Amazing how you’d never have known that they ever looked any different had that not been the context under which you saw them, ne?
Personally, I hate the fact that the word is being used in such a negative way and refuse to use it as such. I’m pretty sure most people would prefer to not make a big deal out of it and just go with the flow rather than try to fight against it and be labeled an overly-sensitive bitch. Just my opinion though.
Yeah, funny how context works like that. In any case, from what I understand, if you get yourself a good enough surgeon, not even gynecologists can tell the diff between post-op and natal with a hysterectomy.
I figured as much, just thought I’d ask.
Another question, which you may be able to answer:
An internet friend of mine who I’ve known for 5-6 years+ online started hormones/etc a little over a year ago. When can I stop treating them like my internet bro and ask for pictures of their tits?
Also when am I supposed to switch over from calling them him to calling them her?
As soon as possible, as long as you have no opposition to it.
I dunno your relationship, but I get asked for booben pictures all the time and it makes me laugh.
As Lobelia said, the sooner the, better. Would have been best if you changed pronouns as soon as they told you, to be perfectly honest 
Eventually, I’ll convince you.
I wasn’t being “Mr. self Righteous”. I was trying to make it clear that I wasn’t attacking you, and just trying to fill you in on a little etiquette. I guess I should used some silly smileys or something.
If I was being “Mr. Self-Righteous” I would have replied with: “How dare you refer to me in the masculine-gendered pronoun! You are obviously some sexist male-identified, male-bodied pig! You come up in our Gay thread, (which should really be labeled LGBTQIPA2OTUAPO? thread, damn gays thinking they own the rainbow), with your heteronormative views, and make demands upon one of our sisters!?! I suggest you indulge your miniscule sized brain in a reading of the S.C.U.M. Manifesto. And dare not to walk along this treacherous path again, for next time, we won’t be so accommodating.”
Bonus points for anyone that can name what the acronym stands for in the silliness above.
I’ve just refrained from using any sort of gender based terms at all, no “dude, check this out” or “man that was so cool” and stuck with gender neutral terms.
Our relationship is extremely friendly, and we know pretty much everything about each other without having met in real life.
However, it doesn’t help that since they started hormones they hit on me and send me pictures of themselves as I can’t figure out whether it’s done in a joking or serious manner, considering they’ve said they’re only interested in girls but continuously asks me if I want to “make out” or think they’re hot in a picture. Are they simply seeking outside approval of their transformation and whether they look feminine enough to pass convincingly as a female, or something else?
I guess it doesn’t hurt that we’ve been e-buds for years and they live far enough away that there could be no possible repercussions for their actions.
I guess I’ll call them “her” from now on.
‘Dude’ is gender-neutral.
I’m a dude. He’s a dude. She’s a dude, 'cause we’re all dudes.
You’re pretty much thinking right. Trans-persons need compliments moreso than the average post-pregnancy girl. As long as we’re getting positive responses, it keeps our ego up enough to go on each day. Well, I say “we,” but I can’t really speak for others. I’m very aware that the world will label and treat me as they perceive me and so I need to be validated pretty often to maintain my confidence. I’m needing it less and less as time goes on, but I do still want to hear it from someone else to be sure that I’m not fooling myself with the proverbial rose-tinted glasses.
Awesome :tup:
I find it very insulting. When I hear it, i almost always ask people to stop. And if they don’t I’ll attack their intelligence. I’ll start by asking “So how old are ya? 25… you don’t say? Well that’s odd, because from your language, it sounds like your in 7th grade.” And if they still don’t stop, I don’t say anything more, but I lose all respect for them. And I’ll only hang out with them in a public setting with other people.
If a community reclaims a word, (ie. ***, dyke, nigga, cunt), it’s usually not ok for someone outside that community to use it. Unless your real close to that person, and with their permission.
But using gay to mean stupid isn’t reclaiming shit. It’s lazy people falling into a trap.
*Edit: Wow, the board filters out f.a.g.
Yeah, Dude is becoming gender-neutral. Though I try not to say it, cause I feel it makes me sound like frat-boy. But I swear it’s about every other word that comes out of my mouth.
GET OUT OF MY HEAD.
Edit: Board also takes all caps posts and makes them all lower case.
Duuuuuuude. :tup:
I live for you Ms.B!
I think its cool that folks are actually curious or whatever and no issues happened that im aware of
Edit
Have you ever seen or heard of the show Noah’s Arc?
Ha, I missed this earlier. You’re right, you probably will one of these days.
I told you, this thread is the bestest :tup:
I watched the first season of Noah’s Arc a couple of years ago. It was sweet and touching, but I couldn’t really connect with any of the characters. It was kind of like Beverly Hills: 9021Gay and seemed more fantasy than real. Unless California really is like that, then I am all kinds of jealous. Noah was adorable though and I would totally cuddle him until he explodes ^_~
I do the same shit. It’s really not that big of a deal imo. Granted I don’t exactly like how it has a negative connotation, but words are words. The only meaning they have is the meaning we give to them.
Yeah, people get too sensitive on words if you ask me. I can see where someone would take offense to it, but you gotta pick your battles.
Cool tattoo GTC. I was thinking of getting this somewhere on my body soon…
I’ve been wanting a tattoo for years, I just get lazy really. lol
And I didn’t realize you were sensitive about your art, you shouldn’t be man.
Oh yeah and JusB you didn’t describe the Knight sexuality from FF. I’m curious to see if it matches me. Peace y’all.
Oh, I’m sorry. It’s going to have to wait a bit though, work has fried my brain :wasted: