then go ahead and do it
Misha:I remember that following the dinner, my cousin was getting ready to leave and he was saying bye to everybody and him and I just shook hands and exchanged a hug. He’s a part of my family regardless of the mistakes that he has made. However, I don’t know whether or not I should seek finality on the issue and to just keep going. He even admitted that he’s a flat-out racist with his attention directed towards African-Americans. Jesus, the man doesn’t even let his kids watch BET (Black Entertainment Television) or any other channel centered around African-American culture. He has that channel blocked:wtf:.
i’ll plunk in my two cents worth here on the family discussion…
in my family it varies with each generation…sometimes with each individual. we’re about as mixed as most families (choctaw/cherokee/english/african-american…etc.) my dad’s family can act pretty snobbish at times and my mom’s family can still be a handful as well. but they’re all mine and i love everyone of them, even if we’re all crazy and ignorant on occasion. HOWEVER it doesn’t mean I excuse their behaviour and don’t call them on it when they do act stupid/hateful, and vice versa whenever I get “out of line”. In my family that’s what we all do, because we are family. If you know that what they’re doing/saying/teaching their children is morally wrong, call them on it. Although opening this type of dialogue is frustrating for many, it is however necessary. Ignoring the problem doesn’t make it go away either…sometimes that just fuels the fire.
here’s also something to consider: if we didn’t have assholes like racists within the world we wouldn’t know the difference between good and bad behaviour either. we wouldn’t know when someone had “gone too far”, unfortunately. i look at these extremists as measuring sticks; even the subtle racism can be measured nowadays. which is also in itself sad and pathetic.
it is refreshing to see some people aspire to be better than the last generation as well. by all means learn from the mistakes of your elders. even your enemies teach you something.
now, i have an off topic question for everybody:
what new year’s eve “good luck traditions” do you practice?
*my sister’s in-laws eat black eyed peas for luck
*my friend dallas told me about placing a silver dollar in a pot of green beans and whoever received the dollar in their plate had good luck year round (also keeping the coin)
any others?
Ang: My mom and aunt fill a bucket full of water shortly after the New Year begins and empty it by the front steps. I’ve been told that it’s a Puerto Rican tradition or maybe just a family thing.
SATOMIBLOOD: I read your post about the family problems that you are having & I commend you on your belief that skin pigmentation should not be judged by people, but character instead. I’m sure you love your family, just not their biased thoughts. When I was a bouncer a few months ago at a local college bar, most of the customers were in fact caucasian. I was well-known and liked because I guess I knew how to communicate w/ people. A few told me about their family problems w/ racial profiling. And how it really disturbed them that people could still be this way, even in the 21st century. One asked me, “How do I handle anyone using bigotry against me?” My reply was this, “I was born black, odds are I will die black. So that means that 'til the day that I drop, I WILL BE BLACK AND BEAUTIFUL.” It’s still sad that even in the new century, people will not let bigotry die. But I believe that if they were in a life-and-death situation and the only person who could help they were racially biased against, they would quickly forget those views in order to be saved. In ending this post, I believe that most racists are hypocrits anyway.
What bothers me is that Satomi said his family is Puerto Rican and do not like African-Americans. Puerto Ricans are a racially mixed themselves. From what I was told they are a mix of African, European, and Indian. The way I see it is if you’re hating a particular race and you happen to be half, part, or have the same blood flowing thru your veins, then you’re basically hating yourself. And then to dislike a race that your’e no better than is something I will never understand. But it’s good to see that you[Satomi] are sticking to your guns. Keep them blazing like a John Woo flick.
:lol:
Gimpy: Funny that you said that because when my mom told him we had African-American blood flowing through our veins, he scoffed at the idea and dismissed its validity> I wouldn’t say my family is racist, but rather my cousin. Yes, some family members have made some rather questionable remarks, but my cousin is the most notable of them. Frankly, blood is blood but I view him as a hopeless idiot. His wife has him wrapped around her finger. Yep, he’s whipped by the woman our entire family hates. The man is a “?” mark as far as family gatherings are concerned. His remmarks no doubt piss me off to the point that a little flame is burning inside of me, but I can’t get out of line. I can only disagree and tell him that this attitude will be the death of him and that it’ll bring him down to a Neandrathal status. He’s got a son and a daughter so imagine the influence his attitudes are having on them. At least I’m eudcated. At least I’m not bothered by something so petty.
Satomi: Oh it’s your cousin that’s the worst. Yeah he is a hopeless idiot. I guess in his eyes y’all are one single race of people. Nobody nowadays say that Puerto Ricans are mullato. But what he needs to realize is that he isn’t going to get anywhere with that negative attitude. He never know when he’s going to need help and a black person might be that person helping him. And if he is PUSSY-whipped, then he might be repeating what his woman thinks. She probaly been done the wrong way by black people and have a bug up her ass about it. But that’s how society is. I was talking to a girl online who was Dominican but when if you saw her you would think she was black because of her skin color and stuff. She said to me that she doesn’t date black men because they’re black. I was thinking to myself, “Your hair is about as nappy as mine”.
Need some advice in dealing with this girl at my job. This isn’t my stalker, but it’s someone that gets under my skin a lot more. Click on this link so that you get the entire story. Now, after you read this, I want you guys to answer me this question especially the females. Now I don’t mean to point fingers or to make accusations, but why are a lot of girls whiny and attention-deprived? Also, what makes them want to say some of the most hurtful things you can only imagine. Why are they less hesitant to take a shit on somebody. This doesn’t apply to all, but I seriously want a way to deal with this. Ignoring it isn’t enough. I want to say something witty so that I can end her onslaught as well as to make her think about her actions.
http://shoryuken.com/forums/showthread.php?s=&postid=510676#post510676
ok…
If the world owes her something, what is it for? what contributions has she made to the world?
the “more attractive” remark was a shot at your ego which from the sounds of it she hit square on the mark. is this a priority for you or for her? what difference does it make if you’re up to her standards? if you don’t like this girl already because of her shitty attitude, then why care about whether or not SHE thinks your her type???
if you’re only being nice to someone just so they’ll be nice back to you, then you’ve already lost the concept and shouldn’t expect it back at all…ESPECIALLY when the person doesn’t even know the definition of nice/kindness. it’s a waste of positive energy if you’re only expecting an immediate return. it’s easy to be nice to someone who’s already a nice person…no challenge there. this girl has your work cut out for you though. she obviously needs an example of true compassion and kindness. is she right in saying that you’re attempts have been phony? or do you have to prove to her your own sincerity? if not, stop wasting your energy on even thinking about this person. if so, re-examine the truths and misconceptions between you two.
that newspaper-knocking-bit along with her other actions that you’ve posted sounds like she’s trying to get your attention for some reason, be it personal or business-related. besides the fact that she’s driven you to post about her says she’s accomplished annoying the shit out of you at most.
the question about being whiny and attention-deprived comes from consistently being ignored or patronized, mostly by men, but not always; it’s a last resort effort. “the squeeky wheel gets the grease”. the thing is, MEN do this too. half of my male customers throw a temper tantrum if i don’t stroke their ego the right way. gags and these are old drunken men still whining for attention, so it’s not gender-biased when it comes to needy-ass behaviour.
Personally I refuse to pacify the tantrums, but I will however confront the problem. You do need to have a sit-down with this co-worker, with a mediator if necessary, and deal with this before it gets any worse. Do the list of complaints beforehand so you can itemize what you’d like to see change, as well as consider the truths to her remarks to you if any, so you’ll be prepared for her issues as well.
good luck to you Erik.
Ang: Trying to solve this solution is as hard as nails. I mean, when I try to come up with a solution, it just backfires because she’s all about twisting wrods around and making a game of it. Personally, I could do w/o her and I just wish she’d go back to school already cause she’s a freshman in college and it’s out of town. At one point, she was cool b/c she had appeared to have mellowed out, but she said it was b/c of the mono she had gotten from a guy she kissed. I hate to say it, but she’s kind of a skank. Like, she’ll tell me about the guys that she has made out with and gotten fingered by. Sorry to bring in the details like that. I’m not really jealous of how a couple of guys in her high school and college got the chance to do that stuff with her, but as a guy who’s single and hasn’t been in a relationship for 2 years, you must ask yourself “Do I really want to hear this?!”. I can honestly say that along with a few other people, she can be one of the worst human beings I’ve ever met and not in a sadistic way either. She has this thing about her that oozes superficiality and shallowness and this is the kind of shit that I had to face in high school. Do I really want to face that bulshit again? Anyway, my best bet is to just wait it out until this dingbat goes back to school. She’s annoying the hell out of the other guys too and I know I’m not alone. This is drama is what it is. Like my stalker situation only a tad bit more annoying. I wish it’d be over, but there’s also a part of her that likes to instigate these sorts of things. Man, I really wish I had a sack of doorknobs on me right now.
:lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:
these new tidbits remind me of Mycah’s friend in Cleveland; nicknamed 8-ball (you’ll have to ask mycah about that one) but the only time i met her she did something A LOT like that (describing personal sex stories) because she thought it was cool/whatever. that’s pretty much the last time i ever spoke to her again. moving out of ohio helped a lot 
ask the other females at work their opinion on this; maybe they’d be willing to handle the “dirty work” for you. shrugs
as a woman i’d turn the conversation around on her; whenever one of the sex stories start, interrupt her and ask her if she’s ever been tested for AIDS/STDs? does she use condoms? does she get tested every 6 mos.? does she do more frequents PAPs since her activity has increased? what kind of b.c. does she use (the patch, pill, the ring, IUD???) you could even say you’re thinking about going pre-med if she starts to get defensive.
You people sure dont know a lot about cpu’s…
Especially pissing people who know can know a hole lot about your cpu.
you should at the very least know something about the person before you get in there face… becuase sometimes when you least expect it… it can bite you back in the ass.,
Ang: Well, I know for sure that there’s another girl involved that’s doing the same shit to get under my skin so other women isn’t really an option. I mean, I don’t wish to make this situation balloon when it shouldn’t. My best bet is to just let it be because they are only temporary people in my life. Just obstacles that I have to encounter everyday in my life like a traffic jam or a long line at the mall. Theres isn’t really much I can do. Oh, and from what I know she’s still a virgin, but she just keeps talking about how she wants to make out, but not with me. It’s one of those things that you don’t need to hear and a bitch slap would do me business. Oh well, I’m 20 years old and still dealing with this drama and funny thing is that this is the only place where the drama resides. Why, I could write a fucking book about it. Fuck it. I pretty much told the girl to fuck off yesterday so that should keep her away from me for a while.
Look man…the same thing happened to me before and its happenening cause these girls like you…Have you been doing what I told you to do?.. Let me kind out youve gotten a little swagger in your step…:evil:
You people sure dont know a lot about cpu’s…
first and last warning.
don’t threaten people on these forums.
:lol: But these girls aren’t worth it CBear. They’ll take a shit on you if you let them. Besides man, nobody wants to be nice to a complete bitch correct? I mean, why go out of your way for someone if they have a care for themselves and nobody else? She’s a blameless broad. Thinking that every action she performs to spite me is jusitified and that I deserve the shit that she gives me. I’m fucking tired of being blamed for shit. She gives me no credit as a human being whatsoever. Judges me in every which way while thinking that I’m some depressed and suicidal person. Who doesn’t get depressed and who hasn’t had it as a problem in their lives? It’s a natural course of life. And tell me, would you honestly give the time of day to a girl or girl(s) that will do nothing, but spite you over and over? Constantly ranting and raving about how you’re never the nice guy they think you should be when they’ve got their thumb up their ass? Damn, I’m really venting here ain’t I? Well, hope that answer will be suffice.
Dont tell me that im dreaming
I m glad we see eye to eye on these women. And odd situations.
Acumabear who ar u to tell me off… hAve you seen the shit , they threaten me with guess not, plus all the shit they talk… oooo Wow if you have a bitch that works for SHoryuken… uto im in trouble now. Bitch you better be able to back your shit
. you may have the balls on the net but if you want you come down here , tell me in person. BECUASE YOU ;NEVER GET RID ME.
enless i chose. This is my 3 rd name under shoryuken. 1st
THE RAGE, DRAGON HEART, NOW DRACO, witch is nice…
Just calm down, getting kicked out of shoryuken is not of the world
later
i’m outta here folks. those that i want to talk to know where and how to find me. i’m sick of this troll shitting all over this thread and don’t have time to log in here anymore. i already pm’ed inkblot to cancel my account. i’ll see you all on the “other” forum.
later ang
If you mess with her like shes messing with you, you can get in her pants…Then after that, leave her alone…:evil: