Yea that would be mad fucked up to be shipped there by your kids. Imagine spending a good chunk of your life raising your family and end up living in a home with other elderly people because no one wants you around it’s pretty depressing when that happens to someone. I remember I met a woman who nonchalantly told me that she just moved her mom to a senior citizen home and that’s it. She’ll just visit her every now and then but her mom isn’t her someone she has to deal with anymore.
Though I can tell you that Asians tend to keep their older relatives around. Once the kids get a job and get everything settled normally the parents would like some company or people to take care of them. I know cousins who still live with their parents, not because they are losers and can’t get out, but because the parents would like to be supported in their later years in life.
The only problem I would see if someone still lived with their parents if they were mooching and not doing anything productive. I believe they are called parasite singles.
I have absolutely no plans whatsoever to ever put my parents in assisted living or a senior citizen’s home (and we’ve got plenty of them). I don’t care if I’m married, or in a relationship, or whatever, I can’t even FATHOM it.
Life is life, and stuff happens. I can understand if a person can’t find a job nowadays, or is fired, or something happens to them and they live in their parents home in their 30’s because of it, but WANTING to live in their parents home?
Something’s wrong here.
I am 27, and after 7 years of renting homes with other people through college (thnx mom and dad), I had to move back into my parents home last year. Now mind you, after two years and thirty five applications, I never got an interview at a bank, the economy was shit and a lot of people defaulted on my mom’s business, my died dad, and I quit my job at hertz because I could not stand it anymore, and I discoverd my college career center was useless in helping me find a real job.
So here I am, 27 and back at home. It sucks, and even with all that I really have no excuse. The thing is though, I make 17k a year right now and I could find a place of my own. Its just that I would have maybe 100-200 to live off per month, so I don’t. Its doable, but for people in my position its just better to ride it out and save. Now the people that can afford their own place and live at home, I don’t know I don’t understand that.
currently going through something like that with my grandma. My aunt wants to put her in a senior citizen’s home since she has alzheimers, though my mom and some of her siblings would rather look after her themselves. Everyone really hates my aunt right now for wanting to get rid of her/not taking her out with the rest of her family. There’s been a number of times where she would drop her off at my uncles place or my parents because they (my aunts husband and kids) were going out for the weekend. She basically doesnt include her in anything anymore. I told my mom if she did come live with us, i dont mind giving up my room (which i share with my bro, he doesnt mind either) to her. its a mess here. i feel bad for my grandmother.
To all of you who are in their 20’s and are having difficulty finging a job so you all can move out, I feel your pain.
I’m 28 and I still live at home, but I also do not mooch off of them and never borrow money from them. I pay rent and help them out, but is going to be even more difficult to move out due to my dilemmas…
-I have a lot of debt due to school and that damn old car I had to fix a lot.
-I graduated with a Bachelors Degree in History, but the School Teaching Career in California has gone down the fucking toilet. It’s really horrendous in California.
-My dad has had his hours cut severely at his job and my mom doesn’t work, so I help out with half of the bills now.
-Rent is high as holy hell in California.
A lot of my friends who are also college graduates also lost their jobs and unable to find one for year now and had to move back home.
The one thing that is annoying is that my parents are constantly pestering me of when am I going to start teaching even though I tell them and show them proof of how bad getting a teaching job in California really is right now.
I’m thankful I still have a job, not a great one, but still a job. Many of my coworkers are in the same situation I’m in, and they are the same age as me.
People should take account of the bad economy we are in to think when it comes to people still living at home due to loss of jobs or difficulty finding a job now.
Some of us sofa hop (like me :sad:) and go home when we have to. It’s who you know, while I prefer not being home I wouldn’t be pissed if I had to go back for say a week.
Living at home and helping out the parents till my dad gets off his feet with his new job. It’s been tough with the economy. Sucks for me though because I can’t move out (unless I was a total jerk) until my parents can sustain themselves.
i was in the process of moving out when i was 20 then my dad passed so i stuck around to help my mom cause she didnt work and was sick.
i stuck around till she married again a few years laster then rented the house behind them and still helped take care of her.
about 2 years ago she got really sick and my step dad asked me if i could move in and watch her while he worked and take her to all her appointments and shit.
so i quit my job and moved back home and took care of mom while he made the money.
then he passed so im 32 and i live at my parents house and pay most of the bills with my step brother.
sad part for me was my sister who does nothing but sit around and smoke weed and eat pills all day couldnt be bothered to take care of my moms for my step dad and the bitch pretty much uprooted my life cause she is lazy.
but yes i agree with people in this thread.
if you are living at home making a good amount of money and are only staying there so you can be stupid and spend money on whatever the fuck you want without having to worry about shit then you are there for the wrong reasons.
also chibi i agree i could never put my parents in a nursing home type place.
sometimes u truly have no choice. My grandmother has alzheimers. She absolutely needs to be watched all the time. We simply can’t do that, so the only option was a home (and she is in a home that is just down the street from my parents).
Around here it’s not that rare, renting or buying a house is expensive as fuck and wages are low. I’m almost 25 and still live at my mother’s home, and I will be that way for a while until I get a better job after I finish studying at least.
Work here isn’t enough to afford a home unless you have a really good job (which gets paid like 5 times less than in a 1st world country).
In many cases in the US, among non-asians, it’s geographic. Cali and New York are not right to work states (which have higher poverty, and below poverty-level wages) and the posters living there seem to enjoy greater financial freedom (despite higher costs of living), while from the right-to-work states we have posters in this thread living at home or moving back in, even temporarily. Economic conditions aren’t as good in right-to-work states and in many cases, the pay (for the jobs that still exist that you don’t have to risk heavy educational debt on the chance that you MIGHT get a job in that field) is either below, at, or just slightly above the poverty line.
I understand circumstances and cultural differences that lead grown ass men/women to stay at home under mommy and daddy… but they don’t know what they’re missing. Freedom is a beautiful thing. And unless you’re Jason Bourne with no friends or family, that freedom is fleeting. When you get older, you’re kinda obligated to raise a bunch of rugrats that you didn’t even want, or support an elderly relative because you’re one of the few members of your family who aren’t heartless scumbags.
I’ve done and seen a lot of amazing stuff in my time, but none of it tops being the king of your own household. Your home, your rules.