Another SoVa head here. I know a few people, but mostly end up just playing online. I had the good fortune to attend EVO this year, though not with the SoVa crew, unfortunately. Maybe next year…
In any event, I’ve done a lot of thinking on this subject as I am perpetually overly realistic by default and also new to fighting games. I’ve also done a lot of work, though not enough, towards becoming a great player. When I was talking to my friend SHGLBMX before heading out to Evo (he’s a notable socal blanka player) I said to him “Hey man! I’m coming to Evo…not expecting to win anything, but hey, Bang The Machine will be cool!”. He replied with “Don’t say that, that’s a terrible attitude”. I replied with “Man, I’ve only been playing fighting games for a year, I never make it out to tournaments and I can’t even beat Joe Schmo online with 2500 BP consistently, how am I going to roll into Evo against real tournament competitors and even win a match when most of these guys have been playing since SF2 Turbo or Alpha?”. He didn’t reply. So I go to Evo and win my first match. A pretty thrilling come from behind victory where I went down a set and a round and that went all the way down to the final round with 10 seconds left. I pulled it out. Sure, I lost my next two, it is what it is, but if it’s taught me one thing, it’s this: As tempting as it is to be realistic about where you are in the Street Fighter world, being realistic is being negative whether you are trying to be or not. Instead of saying things like “I’m just not getting better, I think I can’t get better, or I will never be as good as Person X” say things like “I need to work on this fundamental technique to improve” or “I need to get better at this matchup”.
I think that focusing on smaller steps like improvement of anti-air or defense is a much better way of working towards achieving the bigger picture. If you are only concerned with what happens in the win/loss column then you can never really focus on the techniques and proper strategy you need to actually win more often.
Alex Valle once said to to me not that long ago, “How you handle losing determines what kind of winner you will become or if you will become a winner at all”.
As far as paying Gootecks, I offered to do audio cleanup and editing on his latest SF Secrets he is working on in return for some play sessions. Honestly, it was one of the most insightful sessions I’ve had and definitely is helping me think differently and has gotten me on the right track in some ways. So, it’s not all bad considering I can’t make it out all that often to train with the local gurus. I recommend him.
Check out my first blog on SRK. It was a conversation I had with an old friend of mine. He is a great NorCal Fei player and he has some insightful things to say to me in a chat log a while back. There are definitely echoes of your predicament there and I think that its a pretty good read for anyone down and out. Many of my blogs are bitch sessions about how I’m not getting better, I’ve realized the error of my ways, however. I think many people go through this and must learn to overcome it.
In closing, I don’t agree with quitting or saying “hey, I’ll never be RyRy, so fuck it”. It’s not fun to lose, but then if you focus on the smaller steps and actually improving on different aspects of the game that you aren’t so good at you will begin to forget about winning and losing and you will just have fun again. The side effect will be that you will get better while doing it. It doesn’t matter that you win today or tomorrow or a year from now, we will all develop at different rates.
Hope this helps