Bitchass non spanking lurker later.
I don’t get it. Why would your kid act out if you didn’t treat them like an entitled brat. The only reasons i can fathom are because they are hungry, tired or bored. In that case hitting them is the last thing you should do imo.
As a living organism it is instinctive for us to test our barriers and limitations. Proper discipline is what is needed to make sure that the youth don’t disregard certain barriers or limitations in order to protect them and others. If people just had the ability to properly discipline their children and the time to do so we wouldn’t need crutches like religion and television(which are equivalent to the same thing imo).
Everyone agrees that child abuse is bad, but using physical means to direct a child that is developing communication skills can be beneficial, especially to humans who communicate more non-verbally, well at least back before everyone had a cellphone with wifi.
Very good point. I think the main issue is time rather than ability. Kids don’t have responsibilities so they can spend all their time doing stupid shit, hitting is just the quickest way to stop them (in the short term of course). Do it for the kids!
This…end of discussion. Its the 21st century where pop culture trends can dictate how a child act and does not know his/her place. In the Long run the child would thank their parents for doing a punishment involving violence as long as its not just a random beating with no lesson being learned. It will help shape them into respectable members of society. being like the mom in the video, letting the child act on its own without any guidance it can result to long term affects of children feeling alienated from their parents and thus does not feel like they care. lol like 99% of the anime/manga on this take of this usually makes violence on your child for the sake of them learning from their mistake being a good thing since ignoring them will make the problem worse and using words won’t seal the message/won’t take you seriously. I first thought of this vid too when this was posted lol
I think people are getting spanking and outright child abuse mixed up. I got spankings as a kid (with a switch no less), and I turned out okay, if I do say so myself. Today I have a great relationship with my parents. Spankings aren’t pleasant, but sometimes you’ve gotta drive the point home when nothing else fails. I only got them if I deliberately disobeyed an order that I knew was wrong. A first offense just came with a warning, but if I did it again (or if I lied about something), then I was in trouble.
Also, a parent shouldn’t enjoy having to physically punish their children. I know when my dad would say “this hurts me more than it hurts you” I thought he was out of his mind, but as I got older I saw what he meant. No decent parent wants to be the one to put their child in physical harm, but sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do. My parents told me that spankings were arguably the hardest thing about parenting, and now that I’m older I can respect the fact that they actually took action instead of letting me get away with whatever nonsense I was doing. Honestly, I see too many parents afraid to take authority over their kids and lay down the law. I see stuff like SuperNanny where the parents are cowards and I just get salty watching.
Stick to dipshit black/white absolutist logic because you attempting to actually argue is like black people trying to be “critical” of Obama to make themselves sound less racist.
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Good thing you missed the parts where she showed the parents ways to discipline their children WITHOUT resorting to physical violence. When evidence is presented it is merely dismissed through logical fallacy’s such as ‘i got spanked n i turned out ok’. Mind you i do support the use of physical violence but only when the kid has shown physical violence to others, even then i wouldnt take it out of the question that the only reason the kid is resorting to violence is because he/she saw me being violent.
Dont know your age. Don’t know if you even rebelled or not. i know i got butt whoopins and i grew up damn poor… i wasnt entitled… i simply tested my mom/nana/family/neighborhood… via those test i learned a lesson…cant do that shyt no more. I came out damn fine.
as buster cannon stated i think everyone is confusing abuse with a good disciplining butt whoopin/spanking. With that society has become they “why?” ‘dont spank them’. but again plenty of us of age and knowing has seen that parent that wants to tap the tail of that lil kid that is acting out. dont sit an act like you havent experienced that kid in the grocery store just acting up an the mom WANTS to tap that butt but her FEAR of how she is viewed of simply being a parent is causing her to simpy say _________(insert name) STOP IT RIGHT NOW. know what happened when i acted out in the store…oooooooooops my bad i was verbally warned and already tasted my moms combo ability so before i got out the car i was INSTRUCTED to not act up or else. my mom didnt have fear of me as her child nor did she fear societies views cause THEN people knew when you were getting disciplined… yes even the cops (ask any of them… especially the males)…
in fact those butt whoopins simply made things easier as you got older. you KNEW not to act up in school… you KNEW not to embarrass your moms or parents cause i think everyone 25+ has heard that not only did you get in trouble in one place but your about to get it when you get home. now when you were a teen you didnt get the butt whoopins an such you simply got punished (items dear to you removed or privileges)…
so again i dont know you… dont know how you grew up. dont know WHERE you grew up nor the values instilled in you. i know i got butt whoopins that set my ass straight an they were definitely warranted being i wanted to test those limits.
Could somebody link all these journal articles? All I get is people copy/pasting the shitty summary of it.
When my dad hit me I didn’t learn anything. My granddad, I did. A small hit is okay if the lesson is appropriate, but really what kept me in line was my mother and granddad’s way of talking to me like I was a real human being. They figured out what I liked, what I wanted, and essentially figured out how to use this to get me to do as they pleased.
For example, the guy who turns around his daughter at her favorite movie. Brilliant. My grandparents used to do something similar. I would stay up really late at night, much later than a 9-year-old should have, and I guess they suspected I had some kind of insomnia or anxiety problem. They were right, I did. And to fix it, they motivated me by showing how things I wanted myself weren’t possible with my behavior.
But what my granddad did was write down a list of every single TV show I would miss if I didn’t go to bed on time.
He would tell me what time McDonalds stopped serving their weekend breakfast buffet.
I don’t really remember the rest of the specifics, but at a young age it taught me that controlling my impulses worked out in the long run. I think I’m ok now, I came from shit and I’ve been on my own and doing great since I was 18.
All of the good things I learned were from the talks I had, certainly not anything other than the two, maybe three smacks on the head I ever got from my granddad. And since I don’t actually remember why I was ever hit, I can’t say any of that taught me much good.
Somebody is not only confused, but also a terrible excuse for an alternate account.
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A lot of what I would want to say on the subject has been said well enough by Tanner and a few others, but I have something I’d like to add. I’ve seen quite a few posts in this thread where people basically have said “Yeah my parents spanked/whopped/beat the shit out of me and I turned out great, but they don’t hit my younger siblings and that makes me mad.” Did you ever stop and think maybe they realized hitting their kids isn’t such a great idea and doesn’t fucking work?
Damn nigga, you must’ve been that dumbass kid that couldn’t piece together cause and effect. Hitting didn’t make you go stunted, its the fact that you weren’t smart enough to save yourself the ass whoopings.
As a very young kid I learned this vital question after the first one: “is this worth getting my ass potentially whooped?” That helped me process my decisions through a very rigorous theoretical model built in empirical evidence.
They could have come to a multitude of realizations and/or just stopped giving a fuck. Who cares.
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I think all of this no spanking stuff started back in the 90’s when some kid called the cops on his parents after he received one and they were arrested. I remember it being sort of a big deal. After that parents stopped spanking their kids out of fear of being locked up for it and the age of pussy ass parents started.
My own daughter threatened to call the cops on me once when I was going to spank her. I spanked her ass anyway then handed her the phone.
You’re saying some really harsh shit to someone whose personal life and past you don’t know at all. There is a difference between hitting a kid for not washing his hands after the bathroom, and hitting a kid for running over the cat’s tail with his bike.