“that’s gay” or the use of the term gay in a derogatory or joking matter. How much does it bother you? I think from my perspective that it’s just lost all meaning after hearing it so many times. I dunno. Is it the same as saying that’s n-bomb something or other? What I mean is do hearing comments like that really eat at you, or are you just indifferent at this point?
Also, I feel kinda bad about hearing some of your coming out stories. My parents haven’t been the greatest, but I know if I was gay, they would just be like “meh, so?”. Or at least I’m pretty sure. I guess you never really know.
As for the people who posted things about people being confused when you come out to them, (for some reason a lot of gay people have come out to me) some people just aren’t sure if you’re fucking with them or not. Especially online people can be hella random. For me, at this point, I’m like “Ok? Do you expect me to be more or less interested in your sex life then I was before?”.
Very much like the n word… for me it depends on who’s saying it and the context.
your parents sound cool (pics if your dad is hot.)
Thing about most people coming out to you, like you’ve already read. Your options for talking about ghey to … anyone is severly limited. And you need to talk so if all you are is an unbiased listening ear to your friends than kudos to you.
Not at all. But neither does the “n-bomb”. Since the latter is used for one of a few reasons. 1. To provoke a highly emotional response. 2. Out of pure stupidity. And since I don’t allow others to control me via my emotions of a simple word #1 isn’t a problem. And people are stupid in general so ignoring that stupidity over a simple word is fairly easy.
As to the “that’s gay” thing. I don’t have a problem with this for much the same reasons, as well, this one specifically I chalk up to being multiple definitions for a single word. I don’t get mad because we refer to these messages as “posts” simply because they aren’t a pole of some sort. The same way I don’t get mad about the word “gay” not meaning “happy.” When people say “that’s gay” it’s not the same as if someone were to say “that’s homosexual” so I see no reason to interpret it that way just because the words are the same.
My stance on the whole thing is that people (ALL people) put too much power in words, and they allow others to manipulate them because of it.
As for the “That’s Gay” that term means nothing gay related to me…maybe it’s in the eye of the beholder. I might be a hypocrite for using that term myself…but I don’t use it in the homosexual context, and anybody I know that uses doesn’t either.
The only way I would use it in a homosexual context, is if I see a guy with face make up, short shorts, pink tank top with a man bag…then I would definitely say “That’s gay.”
Yeah. I understand that, but I’m never the one to bring it up. I tell people if they inquire, and then they don’t believe me. :lol:
As for the whole gay thing, I heard it hundreds of times a day in middle school and now that my nephew is in middle school I hear it plenty. I don’t let it truly aggravate me on similar grounds as LS’ reasoning, but I can’t lie and say it doesn’t bother me at all. I mean if it just slips out like “Aww man that’s gay! Oh, that suuucks! Fuck.” or something, I don’t care. When I see how annoyingly common it is to substitute gay for every negative adjective, and faggot for every derogatory name, it annoys me. Then again, that’s pretty much only with the younger demographic with whom I’m already annoyed if I’m even around them. Haha, like when my nephew used to have his friends over and they’d be bellowing homophobic remarks all the time, I’d like make clever jabs or questions because the kids always like me but never know I’m gay… Then I hear things like, “Oh I don’t really think there’s anything that wrong with gay people, I just don’t like them.” and that’s just. . . :bluu:
Middle school kids are retarded.
That was way longer than it should’ve been… basically it rarely bugs me. Fag/faggot bother me more than calling things gay, but I don’t let either truly get to me in any way. I just don’t like hearing it. They’ve both definitely expired any power the words once had, though.
When Batman Begins came out on Imax, I happened to watch on a “Bears Movie night”. Lots of big bald men with facial hair were in attendance. Seeing all this bear talk, I figure some of you would have enjoyed this. It was crazy, it seems like they took up half the theater.
Haha…i’ve brought this up plenty 'o times…do I really need pics of me in a three way with my bear friends on the stage bed while 20 horny bears/chubs sit around watching and playing around???
Unfortunately they don’t allow cameras in there… :sad:
