This matter was attempted to be handled in private. Since he decided to make this thread I will make everything public that was said via message. After that I have nothing to say. Bottom line is that these two threatened everything we have created. I could care less what the fight was about. I told both of then they would be ok to come back to two weeks if they A: both met with me and convinced me this would not happen again and apologize to the community. Darshawn apologized though he said the same thing will happen in two weeks so it is not possible for him to come back. Nick proceeded to cuss at me and tell me he would never return and played victim… he said he was walking in the park one sunny day, whistling, and out of NO WHERE so kid came and punched him in the face. No responsibility was accepted. I suspect he has narcissistic issues that never allow him to be wrong nor admit it. Conversing with him is impossible.
It is unfortunate that this all went down the way it did… but it did happen and I am sorry the two of you decided that this will not be able to resolve the issues.
But hey! If this is the first time you have heard of console combat… check us out at www.consolecombat.net 
Below is the communication from myself and Nick.
First message to Nick from me
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Nick,
Concerning last week. I wanted to get in touch with you and explain a few things and justify my decision to kick both of you out.
It is really unfortunate that you and Darshawn fought like you did. From what I understand you guys used to be friends. I understand that this fight was over personal issues with each other and not over video games. To be honest, I do not want to know the story… nor care b/c it is not pertinent to the facts of the situation. You sent me quite a few messages when you were mad. You mentioned that you got punched for no reason and did not instigate. I want to make something very clear. I know this is NOT the true story. Understandably you were mad after the physical confrontation but I know you were laughing at him and making it worse. As i said, I know you are mad but that all contributed to the problem.
Things can happen in a competitive environment like console combat and I completely understand that. I myself, have been in very similar situations.
Console Combat is very dear to myself, manny, rob, and all others apart of the community. As I said, I am very sorry you fought, but it threatened everything we worked to create. if the owners had been there, I can promise you would NEVER be welcome back and Console Combat may be dead. We are all fortunate that is not the case.
I have decided that you are banned for two weeks. For whatever the reason, this type of behavior cannot be tolerated at CC. I am sorry that you need to be the example but know that Darshawn has received the same punishment. Neither of you are getting preferential treatment. I know you said that you never want to return but understand that I know things can be said in passion.
If you make the decision to return after two weeks, several things need to happen. I need to meet with both you and Darshawn. I need to be convinced by both of you that this will NEVER happen again. Also, you need to apologize to myself and the community for your actions.
Please understand my position. Take care.
-matt
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Responses from Nick
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I don’t need to apologize to you at all, Matt. YOU should say sorry to me, I very rarely say things out of passion. I never said that I was punched for no reason. There was definitely a reason behind it, and I didn’t feel there was any need to discuss nor explain the reasoning he had behind it. I wasn’t laughing at him afterwards either, I was highly annoyed that YOU kicked me out after I got punched in the face and I was calling the police.
It’s not a fight if both people involved aren’t attacking. So, here’s the situation that happened [all that you and anyone involved with console combat should know, nothing more, nothing less]: I showed up and was sociallizing. Darshawn show’s up later and see’s me. He walks towards me, I walked away from him. He strides towards me and punches me in the face. I walked away [no laughing was going on there]. He walks towards me again and punches me a 2nd time, Then attempts a third punch. Again, no laughing. What exactly did I do wrong here?
After that someone pushes me to the front of the bar away from him, while I was just standing in shock thinking. While in the front of the bar I waited for Either you or Manny to show up to talk about the situation. You show up and begin to push me and tell me to leave and that you don’t want to hear what I have to say [Note: YOU appear to be acting on passion and impulse in this situation, not levelheaded or relaxed, not thinking fully about your actions, just making actions.]. On a technicallity pushing me out the door like that IS assault as well.
I tell you to get your hands off me. You aren’t listening. I tell you again. You’re not listening. I SCREAM at you, maybe you’ll listen if I scream. You still persist, I grab your fingers and demand that you never touch me again, the bartender scream “Don’t you hit him!” to me, the guy who just got punched in the face a moment yet didn’t hit the person who punched him. Not the clearest line of logic to think I would hit someone who’s only pushing me when I didn’t hit someone who actually hit me.
I could see how you can make a judgement on me grabbing your fingers, but if you were to use the same logic to make such a judgement you’d have to place the same on yourself for pushing me out the door. Maybe you didn’t fully grasp the situation yet, maybe I was very upset that I got punched and am not getting kicked out. This reasoning can keep going on but it persistently gives boths sides a justification for what they’re doing.
After you did get a little more of what happened, after the cops showed up you told me I was disrespectful to the establishment. “…need to respect the place.” were your exact words, near the end of your text that said I was being banned for the same amount of time as Darshawn, which you’ve decided to stress multiple times, which shows you don’t seem to think much of my ability to recall even the smallest shread of information. To which I responded, with a bitter sarcastic retoricle question “How is getting punched in the face disrespectful?” In a message where I told you to fuck off and that you’re an asshole for kicking me out, which I still stand by and agree with %100. I also mentioned that you have very poor leadership skills if this is how you’re going to deal with a situation like this.
Dictionary.com’s 7th definition for fight: to engage in battle or in single combat; attempt to defend oneself against or to subdue, defeat, or destroy an adversary.
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If you are no one defends against an attack it isn’t a fight, it’s just an attack or an assault. There was no fight, just a man with a grudge and something to prove attacking another man because he’s angery.
Back to the part where we’re both banned for 2 weeks. I have a problem with that. I did nothing to anger him, while at CC. I did nothing to entertain his desire to fight. I did nothing out of respect for Console Combat, an organization that kicked me out for two weeks after I made the attempt to respect the place despite my personal well being being placed in immediate danger.
He should be banned, I shouldn’t. If a decision, a poor one, is made to ban both of us for a set duration of time, He should be banned for a longer period.
Why? I’m sure you’re asking this, you don’t strike me as the brightest star in the sky when you make stupid decisions with very poor reasoning behind it. If I’m there I have a long history at Fight Night and CC of not doing a damn thing to cause trouble. It’s been seen by everyone there. I don’t instigate fights, I don’t cause problems. I joke around with people, I play games, I occasionally go outside and smoke. At CC I joke around with people, I play games, I buy a beer, I occasionally go outside and smoke. In a situation where someone does cause problems, directed on me, I walk away from it.
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Darshawn complains about life, plays games, buys nacho’s, drinks a monster. Nothing wrong with that, it’s not causing trouble. Then he gets mad about the problems in his life and takes them out on someone else in a public environment while in an emotion rage.
Me: not causing problems for the group. Darshawn: Causing problems for the group. Matt: being a moron and banning both. I’m very serious when I say that I will never come back to the place again if I’m not issued a public apology by Matt. I’m also very serious about posting the events of what happened on SRK, Smashboards, Gamefaqs, my facebook, and everywhere else I can find to publicize the events and the incompetence of Matt.
If I knew that this is how Matt would handle things in said situation happened, I would have never showed up to CC. Fight Night was fine. If something like this happened to someone else and I read about it happening on SRK or smashboards or anywhere else. I would NOT go to that group.
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[quoteI’m sorry you feel this way and I am sorry you will not be attending CC anymore.
to be quite frank Nick. You have not acknowledged on fact are indeed playing the victim. The fight that was the result of personal issues btw you, Darshawn, and some girl. The fact is that you both jeopardized everything we have created.
Good luck with everything in the future. Just to be clear… this is not how I wanted the situation resolved. Since you are not willing to abide by the groups rules, understand that you will be removed from McCarthy’s if you decide to show up. I have nothing further to say and do not wish to participate in this conversation. Manny and Rob will agree and again… Im sorry [quote]
