Dude don’t fight with her. Cherish what you have because that shit won’t last forever. Me and my girlfriend broke up last night after being together for almost 3 years, because we are about to be too far apart and I want to give her the chance to meet someone better than me, and she wants the same. I probably haven’t been this miserable in my entire life. Love sucks.
She can be selfish sometimes. This has been a running problem all throughout the relationship. This past weekend, she had to go to her grandparents house. I said Ok, wish we could have the weekend, but she’s got a life too. Then I told her that next weekend, I had a couple of things I had to do…one of my students invited me to a fireworks show, one of my co-workers invited me to dinner the next day, and the next day was a farewell party for a friend. She got all upset that we wouldn’t be able to spend the weekend together and though she wouldn’t admit it, she wanted me to turn down some of the stuff I agreed to go to. That kind of thing bothers me, especially when I understand her stuff.
So this weekend she has to go to grandparents house. On Friday, we went to a party, my friends. But she had a lot of fun too. She had to leave early, so I walked her back to the train station. There was something wrong with her, but she wouldn’t tell me. Just “don’t worry, it’s not your problem”. But of course I’m concerned, something is definitely up. I go back to the party but I can’t really have fun wondering what’s up with the girl. She calls me an hour later and I ask her to tell me what’s wrong. She says its a stupid problem and she doesn’t want to say. My phone battery is dying, so I’m pleading with her to just tell me what it is. She finally does - she was disturbed because I didn’t touch her as much as I usually do that night. I told her I wasn’t aware I’d not done enough and apologized.
The next day she goes to her grandmothers. I have another party to go to, a friend’s farewell. She calls, and I excuse myself for 30-45 minutes to talk to her.
The next day she’s back from the grandmothers but goes out with friends. I really wanted to talk to her today, so I waited for her call. It got pretty late, so then I called her. She said she’d call me back, and she did one hour later…she talked for 5 minutes, but then said she really wanted to go hang out with her friends so she apologized and we ended the conversation.
I understood wanting to see her friends, but I get frustrated when I’m always the one understanding but then when it’s her turn she gets all pouty. So now I’m annoyed, and I’m going to go home and either have to fake that nothing’s wrong, or be honest, and then she’ll pull the whole getting mad at me for getting mad at her bit. I’d almost rather finish work and just take off somewhere else.
Sigh.
EDIT - Dyce - My girlfriend is going overseas next month. It’ll be a year long separation. She’s made it clear that she wants to wait. I kinda do too, but in times like this I start thinking maybe I should be selfish too.
I can’t say wait, man. Just can’t do it.
Every single time I have seen a man hard up on a girl, and they have been seperated for even a short ammount of time, the girl ends up cheating.
But, that doesn’t mean all girls are like that. And it doesn’t mean that there can’t be a reconciliation. Many of the guys I know who have been cheated on are still with thier girls (for unknown reasons).
As for the girls I know… Well… None of them have been cheated on, heh. So I can’t really give advice from that point of view.
But, I think you should judge based on what your heart tells you to do. And hopefully not what your dick tells you to do.
If she can’t forgive you for what you felt was right in your heart, then fuck her. Thus, your heart can’t lead you wrong.
[Edit]: And what that means is: If your heart tells you to wait, and she doesn’t, then fuck her. And if your heart tells you not to wait, then it just wasn’t ‘meant to be’. However cliche that may sound, it really does only take one person to destroy a relationship. If either one doesn’t feel right, then the relationship won’t work no matter how much you compromise and/or endure.
Oh man, the irony of my life continues to get better and better. I’m beset by it.
I don’t even know why I bother.
I’ve seen quite a few people in long distance relationships. In the first few months, it’s easy to stay committed to the person and go full-force on the wait sentiment.
But then after that, they get used to a life without the other person. And as they do, they meet people who they’re interested in and kind of want to date. But then they can’t because of the promise to the other person. But then they get frustrated because they want to date, but they can’t because they already have a significant other. But then they don’t really because that person is really far away. It turns into frustration, some of which usually ends up getting directed at the other person.
At first, I thought about dating other people. If after a year my gf was still better, then I could go forward with that relationship confident I’d found the keeper. If I found something better, well, upgrade.
Now, I’m willing not to date any other girls. But, I do kind of want to retain an active sex life. I’ve got a lot of opportunities to do so (it’s not a reflection on me or my game on anything - that’s just the situation here). For me, it’d be no different than rubbing one out (to steal a term from Million), just for the physical sensation and no emotions involved. Usually, I say I won’t do that, because I know she doesn’t want me to. But in times like this, I feel like I’ve been bowing to her wishes for long enough. It’s time to cater to my needs. It’ll keep me happy, and she never needs to know. I almost feel like I owe it to myself to do something for me at this point.
I dunno, I’m just rambling. Still avoiding going home. 
long distance relationships? been in one for 2 years and am still faithful, i wont leave her, and i know she wont leave me, our feelings for each other are too strong…one more year and ill ask her to move in with me, i know she wants to, she hates living at her home ( long story ) anywho, just try to work it out mang, itll be worth it in the end.
night srk, sleepy time. Evo in 4 days!! AGH!
PSYCHO CHRUSAAAAAAR !!!
Thats rough =\
What does that mean, exactly?
What the fuck kind of crack have you been smoking? And what the hell gave you that impression?
Whoever told you that they were in a long distance relationship, and they said it was “easy” and/or “no problem”; they were either lying to themselves, or lying to you.
It is not easy, it is a problem, and it takes a fuck of a lot to get through it. First few months or not.
Granted, it is possible. A lot of people have done it. But it is NOT possible to get through it unscathed.
Weather or not she can get through it is the question. Weather or not you can get through it is the REAL question.
Only time will tell. I think all this anxiety is just really hurting you more, though. I say deal with shit once it is presented to you. No real way to deal with it in advance.
In the end, you shouldn’t listen to any of us. You of all people should know what is best for you and your girl.
What the hell?
Have you ever been with her? How long have you been with her (not counting the long distance part)?
How many years were you with her before the seperation?
How do you know she has been completely faithful?
How far away is she and why?
How many of her friends do you know?
How many of your friends does she know?
Did you meet over the net? Is your only contact with her currently over the net?
And most importantly, how many other girls have you been with besides her?
How many guys has she been with? How do you know she has been with that many guys?
I’m just talking, Xeno. Not a lot in my life has been going well.
Tony’s view------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------Girls’s are sex and/or trouble… I wish females were just honest like some of us guys. You fuck girls, act like you want, which only includes fucking ( hey use safe sex tho). If you are married, or with one chick, it’s ok. These damn nut buckets, if you want cuddly no sex or sleep later hoe…i hope that EVERY male doesn’d discver this
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Someone needs to hit up Crest. 
Anyone wanting a troublesome, pain in the ass mutt that likes shitting all over the floor can have one for free. All you have to do is get over to Hwy 74 next to Twin lakes trailer park in Louisiana and pick her up. she’ll be the one outside the fence on the roadside. If you wait long enough, there might be a 3-year old whining brat as an extra bonus. Do not mind the fellow with the large glowstick on his back. That only means that I’m making sure the bastards don’t get back into the house.
-Starhammer-
Oh man, I thought it was my monitor or vid card or something.
Brush that shit down!
Thanks guys. I guess in the end, I just gotta do what I feel is right. It’s frustrating though to continually be upset/disappointed over the same problem. Sometimes I feel like it’s something minor, that I shouldn’t get worked up over something like this as when things are good, they’re really good. But it still gets me and I do feel justified in my feelings.
Like now. She said to leave the door unlocked, cause she’d be here by the time I got off work. Been off work for two hours now and she’s still not here.
I need to go somewhere.
*Bumping up l8 night’s stature8
...and yea bitches are so greatYeah definetly do what you feel is right. If you think you would be better off breaking things apart before she goes off then do it. Everything happens for a reason, atleast that is what I believe in and that is what’s getting me through this shit now. If it is meant to be then shit, we will cross paths again…I really hope so atleast.
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Nothing much to write tonight. I heard my friend’s g/f aruging with her sister over problems with them moving in. Figures. They haven’t even gotten there yet and there’s problems already.
-Starhammer-
The hell happened to this page? Damn dashes up there, Tondashocka. :lol:
EDIT: Never mind, I’m on a new page. WORD. haha.
Anyway, just saying wassup. I’m gonna go play some Halo.
Females just seem to be everybody’s problem on late night 
:lol: things just don’t look right without ol’ freek-a-leak dancing in your background. Good luck in Halo. I’m still working on Einhander. I’m trying to get that damnable red one before winter sets in, but it ain’t looking to good right now.
-Starhammer-