I’ve been out of my parents’ hair since 2006, when I graduated from high school. I’m 22.
Although money is always an issue, the thought of living on someone else’s dime is infuriating. I thoroughly enjoy the privacy and the freedom to do what I want, when I want regardless of my parents’ opinions.
And as it’s already been said, ladies don’t really go for live-with-mom guys. They can, but it takes a supreme level of understanding.
I work two part time jobs and go to school full time. Yes I do stay at home. I also pay a couple of the bills and am charged a little rent money every month. A friend of mine keeps saying on and off again that I should move out or what not and all I’m thinking to myself is “To what end?” I don’t want to be struggling on my own. So until I get ONE supportive full time job I’m not dipping out early (and I won’t get that till after school is over anyway).
I don’t see it as a problem if circumstances are as such that you need to stay home.
If you make enough money to live comfortably on your own then you should. If not, I don’t see anything wrong with living at home until you do as long as you’re working towards that. Constantly struggling and being miserable is definitely not worth it just to be able to say yeah, I have my own place. But if your parents need you then there’s nothing wrong with staying with them for that reason either in my opinion, or them staying with you.
I’m 24 and still live at home with my mom and other siblings. I’m going to be done school in May(Hopefully), and more than likely stick around for a little while. I help with the rent and some other bills every month. This isn’t to say I haven’t been working hard these past couple of years. I’ve had to work 25 hours a week and go to school full time. In the end it has payed off, since I’m not in debt and essentially put myself through school.
If I do get a good job, I’m not even sure I’m ready to move out yet. It is generally a cultural thing for me, especially how things work back home. It’s not uncommon to see two or three generations living together back home(mind you the houses are much bigger and set up differently). I would only consider moving out once I’m ready to settle down.
I’m not ashamed to say though that I do lack certain life skills because of living at home. I can’t really cook and do some other small things that I should be able to do by this age. I guess everybody’s situation is relative to the unique circumstances they are in.
This is the one thing that appeals to me the most about living on your own or with a girl. You’re forced to adapt and learn on your own. I remember the one summer when I had the house all to myself a couple of years ago while the rest of my family went on vacaction(yeah I had to work), and honestly it felt great. Granted I missed certain things, but I had so much freedom to do whatever I wanted to do.
I’ve lived on my absolute lone only like three years tops, but I’ve lived away from my parents and family since I was 16.
Also, you destroy a lot of nagging identity issues you deal with as a dumbass teenager, once you become responsible for yourself, and you’re forced to manage your own finances and general survival. You’re no longer somebody’s son/daughter or sibling-- you find out who ‘YOU’ is, and you learn a lot about what you’re capable of and when you really do need to ask for help. Wouldn’t trade that experience in for anything.
Honestly, there was a moment when I was without a house or income, so the natural step would’ve been to move back in with my mom till I got back on my feet, right? I clawed tooth and nail to avoid that-- not just because I wasn’t looking forward to being ‘demoted’ by living back with my parents, but most importantly, because I already knew how to survive and rebound from a spot of bad luck.
I understand that being young, single and living on your own is a bit of a luxury, but it’s not a frivolous luxury thanks to all the growing up you’re forced to do.
Eh, I don’t see anything wrong with it if you’re trying to get your shit together, but I don’t get these 20-30 year old dudes with really nice cars, clothes, jewelery, etc that still live with their mothers in these shit hole apartments.
these things are more important than moving out or making 25 bucks an hour
-how you dress/carry yourself
-how you fare in social settings/wit
-looks
the thing is the guy who lives at home can save way more money to the point that he can drive a BMW with his chump change salary. you make 2k you put away 1k to 1.5k. youre a baller who lives at home.
When i was 22-23 i did trades and pizza delivery and made 3700 net a month, and lived at home. i put away like 2.8 k a month.
in 7 months i bought a car off the lot cash… 2008 mazda 3 (manual basic model)
having a brand new car gets you respect too. was i lazy for living at home? actually my mom passed away and its just my dad now, but yes some things they do(did) do, why? because naturally when you live with other people some chores you do some they do. its not a laziness thing its a mutal benefit. my dad is 74 he needs a caretaker, i have a whole floor to myself. i do some things for him. we share the workload and both save money. if he had to hire somebody it would cost a lot of money, if i moved out same thing. why not just be each others employee?
but back to womens…
sexy cool smart funny. etc
its always been more important
About cultural differences, I see a lot of people saying they live at home while going to college to deal with costs. Over here it’s sort of the opposite - because college is free it’s kind of a given that you’ll move out at that point and live near the school. A student loan is taken from the state to deal with living expenses, and there are some free money for studying and for being young+unemployed+living alone. So there’s really no such thing as being too poor to move out and go to college around age 20, unless you have like a shitload of previous debts or something which is unlikely at that time unless you’ve fucked up somehow.
However, I think instead here it’s much more common to be living at home some time after college, if you don’t manage to find a job. So high unemployment = more 24+ people living at home here I guess. I know several people like that actually. Sad thing is, they’ve all had a taste of freedom only to have it taken away…
I have always looked at it this way; like many others have said already times are tough, work is hard to find especially if you live in a heavily populated area. There is no problem with living at home with your parents because it depends on the situation in general. If your an abled bodied young adult and can work but do not then there is a problem; parents do not want to see their children suffer but at the same time you may feel that they do not support you to move out or help out with different finances is because they are trying to teach you a lesson in independence and responsibility just like you where when you a kid. I think this all boils down to pride and what others have to view or say…personally I say fuck them…they are not contibuting to the solution by critising and ridiculing you…im not sure why people are so concerned with what other people have to day about them…in the end it is like “who gives a fuck what you think about me, this is my life…your not helping so piss off”…but this is all dependant on the situation like I said before…
see buying some hot car while still living at home is the height of lame/low class to me. It’s like all the armenians in my neighborhood all have leased white bmw’s or benz’s but yet all live at home in crappy apartments in this ghetto neighborhood.
I dunno, I always saw that as like the stereotypical high school drop-out thing, the guy who buys the sports car in high school and then that’s the highlight of his life.
Well, that and the 4 touchdowns in one game…
That’s what I’m sayin.
Anyway, I’ve pretty much lived away from home since I was 18, but I had came back twice. Once after I left school for a brief time before going into the military, and then once again when my active duty time was up, just to help at home financially + paying rent, due to my sister being a financial leech.
I now currently live on the opposite coast(west) from my immediate family. However, my mom is actually moving west to retire.
Me on the other hand, I actually want to live in another country for a few years, at some point. I’ve always wanted to live in New Zealand. I’ll see if I can meet this semi-goal, already met the previous(go west) one.
Precisely. a lot of people shoot themselves in the foot (financially) by feeling they have to move out and be independant once they leave their teens. Are there many worse things to do with your hard earned money than to pay for someone elses mortgage?
If the option is there to live for free with your parents, then you can save your money you would otherwise spend on rent to invest in property, for example, which you can rent out and have some mug pay rent to you to cover your mortgage and then some. I would honestly even now consider moving back into my parents home just so i could rent out my place, rental is a nice little earner, but their place is a bit far from where i work. Its a bonus that i enjoy spending time with the folks.
When i play an rpg i dont buy every incrimental upgrade for my weapons and armour that i come across. i save so that i can buy the high value stuff midgame, the stuff most people can only afford the end of the game or through time spent grinding. Sometimes that means steamrolling the last half of the game with ease (like getting the growth egg in ffxiii early) and thats not a bad strategy in real life too.
I’m 22 and i still live with my mother. I would love to move out and live on my own but where i live, jobs are hard enough to get, let alone the rent for housing around here is usually $1300+ and i havent finished school yet so there’s no way i can afford it. I also have the problem of my mother’s disability -_-. It’s not easy telling people you still live with your parent(s) but if you have no choice in the matter, then oh well. I deffinitly agree though people in their late 20’s and 30’s that just lay around doing nothing are lower then being loser, that’s being a moocher. I work part time and work another job during the summer but all that goes to bills and my mothers bills v_v.
Where do you live with free college?
Sweden. I think it’s the same in most nordic countries. We have pretty high taxes though.
Among other problems, I hear…
i thought prices for houses where cheap in the states. a whole lot of houses over there are wood, how fucking expensive can that be? cant you just get a morgate and buy a house and own it in 20 or 30 years or whatever? such a fucking huge country with soo much open land, shit cant be that expensive. im not talking bout hollywood or manhatten obviously. just outside a city, cant you like buy a house for 100k? especially those wooded boxes you call homes.