One could argue though that the, (forgive my reuse of the term) “slippery slope” of keeping smaller issues in is inevitbly going to lead to bigger issues. So then … is it better to have the small arguments or the big ones.
Of course i don’t expect to see eye to eye on this cause again a big issue to you is a small issue to me and vice versa. My friend Jim was livid that his boyfriend kissed another guy in front of him. I’m Like … so what my bf does that all the time, no biggie. But that’s just a case in point. But it is intresting to see your veiw point I’ve the feeling that my bf is more in line with your thinking.
See still working on the compromise issues here. And you are correct it’s unfortunate but sometimes a breakup is the compromise.
Which leads me to the question are you guys cool with your ex’s? Best friends? or just like ’ we arent fighting at least’.
"I shouldn’t have to tell you you should just know."
thankfully it’s not as bad as that… at least in my experience. Even my worst fights in a relationship have only lasted about a day.
the longest fallout from a fight that i had with a guy i was with was about a month. But that was also a breakup.
That’s just a bad rep women get due to being so much more emotional than men in general. But men do this too usually just over different things. And in an relationship with two men, since no two men are the same it’s inevitable that one will be at least a little more emotional than the other. And when those personality traits clash, you have this sort of “womanly” conflict.
Straight guys think gay guys have it easy in this one respect because we shouldn’t have to deal with this, but we do. It’s just (like all things) a little different.
That many small issues is a big issue. And let’s make no mistake if I have that many small problems with a person then it’s MY fault not theirs that things aren’t working out. I’m all about people taking responsibility for their own actions and feelings. If I have this many issues with a person the compromise here is we need to break up, because that many are a deal breaker. I go back to my stance of I don’t think people should change specifically for me, if I can’t deal with it I need to get out. Similarly I won’t stand for someone saying I need to change for them. <<Another deal breaker in my book.
I’m don’t actively dislike any of my ex’s. But I don’t talk to any of them either. This not due to the circumstances of our break up, but due to the fact that I don’t keep in touch with people. Ask anybody, I never ever call people unless I have a specific reason to do so. I’m not a fan of small talk or calling “just to talk” or “just to say hi.” Chaz can attest to this. I don’t even call my mom unless I have a reason to do so. In fact only two people have the luxury of receiving a call from me with the “Well, i haven’t heard from you in a while so thought I’d call.” and those are my Mom (for obvious reasons) and my lesbian friend (for reasons too detailed to go into here).
But we’re getting off topic… so yeah…
cringes ohh… That’s the ultimate deal-breaker right there.
Noooooo! :looney: :looney: don’t even say that one out loud. :lol:
Word.
Same here… it’s really annoying being friends with girls (or at least the ones here) when you’re like this. They all get offended and get their panties in a twist. I’m not even your friend, am I!? Blah blah blah! Shut uuuuuup I haaaate when people complain about that shit. I don’t call you, I don’t call anyone. I don’t even call my boyfriend, we just figure out free time through texts and meet up. :razz:
Aside from chaz being able to attest to this. I am in line with this entire paragraph.
it’s not that i don’t value the friendships i have… I just … fuckit … I"m just a bad friend i guess. DLJ can attest. I get busy and I don’t call anyone back but I am trying to get better about it. My mom… forget it… now that we’re speaking again after 8 years even now she won’t hear from me for about 3 months … then i’ll answer a call and then it’s another 3 months. my dad… brother and sister… I’ve called my brother once. and my sister once. But only to tell my sister to stop talking shit about me cause i have no qualms beating up a certifiable bitch.
Like, literally. It sounds less gay if you just don’t say no homo. Of course, they think it has the opposite effect. No homo, even though it’s mostly a joke, is just like a beacon of the stereotypical insecure straight guy which just makes me think they have some kind of… tendencies. Because why else would they worry about it?
"aww baby… baby it’s not even like that… babe… “ runs after you Catches you and rubs your back
"baby… you see… If we don’t have trust… We aint got nothing.” <-- classic line.
On the subject of body language, what makes me only a middle tier bartender is that what I’m feeling is written all over my face. I’m a very literal person and I’m not good at bullshitting. If you’re creeping me out or pissing me off I cannot hide it.
On the other hand my personal customers love me cause I don’t bullshit about things when we talk. It’s got me a small but loyal crowd of folks who I’m genuinely glad to see when they come up to my bar.
You know what I love? Gay drama. I never get involved in it but to hear someone else tell me something that happened to someone somewhere, you’d have to ask yourself ‘Is this real?’
Straight drama is the normal ‘guy/girl cheats on me and wah wah.’ But gay drama is like a damn Greek tragedy:
‘Ok I went to a club one night…this guy I knew hooked up with a friend’s ex boyfriend in the back of a Ford Taurus. I saw them making out and told a friend of mine who owned the car to get the hell out and make sure you clean up afterwards. Then the guy who was giving head, hooked up with some other guy at the club and was kissing him but then the other guy in the car with him, was dating the guy WHO THE OTHER GUY WAS KISSING!!!’
