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I think we should call in some professional camera guys every Wednesday and do the 1on1 talk with the camera about how we feel about other players. Then we should send it into G4 TV, or MTV and see if we can get a show going.

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I’ll have to disagree. I know you’ve had your beef with him as well, and perhaps thats coloring your perception of his post. Gabe is Gabe, we all know that, but I still think it was a stand-up thing of him to say towards Duckie.

Who says anyone is deciding anything. You don’t know everything about that situation yourself and so you are making assumptions too. There’s no need to belittle his post, if people think he’s blowing smoke, they can decide that for themselves, there’s no need to make their minds up for them.

If you think its alienating and childish, that’s your prerogative. I think it was a genuine gesture. I will be the first to admit I don’t know you too well, but given your history with Gabe, I’m inclined to say you’re a bit biased in this matter.

And no, nothing is “crucial” like this when it comes to fighting games, but this is something that I personally take an interest in because like Gabe, I don’t want to see someone leave the scene over something like this. Maybe that’s childish of me, but I too just want to play games and drink beers with as much of the community as possible.

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Yeah of course it’s coloring my perception and I’m not the only one. I said I know nothing of the situation but I also know he has “genuinely” posted an apology or something of this sort several times.

I don’t care if someone who is cancerous to a scene leaves. He has dissed nearly everyone at some point so it’s not like I’m just blowing smoke at him like an e-bully. It’s not my business, but every other week it’s something with that cat ON A PUBLIC FORUM. :wasted:

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lol just start pointing people in the direction of my avatar.

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Umm, it’s not gabe that is possibly leaving…it’s Duckie. Unless you consider him cancerous to the scene too?

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No, I publicly questioned gdbell leaving a few times which is what I was referencing. I don’t consider gdbell a credible source for anything at all.

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maybe a credible source of hilarity bazinga

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Chit, it’s becoming obvious you really aren’t aware of what’s going on in this situation. Do you remember when Duckie advised you to lay off the Gabe hate because it makes you look obsessed and sad? You’re doing it again.

There is stuff going on behind the scenes that you don’t know about, but that Gabe is addressing by telling Duckie that we support him as a friend and part of our scene and we don’t want him to leave. You casting aspersions on that really isn’t a good look for you.

To quote Duckie: WE GET IT. You don’t like Gabe. Move along.

Making uninformed statements about someone you are well-known to dislike possibly doing something positive like reaching out to another player is very unbecoming to you.

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Why not use a PM? If he’s that concerned that he should speak in private about it. Why make it public? It’s a making a scene.

You have an answer for that as well I guess

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That was a rather large hearted gesture from you. I have to admit it was entirely unexpected. I’m sorry I treated you so poorly in the past. Your post was exactly what I needed to see right now, thank you.

This part is going to get long, but it concerns everyone in Memphis. To be respectful, I’m going to put it in a spoiler tag:

long post

[details=Spoiler]I also need to do some explaining of my own. I’m sorry I blew up at Orel Wednesday night, but for the record it wasn’t because I was angry at losing to Cylus, or still out of any anger I may have had from losing to Anthony the week before. It was an attempt to confront him about some issues I’ve had with him for well over a year now regarding the way he treats me that blew up in my face, and I couldn’t contain my anger and made myself look like an ass in public.

The facts regarding last week are as follows: I talked too much shit and looked like an idiot when I lost. I didn’t actually want to talk trash, as I hate trash talk with a passion. People have told me I do it too much, but it’s only because I want to fit in. From now on there will be no more trash talking from me. I want to be the type of player who is known to encourage people and help them out when they’re down, not the other way around. If I was upset at the match, it was because I thought he would use it as an excuse to not play Marvel anymore (which I told him personally), and it only lasted for a day. People thought I was upset for longer than that, but that was because the next day I had to appear in court over a traffic ticket that was of some import that it be dropped, but it wasn’t. I now owe $151 in court costs, which combined with the fact that I haven’t paid my rent yet for this month, puts me into a rather large bind.

Speaking of which, I won’t mince words here: my life as it stands is falling apart, and has been since I lost my job last year. I haven’t been able to find work in Memphis, Oxford, or Jackson, and even two part-time jobs would not be enough to make ends meet. I barely pay my bills with unemployment, stick modding, and whatever odd jobs I can find in the community. My father is also very likely about to go to prison for the rest of his life, and my mother is disabled and cannot fend for herself. My sister and her husband had to move in to take care of her. This, in addition to a few traumatic events that happened during my childhood and teenage years that people in Memphis have unknowingly uprooted have caused my patience and self-control to wear very, very thin.

This brings me to my next point. People in Memphis may think they’re joking when they do things like call me gay because I don’t want to date anyone, or because I haven’t had sex with every gorgeous woman in Oxford. I’ve asked certain people on numerous occasions to respect my decision, because while it seems irrational to them I have very real and valid reasons for being the way I am. I will not discuss them in public, but if asked in private I’ll talk about them. I have not had an easy life. Years of therapy has not helped. Antidepressants make things worse. I already dislike being around people enough as it is, and despite my seemingly outgoing personality it’s actually a huge task for me to reach out and make friends with people, and especially to trust them.

So now factor all that in to my current situation. Due to my life experiences, I’m typically a very thick-skinned person. Not much upsets me. However things changed a year ago, and I find my patience wearing thing more and more. I’m also losing the ability to distinguish between a joke and an insult. When I’m playing in a match and getting rattled over losing, when someone shouts out “YOU SUCK, DUCKIE!” it hurts me very much. When someone calls me gay because I won’t go talk to a pretty girl, it upsets me. I feel like I cannot have fun and relax right now with things as they are. A friend is someone who stands with you through the rough patches and doesn’t require an explanation for all of your quirks: they simply accept you for who you are. As it stands I feel like very few people in Memphis accept me in this manner. I don’t ask much from any of you. I just want your respect and to accept me without explanation. I don’t feel like that’s happening. When I do tell people this, I get “well it’s just a joke.” That may be the case, but have any of you stopped to consider that some of it may go too far, that some of the issues that people tease me about may be very hurtful because I have issues about some of these things? Right now I feel like there are very few people in Memphis who actually listens and accept me. You all may think you’re my friend, but most of you aren’t treating me like one. I’m not asking to be coddled or treated like a baby, but I want all of you to consider that if I have a negative reaction to something you say, that there might just be something about the way you’re treating me.

My life is hard right now. I’m trying very hard to sort everything out, but it’s difficult and takes time. I come to Memphis despite being unable to afford it to relax and have fun with people who I view as friends and family. But right now I feel like I can’t relax because people are constantly putting me on edge. I can’t relax anymore. What’s the point of coming then, if most of you are making me feel like shit?

I admit I have some flaws, and they’re all things I’ve spoken to Sev about in great detail, and I’ll make them known here:

  1. I shit talk too much. I did it to fit in because that’s what everyone does. However it makes me feel bad about myself, especially when I lose. I want to be the type of person who is helpful and encouraging to other players. I promise I will not shit talk any more.

  2. People think I’m a pervert because of some of the things I say, and comments I make regarding women. Again, I do this to fit in and because I thought I was being funny. Despite popular belief, I do not need to get laid, and am satisfied with my being single. Yes, as Orel said, it’s been twelve years since I’ve had sex. That’s not something I wanted made public, but I don’t have that liberty anymore thanks to his post. However I do not need anyone to “fix” me by telling me I need to get laid, find a girlfriend, or sleep around with every woman in the city of Oxford. This is my choice, and without going too much into my personal history it’s a decision I have not made lightly. This is something I do not tolerate jokes about under any circumstance. Since I seem to have brought this upon myself by acting like such a pervert, I’m cutting down on the amount of jokes I make, if not completely.

  3. People think I hate gdbell. He has done things that violated my sense of justice, and has treated people in a manner that I felt he should have been banned for. However he’s a person too, and I’m not a mod, so I promise to lay off of him. The post to me that I quoted earlier opened my eyes and showed some real strength of character. The next time I see him he’ll be welcomed with opened arms. I’ll do whatever I can now to patch things up between us.

Also, in the future, if anyone has any issues with something I do or say, I ask that they address it with me as quickly as possible. I want to be friends with everyone, and don’t want any more bad blood arising because of things left unsaid.

I really need you guys to understand though that I’m completely stressed out and need friends who will stand with me and lift me up instead of make me feel bad. I haven’t been doing my part lately, but I’m going to change. I need you guys to do the same when I come back. I may be back Wednesday, but I need you to respect that I might not be back for a while, especially because my finances have run dry.[/details]

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"Duckie Posted:

“That was a rather large hearted gesture from you. I have to admit it was entirely unexpected. I’m sorry I treated you so poorly in the past. Your post was exactly what I needed to see right now, thank you.”

  1. People think I hate gdbell. He has done things that violated my sense of justice, and has treated people in a manner that I felt he should have been banned for. However he’s a person too, and I’m not a mod, so I promise to lay off of him. The post to me that I quoted earlier opened my eyes and showed some real strength of character. The next time I see him he’ll be welcomed with opened arms. I’ll do whatever I can now to patch things up between us."

Well, looks like I don’t need to have an answer for that now, do I Chit?

It looks like that post had it’s desired effect on Duckie, so there you go.

DUCKIE: We love you man, good to read your post. More detailed reply to come.

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Just an addendum to my last post that I saw on Crystal’s facebook status:

“There comes a time in your life, when you walk away from all the drama and people who create it. You surround yourself with people who make you laugh, forget the bad, and focus on the good. So, LOVE the people who TREAT YOU RIGHT, FORGET the ones who DON’T. Life is too short to be anything but happy. Falling down is a part of life; getting back up is living.”

I say amen.

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Not saying this to belittle Duckie’s post at all but I’ve never talked shit to anyone since I started coming to the scene and I’ve recieved the same respect from everyone else. I think if anyone can prove themselves as someone to be respected without shit talking it goes a long way, since shit talking on a serious level is something I’m not a fan of.

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Dax pm me your address before I call the cops on your punk ass

Me and Gabe give each other shit all the time but I dont want the kid to leave the scene nor anyone else

that being said you ignoring my request for an MM you scared bro? just decline me if you want I wont say anything bad about you bro

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My main point is that is should be addressed to Duckie PRIVATELY. If no one brought it up, speak to him on the side. The exact same thing could be said in a PM and would likely have a similar effect, so to speak. That being said -

Duckie: Just let people know off the back what your boundaries are. I don’t know anyone who does not have mad respect for you in the Memphis scene. You have offered to help me out and have always been the first one to speak to anyone new I brought to fight nights. (Speaking of which, Scott’s stick is falling apart without you …) Hope 2011 gets better man

Yeah, just do it like Noel Brown :razzy:

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Chit, you don’t get it man, myself and others know that it had to be on the forum because in a way, he was speaking for some of us. I know I was glad to see Gabe reach out like that, and I know there are others who felt the same way. I know, it’s crazy right, Gabe possibly speaking for certain parts of the Memphis scene? But he did and I for one am glad he did. And I’m even more happy to see Duckie’s response. To him and to us. I’m sorry it doesn’t meet your standards of decorum.

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Ok. I’m crazy. We should always publicly discuss our transgressions on the forum. You are right.

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literacola…literacola…do we have any literacola?

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Just saying dude, if Gabe posted something that made a difference to Duckie in this situation, which it did, then I’m all for it. You don’t like it? Okay. Not everything is going to appease your personal standards.

I mean, Duckie personally says it was good for him to read it, and you still find fault? Whatever.

I’m just glad it looks like we can patch shit up with Duckie.

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Public venue. 2/3 of the state knew nothing about it. Stuff can be settled in house.