Iâm sorry to hear that man. I donât have any personal advice to give, but I know someone who does.
read within.
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EDIT: some people may be confused what my answers below pertain to. Here you go.
http://thoughtcatalog.com/lorenzo-jensen-iii/2017/01/37-women-explain-what-self-proclaimed-nice-guys-never-seem-to-understand/
1: Starting it off with that one eh? Iâm sure these,âNice Guysâ will stop
treating women like vending machines when women stop treating them like ATMs. As
long as it works, donât expect it to change.
2: Friendship isnât a down payment for sex. However, I donât think these guys are
out here dating their friends, so this is irrelevant.
3: âButâŚWhy doesnât it work? Iâm a guy willing to make dream scenes
from movies into reality, but the girls donât dig me? WHY!?!?!?â
âŚIt is simple. Youâre not a star and this isnât a movie. Chances
are, youâre not rich, nor are you famous. That guy on the silver screen? Heâs
all three. It isnât what he does, itâs what he is that they see.
4: Truly nice guys probably wonât announce it, especially not after seeing what
happens to those who do anyways. Besides, women can sniff out,âNice guysâ with an
unnerving accuarcy that makes our most advanced targeting systems seem primitive.
Donât worry nice guy. She WILL find youâŚwhen it is time.
5: Says who? I donât remember seeing any particular life handbooks that
says,âNice is a requirement of a human beingâ. Some are, some are not. No, you
donât get special credit for being nice. For a lot of people, being nice gets
them worse treatment than if they had been hateful. That is why a lot of people
arenât nice.
6: go look at answer four. in particular: âDonât worry nice guy. She WILL find
youâŚwhen it is time.â To expand upon that answer: While women
have better options than you, it is not going to be your time. Simple as that.
When the well of available men is starting to run dry, THEN your being a "Nice"
guy will be attractive to those women.
7: Oh boyâŚNot this one againâŚ
Look. If youâre acting in a way that is not like youâŚTHEN
ITâS AN ACT!! A LIE!!! YOUâVE COMMITTED PERJURY ON THE DANCE FLOOR BITCH!!! This goes for ANYTHING!!! If you act like a thug, a rich guy, a sweetheart, etc
but that isnât truly how you are, THEN IT DOESNâT MAKE YOU THAT PERSON!!
However, if they are NOT acting, and they are not doing it to get laid, and are
being a sincere personâŚHow will you know? I guess you have to take
a leap of faith Just like everyone else.
8: Already went over this one. Please refer to either number four or number six.
9: HAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!! Omg. We men also
donât want to risk pregnacy, herpes, or YOUR clingy drama for a shit lay. As a
lot of men are finding out, we can add on other things like false rape
accusations, getting fired from a job (over some drama), being demonized in public just because,âShe saidâ, etc.
I know this is hard to believe, but sometimes, guys just donât want to have sex.
Stop shaking your heads. This isnât some horror movie, this is for real. You
know, a nice night out with someone we me online, in a store, or whatever the case
may be might be all that we wanted. Who knows if itâll lead to more down the
road, but if this is what you think of men, I can see why nice doesnât work. You
hear nice and automatically assume heâs everything but when you donât even know the guy.
10: Congratulations. We have FINALLY come to one that I can agree with. Putting
down on yourself isnât good, and neither man nor woman should do it. Pity points
arenât worth it. Ever. Nobody is perfect, but everybody can be better.
Ironically, I donât see what this one has to do with being a nice guy.
11: Hereâs another one that I must sadly agree with. despite any number of things
saying women want to be treated like a princess, they often reject the guys who
do. You ever see princesses? Look at those movies closely. Those are some unhappy, bored bitches. No wonder they keep
getting kidnapped. They donât want to have their lives endangered. They just want
so badly to have something exciting happen in their lives that even a forced
vacation to swamp monster city is worth the risk.
12: While the term might be âfriend zoneâ, there is nothing friendly about it.
Guys. You are not not going to get laid in the friend zone. you are not going to
even get friendship in the friend zone. you are a spare utility at this point.
You will get called upon if she needs a ride, wants to borrow money, needs a
shoulder to cry on, or whatever else doesnât she wants. Your feelings towards her mean NOTHING. If you are in the friend zone, cut off ties with her. She is
lost to you as you are to her. You must move on.
Btw ladies. This can happen to you too.
13: LMFAO!! Really? Being nice is immature? And just how is a man supposed
to,âprove itâ? I mean, just SAYING it makes them immature after all. Is this
another one of those,âBe a manâ shaming tactics? really. Iâm stuck here.
14: Please remember this post when men do not buy you drinks, turn down offers to
go to lunch with you, or donât offer to help you with whatever you may need help
with. Nobody is entitled to anything.
15: I most certainly do not condone for any reason people who become stalkers.
There are few things a human being dislikes more than the feeling that they are
not safe, and stalkers are the embodiment of this.
LOL Again at online stalkers. Everybody is a brave bastard behind a keyboard, but
that is also your strength as well as theirs. Put them fools on ignore and be
done with them.
Look. we all like and want attention once in a while. Sometimes, we get that
attention from people whom we would rather not give it, but thatâs life. If I had
to live my life being afraid of every interaction with another peson, I donât
think Iâd want to live. Donât worry about the guys giving you attention. The
real fear wonât set in until nobody looks your way.
16: After reading that, I only see this: Somebody I would be desperate to get
away from. The things you listed arenât desperation, but Some of them can be pushed
too far, like spending too much time around a person. IMO, this post screams of
paranoia.
If you want to see an embarrasing scene, wait until some guyâs ex calls him during
a date with his current gf. Sparks arenât the only things that fly.
17: Oh God Not again. Already been over this one, see answer 14. Nobody is
entitled to anything from anyone. we Get it. Moving onâŚ
18: so basically, being nice means nothing as compared to being attractive?
Thanks for clearing that up, not that it needed to be.
btw, Girls donât lean on the friend zone when they donât want to tell a guy heâs
unattractive. They lean on it when they want keep using said guy for resources
(See answer 12) by making him think that if he just does this one more thing that
heâll have a chance.
Yes, unreciprocated love does suck. Please do not talk about it throughout the
entire date by moping and crying about your ex husband, boyfriend, or whoever else
broke your heart because that new guy is going to become another ex in a flash.
If you keep living in the past, youâll never move forward.
19: already went over the self pity thing. (Answer 10) As far as your,âNowhere is
it written in the stars that anyone has to like youâ argument, it isnât written
that you are doomed to know only lonliness and the pain of rejection until your dying day. Hope. Itâs what keeps us running when weâve litteraly failed every other time, but wonât give up.
20: LMAO @ trying to throw the blame!! HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!! Again, looks like
Answer 14 is going to be the same answer here, plus this. If Iâm really your
friend, I doubt that Iâll ever want to have sex with you. If youâre really my friend, you wonât
need sex to keep me around.
21: If you wanna date jerks, that is indeed your perogative. However, there is
this song you might want to keep in your playlist called,âWhere have all the
men gone?â Sooner or later, youâll learn the words to it if you keep dating
jerks.
22: Believe me, there are a LOT of men who want the white knight thing to die and
go away, and most of them are men. You may also believe me that it will not be
men complaining about it when it does.
As far as Iâm concerned, women are grown girls and are capable of decideing when
they want to fuck or not. The problem comes from taking responsibility for these
actions when they go bad. you have a regretful night out? Own up to it. you
chose the guy, now live with it.
Seriously though. White knights need to GTFO.
23: Same goes for,âAll men are pigsâ because some of them screwed you over. Just
sayin.
Guys. If some girl rejects you, just brush it off and keep moving. She might be
the girl of your dreams, but Iâve never seen a woman change her mind about not
wanting to date aa guy after being called bitch,slut,whore,and/or skank in public.
Sheâs not the one. There are others. Decide if you wish to continue or not, but
standing there yelling at a stranger isnât going to help anyone.
24: FOR THE SAKE OFâŚWE GET IT!! YOU DONâT OWE US!!! DAMN!!! CHANGE
THE CHANNEL ALREADY!! Also, Re read answer 14.
For the record, We KNOW whatâs going to happen if these men get hookers. Theyâre
going to be called every shameful name in the book. Theyâre wrong for wanting to
ask to spend time with you, but theyâre also wrong for spending that time
elsewhere. Ainât no winning with the women it seems.
25: canât argue with this. Not putting up with someone elseâs shit doesnât make
you an asshole. Those guys are probably looking at this list and laughing
themselves into a knot.
26: No NO Dear Lord no. it just keeps coming
back!..(See answer 14. Again. )
Some of you women donât handle rejection well either. Iâve seen many a guy whining in his beer at many a bar, and Iâve seen guys get their cars beat up
with pick axes, nearly run over by angry exs, some didnât quite dodge in time, and
other such fates. People sometimes lose their minds over the word âNoâ. Such is life.
27: (points back to answer 14.) To make this answer shorter, Take your whole
post, switch the genders, then leave.
28: codependency is what happens when you actually NEED each other to live.
Be nice from
a distance? Thatâs the best advice Iâve heard yet!! Iâll be so distant youâll never find me!!
29: This might be the dumbest one yet. How does that work? Do I need to say it
in front of a mirror or do I need to raise my fist over my head first orâŚ
Just damn. In case you donât know, shaming tactics are becoming less and less
effective these days. Trying to demonize someone by making them into something
they arenât isnât going to work any better than trying to turn into a douchebag by
saying âIâm a nice guy!â in front of a mirror. I actually went and checked. It
didnât work.
30: Um, what? Whoever said that this would make anyone nice? Seriously. Iâve
never even heard of this. NEXT!!!
31: This one holds true for a lot of things including sex and relationships.
unless youâre an insanely rich guy or drop dead gorgeous woman, nobody is going to
put up with that shit for long.
32: There is a difference. The word âtoâ was changed out with the word âatâ. As
for what you described, Thatâs just simple human error. Sometimes, you just donât
get the hint. The whole blowing up thing was covered earlier, but no. Flying off
the handle about it isnât the way to go. It has happened to me enough times. I
thought one thing, I was wrong, once I realized what was up, I left. Nobody got
hurt, and life continued on. not a big deal.
33: Oh man. This again. Sure. It CANâT possibly be anything else right? Heâs
gotta be a bad guy no matter what he says or does. Heâs gotta be lying because as long as heâs not REALLY a nice guy, Itâs not MY fault if I get rid of him!! Might as well call him a creep, or rapey, or
whatever other words will help convince you that youâre right while youâre at it.
34: sure. Someone being boring and/or whiny is a turn off. THAT is something
that probably will never come into style. Of course, it begs the question
of,âWhat is your idea of excitingâ to be asked. That answer changes depending on
who you ask. some people actually prefer a little peace and quiet in their lives,
so âboringâ may work out for them. Whiny? No. I donât think thatâll ever get
dates.
35: You wonât? Well congratulations lady!!! youâre in the half that DIDNâT get a
divorce!! In other words, there are a LOT of women who would, and it probably
isnât about being âNiceâ either.
Since youâre married, howâs about you go to your husband and hang out with him.
You donât need any guys, nice or otherwise. Right?
36: Of course not. Thatâs why they have different meanings. A person can be nice
without being good, also, they can be good without being nice. Some may even be
both, or neither. For the record, THIS is the new dumbest thing Iâve seen in
here. Number 29âs title got taken.
And last on this laundry listâŚ
37: âenoughâ? And what exactly are YOU bringing to the table? Hmmm? A guy has
to be this list of things before he can even be deemed worthy to speak in front of
you, and for what? WHAT DO YOU HAVE? For what reason am I to undertake such an
endeavour? WHY ON EARTH SHOULD I EVEN WANT TO BE WITH YOU FOR EVEN A MOMENT?
Nothing? Silence?
And this, gentlemen, is why âNiceâ donât work. This is why NOTHING that youâre
doing is working. Youâre looking for something that simply, these women donât
have anymore. Donât believe me? ask yourself,âHow many times have ANY of these
posts mentioned the word love?â Iâll save you a trip. Itâs only twice and it
isnât in reference to searching for or finding it. NowâŚhow many times does
the word Sex pop up? might as well throw in fuck because they said those two a
lot more than they did love.
Men. Itâs a game. Itâs been a game. A lot of you knew it, A lot of you have awakened to this, and some have yet to discover it. Save for a scant few entries, screw this list. As for women who are tired of dealing with âniceâ men, donât worry. Once youâre standing behind the wall, these men wonât be bothering you. Itâll be as if they donât even see you. :tup: