I guess it’s cool since he’s your EX-Co-worker now…but dude, you have to hit that shit… :party::party::chat:!
I’m meeting my co-worker tomorrow in Palm Springs…my BF is in New Jersey for a wedding right now, so he won’t be there(not that it really matters, but we usually don’t play around when we’re together on weekends…but he’s gone)…I’ll be hanging with my co-worker. We haven’t hung out after work since i molested his crotch and he said he wanted to blow a load in my mouth…we’ll see what happens.
I have a question for the lesbians of SRK (dont know how many exists but maybe some of the gay members can help too.) Do all lesbians act like they pack a penis besides the one in their clothes drawer? Because the manly ones with sharp hair does :rolleyes:
And for the gay members, do you or would you eventually fall for one of your hetero friends over time if you’ve been hanging out for a while? I suspect this of one of my friends because he acted all emo and called out our friendship after I didnt return three of his calls. Truth be told, I wanted some alone time since we’ve been hanging out for too long and the atmosphere was getting a bit too intimate for my taste. Nothing gay, but friendship was changing. I’m straight and I know since I’ve been to a gay bar and it didnt interest me (guys were attractive but I know where I stand). Thanks to those who read and your inputs
i will say though just cause you went to one gay bar and didn’t find a guy that was attractive to you doesn’t mean you arent gay. for that matter even if you did find a guy that you did find attractive doesn’t mean you ARE gay.
you needed some alone time from your friend… but that doesn’t mean that because you needed alone time and he needed to keep in contact with you that he was “feeling you” or trying to start a relationship. He could’ve been going through a rough patch and needed to talk to you when you just wanted some alone time.
You didn’t say that you Let him know that you needed some time alone and then he kept at it. That doesn’t sound like he’s chasin you down… sounds like he just needed a friend and didn’t realize you were not available because you didnt’ say anything.
I’d speculate… that it’s intresting that you brought up the attraction between you and he in this situation. could it be that you are possibly attracted to him on some level and having trouble coming to terms with that. No need to answer. Just think about that.
No, GTC, never been attracted to a guy before (or at least not at the same level I do for females) and not to him. We were buddies before this whole thing and after you pointed it out, it may have seemed a bit harsh of me to snub him like that. I’m not homophobic in any way if I’m coming across like that. Just never got into that phase when a guy wants to take a step into homosexuality. Don’t want to risk my asshole and still find out I’m straight .
I really appreciate your time and insight.
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if I need any fashion tips can I come to you guys?
I didn’t think you were homo phobic. but my last post i think hit all the points i was thinking of. so if you say you’re straight… you’re straight. enjoy.
Fashion tips? That all depends. post pics of yourself first and we’ll take it from there fingers crossed, hoping he’s bearish
Oh dude, do you happen to do the whole “wake up every hour then go back to sleep until you have to get up” shit? Been happening way too much to me lately. ><
Go Go Get em’ Trench!
lol.
I’m also off to meet some dude i met online. No pics, no nothin :sad: 40 years old, and stats wise he’s pretty big.
:bgrin:
Later ya’ll.
But in all seriousness, I wouldn’t be able to tell you, fashion wise how to dress cause I’ve never met you.
Fashion isn’t about just “hey, this looks cute I’ll wear it”
It has to fit you, like, you have to be able to see yourself wearing it, and judge (seriously) if it looks good or not.
Also depends on height, weight, body structure, skin tone (seriously) among other things.
I, personally, shop at American Eagle, Armani Exchange, Ambecrombie and Fitch, and Banana Republic. Because it fits all of the previous above mentioned stuff.
But…since it is winter (kinda…fall technically)
Zip up hoodies (pull over hoodies look gross IMO), darker colored (dress) shirts. (purple, red, black, darker greens and blues…browns…gray…you get the idea), dark colored jeans (NOT BLACK KFGHDJFHGKJHFGJKH black jeans are disgusting. I hate them)
Beanie Bills are always good (and beanies in general) mono-colored ones work well.
For the best few years Sandals have been worn year round…though I don’t like sandals…I still wear them, so, I suggest the same.
Now for stuff you should do EVERY day.
Wash Face (acne pads…whatever), if hair is short enough, STYLE IT, use wax though, it gives a more natural look to it and you can be more creative with it than with hair gel.
Cologne is always a plus, nothing is hotter than a guy/girl that looks AND smells good. Armani’s colognes are really good, so is Ambecrombie and Fitches.
uh…
off the top of my head that’s all I can really think of
Yeah, we talked about it in greater detail last night (after fucking like jackrabbits mind you <3). We both agree that since the both of us are so shy and awkward, it would need to be a particularly good friend, or at least someone really good at making us comfortable.
…And someone with nice moobs too. GOD I love chubs.
Why can’t you just type out “cock”? It’s not like you’re fooling anyone.
Anyway, with regards that situation, it appears that I’m the only naysayer, GTC.
I’ve never understood the seeming obsession that it seems like most “gays” have for ““straight””–double quotations there to account for both distate of that term and because of how many so-called guys supposedly ending having sex with so-called gay guys–guys. Outside of the more obvious feelings of fear of rejection and fear getting attacked/beaten, it seems like it would just be plain disrespectful after the first instance of accidentally hitting on someone (and this would go for any sexuality, though heteorsexuals have much less to fear in terms of the person they’re asking out beating them–maybe their significant other, though).
I mean, I could understand if you were like one of the people that didn’t believe someone when they said they were “straight” and you somehow believed sucking his dick would bring him out the closet. However, your recent post blindspot proves that you aren’t. So…it just seems…contrary, especially since you’re dating someone else.
I guess it just means that I’ll never understand “fuck buddies” or “one night stands”, even if “open” relationships are somewhat understandable.
That said, I also don’t believe that “nothing” will change between you and your former boss–the fact that he was your boss just seems like it’s more inappropriate in mind since this seems to be have been going for a while when was actually still your boss–but I’m sure you know that “risk” and it’s not like you’ll heed my judgmental warnings anyway.
At least he’s not still your co-worker. That would be at the very least awkward…
Sexual attraction does not know or bow to those terms. Just because a guy is straight (or assumed to be so), that does not stop me from finding him really attractive, and given that one can assume that the majority of men are straight, it’s not all that unlikely that one of them happens to be really really really fucking hot. At this point, we’re simply responding to instinct when we make an attempt on someone (many of which I’ve made, and understandably failed, and either respectfully dropped the issue or had a good friend turn on me because of it). I wouldn’t call it an obsession so much as it’s simply an extension of the fact that we happen to like guys (although there is a sort of forbidden aspect to it, IE “that which you want the most is that which you can’t have”), and even though hetero is assumed, it isn’t always accurate (most of us can easily pass for hetero as long as we’re not talking about gay stuff).
At any rate, I don’t really see what’s wrong here. He tested the waters, got a certain reaction and went with that. It’s not like the guy said “no, sorry but guys aren’t my thing and I’m not interested” only to have GTC pester him into agreeing. The guy pinched his ass, after all.
What is there to understand? Sometimes people just want to get off, and a romantic attachment isn’t really necessary to do so. Hence, people hook up with other people they find attractive, be they strangers or good friends, and have a good time without the BS.
You’re very cerebral, so I’m very surprised to hear you say that. It really is pretty cut and dry as long as you can separate sex from love.
He has shown at least a passing intrest in exploring that with me. my last post was just another installment in a long running series of encounters with this man.
In any case. Nothing will change… even if it does change whos to say it wouldn’t change for the better. I’ve hooked up with guys that have become good friends. I’ve made friends with people and hooked up with them after a friendship was established. I guess you are judging the situation based on your standpoint … and maybe were you in my stead things would be “different” but really you arent.
Also i’m not sharing this as an example for anyone else to follow this is just me talking to my buds who understand that I’m not some kid running around hap hazardly picking up “straight guys”.
Open relationships arent for everyone. but it works for me and my bf. Every relationship has different rules and the “rules” in my relationship allow for me to do this. So i’m not disrespecting my bf, I’m not disrespecting the straight guy that was my boss, and I’m certainly not even pushing myself on him. I think you are jumping the gun to assume that i’m throwing myself at this guy. But watever… i realize that you couldn’t pull off something like this as a heterosexual but hey… sucks to be you I guess.
No disrespect. I’m just saying is all.
Also… for the record nowhere in my post did i say i was looking for “advice” on how to handle this. Or opinions on the course of action I’m taking really… I’m grown. I’ll do what i want to do really. but I’m keeping a few people who want to know updated via the thread
I still don’t understand, but let’s insert one of those tolerance cliches here, ne?
I wasn’t disputing that.
I wasn’t attempting to, at least.
I certainly understand the whole “we can’t help who we’re attracted to” spiel since it gets used regardless of sexuality, mostly to justify stupid acts based on attraction to someone who obviously (currently) rejects us or we otherwise dislike or know to be an asshole.
I know the guy flirted back, which is why I comment on the whole “he’s straight :rolleyes:” thing as well. So I don’t fault GTC for that either.
It just seems non-sensical to me, unsurprisingly.
What exactly surprises you about that? I’ve never been pro-either of those things, but I certainly can’t remember saying that I believe that to be unrelated (despite, you know, “love” in the way that most people use still seeming a mere shade upon the surface of this existence).
Sex is a boring invasion of the body to me. It’s very little more to me than that.
Between that and a very poor body image (which I’ll not [solely] blame on going to Catholic school until college), it’s more of sexual attraction being an alien thing to me since humans are so filthy and plain, if not ugly, looking for the most part. Seriously, I can’t tell most people apart after working at retail for more than a year and being in college for more than two.
I’ve never been much a people person and with all the porn I’ve watched making sex that much more of “distant” thing, it’s difficult for me to wrap my mind around want to consent to any form of “that” with more than one person over a reasonable duration of time.
…But maybe I’m just an old-fashioned geek.
Probably.
You say that like it means something to me.
I don’t believe in married, though that would still, I guess because even I’ve been indoctrined in some things that I can’t shake off, make it “worse” (marginally) to me.
It was far more the case you were co-workers and this seems to have been going on for a while that “bothered” me.
Of course.
If I were in charge of someone’s life, I’m sure that I would make horrible, horrible mistakes…like putting myself in charge of someone’s life. That’s why one of the many reasons I don’t want kids, but that’s another story.
As for “advice”, I wasn’t really trying to give it. Merely commenting. This is why I put “oh well” at the end of my post, because even if it was advice advice, I doubt you would take it.
Not you even should, just because it’s something that I would never do.
It’s really not that unusual, but you have to think of sexual orientation as a spectrum and not as black and white. The guy may be “straight” in that he generally prefers women, just as I’m gay in that I generally prefer men, but it’s not all that unlikely or nonsensical for him to have some interest in pursuing any sexual relations with other guys who show interest, and vice versa for me pursuing women who show interest (if they’re my type =P).
In that sense, I can definitely sympathize with you as far as your distaste for these terms, because it REALLY isn’t always as simple as “100% gay” or “100% straight” (and nevermind that true bisexuals/pansexuals with no real preference are especially rare).
Those I’ve seen and known to have a more cerebral personality generally don’t have much trouble with these things, but you’re admittedly different in that an understanding of the more social aspects seem to elude you.
Boring? Now THAT’S an interesting opinion.
I’ve only been sexually active (and with only one partner, outside of some slight shenanigans with girls and like one other guy) since age 18 (I’m 21 now), but I can’t imagine being in that mindset because it’s almost always been rather fun for me.
Not to patronize you or anything, but that’s really a shame. For all I know you’re probably really cute too (not attempting anything funny, it’s just that a lot of guys I’ve had a thing for have historically had a horrible self-image for one reason or another).
Also, working in retail for a little over a year and being in college for about 3 or so only further enhanced my tendency to sort people into “want to fuck” and “other” categories, but that’s just me. =P
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