If your partner thinks it’s cheating, it is. Cheating is a personal thing between 2 people. Some chicks will let their guys bang other chicks as long as the girlfriend/wife is there and approves of the girl (threesome/swingers etc)
But would get pissed off if they caught that same guy having sex with that same girl, alone.
If you didn’t tell your girl about a handjob you got/are thinking about getting, it means you are pretty sure she won’t like it, hence its cheating.
Incidentally, my wife has given me the green light to cheat in our relationship.
She has said multiple times both to me and as a general exclamation while watching movies/talking about other people’s relationships:
“Why would he tell her he cheated? What an idiot”
“If someone I loved cheated on me I wouldn’t want to know”
She’s asked me in the past if I would tell her if I ever cheated and my answer was “nope”. She’s still with me, happily married so…
(I haven’t cheated on her in our 8 years of marriage BTW, though I did plow a one night stand on the beach and in someone’s backyard while we were engaged)
Never told her, and have absolutely no plans to in the future.
All bullshit aside though, if your partner ain’t cool with it, it’s cheating. You don’t get to decide if what you do is cheating, only your partner, and vice versa. That’s why setting guidelines is very important in a relationship. “Oh, you’re not cool with me giving out blowjobs? Well, you never said anything.”
Props to @Razor for getting some niggas to take this thread seriously. I hope you were well entertained.
This reminds me of those “good” girls who’ll say “I’m not fucking you or kissing you because I’m committed to my boyfriend, but I’ll suck your dick. It’s not intimate like sex, so it’s technically not cheating.”
Cheating = crossing boundaries. If you in a serious, then you and your partner should know what those are because you both should be stating and enforcing them. If you guys don’t do that, then you deserve to get cheated on when she all like “He’s just a friend/workmate/my cousin.”
Kind of offtopic but, I’ve met plenty of people who didn’t consider this kind of thing cheating and the one thing they all had in common was that they put themselves far and away first before others around them. Whether they were funny to be around or cool to discuss things with, I’d always be sure to remind myself that when the chips are down, these people will become complete tossers. Unsurprisingly enough they all did. I expect you’ll take serious issue with this of course, but then they always do…
Lol, So you create a poll and then when someone disagrees with you. Rather then consider what has been said or perhaps instead try to convince me of the validity of your position. You would rather outright dismiss my view on the basis that I have been here for less time then you. It just sounds to me like a very weak attempt to justify your already obviously, unpleasant nature.
Surprised he went Jamaican with the jerking, but maybe he really liked seeing Usain Bolt and another guy cross that finish line from imgur with racially motivated word assignments overlayed for ulterior - that guy who makes bad threads called this shit a bad thread, DAMN!
I have never done that, to the terrible threads in the 3s forum; Really wanted to say: “It takes meditation to get thru these 2015 Roshikari threads” but it was too late.
Absolutely
Cheating happens on the emotional level.
The mere act of thinking about getting a handjob is cheating.
This is why if you were to stumble into a dark room and have sex with someone or something you honestly believe to be your partner, it wouldn’t be cheating, but it would be cheating to think about their cat while having sex with them.
