply then move on.
sexual chemistry isn’t the same as general relationship chemistry…i’ve fucked one of my good friends a few times, we had great personal chemistry, sexually though she was trying to do one thing and while i’m trying to do another. needless to say, next time i see her i don’t think she’ll be giving up the pussy…and barring general horniness, i don’t think i’d be chomping at the bit to hit it either.
all of that said, there’s clearly a difference between rationing sex as a power trip (which is what most chicks do imo) and being legitimately unable to get busy. i probably wouldn’t enter into a relationship with someone whom i couldn’t engage in sex, but if i was in love with a broad and she…cracked her pelvis or something then i’d deal with it.
sexual chemistry isn’t the same as general relationship chemistry…i’ve fucked one of my good friends a few times, we had great personal chemistry, sexually though she was trying to do one thing and while i’m trying to do another. needless to say, next time i see her i don’t think she’ll be giving up the pussy…and barring general horniness, i don’t think i’d be chomping at the bit to hit it either.
all of that said, there’s clearly a difference between rationing sex as a power trip (which is the real reason women withhold sex) and being legitimately unable to get busy. i probably wouldn’t enter into a relationship with someone whom i couldn’t engage in sex, but if i was in love with a broad and she…cracked her pelvis or something then i’d deal with it.
No offense, but you and a few others IMO should not be offering relationship advise to anyone.
Shit her mouth still works…she’d better use it lol.
Yo this vid below is Ghostface on staying faithful…shit is funny but its true. “Niggas is fuckin” lol
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The double standard might be messed up…but, fuck it. I agree with him. I don’t care if its not fair.
Maybe, but it doesn’t invalidate what I said. Plenty people out there are fine with casual sex only and they are comfortable with themselves. *looks at The Epidemic.
I have a question relating to thurst’s post. Is women holding back sex a sign of them being on a power trip/having some control over their other, or is it some women don’t like to sex that often? Cause I’m still trying to figure my girl out. VERY VERY seldom does that switch flip on, feels like I’m being trained man…every time Im ready to go, shes not. And whenever shes ready I’m too ticked and turned off to even want to do something about it. Am I going at this the wrong way? Help this younglin’ out.
Depending. Some women hold out in the beginning to see which direction are you going with them. Majority of men tend to want booty an once they have that booty the tendency of “changing” is very high. In fact the post conquer effect sets in and the excitement is not there. I can respect some women who do this cause most likely they have been done wrong when they were in the process of trying to start something and the opposing party was not but failed to actually say that.
Now the women that hold out via the power trip phase are usually the ones that give it to you once… then ration it. When I mean ration I mean ration. They will work every excuse in the book but the whole time they are playing a game.
Now if a young lady has her shyt together. A good head on her shoulders and will disclose what she wants and how she feels about dating/relationships… then don’t trip if she holds out a lil bit in the beginning, she is nervous and wants to make sure she is not getting played. You can’t blame her nor trip. The ones you need to worry about are the plate of pussy wit no leftovers? they are the ones that will give u all the pussy you need in the beginning then out of no where suddenly the WWII style rationing comes out as if the vagina is going to deplete. Games are being played so keep ya mind on your shyt.
There’s a difference between rationing sex (bad) and holding out on anything sexual for a bit and then having sex (awesome).
Both? Depends on the girl, but it seems like neither of you are having the ammount of sex you want and that makes no one happy. Seems like you should just say something to try to figure her out because I’m going to guess you’re going to be ready more often than she is and find when she normally gets horny. Then make a fucking event out of the next time.
She may just simply have a lower sex drive. Not every woman has the same sex drive. The same goes for men. If you don’t feel you are getting it enough, you may simply be incompatible. It may be as simple as that.
how long you been going out and has she always been like this? is she really busy? and how is the sex?
i actually think “i’m tired” is a valid excuse bcuz the last thing i want to do when i’m tired is fuck, so i wouldn’t personally discount that excuse. that said, if she knows that you’re gonna KO that pussy then it’s generally not that hard to get shit going whether she’s tired or whatever…unless as koop said, she’s playing games in which case…
if “holding out” is not letting me hit and then pouncing on me while i’m bs’ing on facebook and eating a bowl of cereal, then yeah that’s cool…but beyond that, fuck that noise lol.