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This is the last post I’m putting in this thread. I’m studying for my patho final and this is getting stupid. There’s something fundamentally different between putting a post on your FB that only people who are friended to you can see and putting a video on youtube. Also, do you ever always check all the post that people actually write? I want you to write a post complaining about your job and come back in 1 week and tell me how many people actually viewed it. What he did was put this on youtube and with the intention of showing it to way more people than just her friends(he addresses every other parent).
Was what she did stupid? YES. Was getting her laptop destroyed justified? YES. Was it the most effective way of disciplining her? Not by a long shot.
He wasn’t in a gang
"Kimberly said her son was a good kid, but one who may have been desperately trying to fit in."
ONCE AGAIN. If he had beat the shit out of his kid and threatened to put the video online then it would have been SOOOOO much more effective. Instead the video gets posted and then
"After the video surfaced, Taylor was picked on and ridiculed at school, his mother Kimberly Ward said."
And now your personal information is out there for everybody to see.
she was ugly so she gets what she deserved
Well, I think it is. Im sure this little brat thinks that the people on her friends list on FB are the most important people in the entire world. More important than even her parents. She’ll soon find out that they’re not. She’ll probably find out that these people really arent all that important and dont really care much about her anyhow. You know, seeing as they’ll be making fun of her and shit.
Yeah that girl is screwed, she doesn’t have the looks to recover from such humiliation
This experience will just show her who her true friends are.
You think teenage girls care about real friendship over social status? lol
Yeah, and if her parents care anything about her (and it seems that that is so) they’ll make sure to explain that to her.
At the same time he always wanted to join his uncle tried preventing it the best way he could.It hates me to say it but sometimes the kids fail the parent not the parent fails to kid.he could have been punished anyway but he wanted to join again he wanted that association as a kid he thought he could reap the benefits that’s how gangs sucker you in .No amount of disciplining can stop somebody from wanting to b like that a parent can try hard as hell but if a chi
D wants to do something he will do it.Its terrible but human determination is a very scary thing.a sense of belonging or want can drive you to do unspeakable or amazingng things.Shit like that scares me about having kids because wants and needs and what’s good and bad for you too a kid is drastically different or warped compared to an adult
OMG how is this public humiliation? Dad buys the laptop. Even maintains the laptop. Dad destroys laptop. That’s how it is.
When my parents took stuff away, I knew I’d see it again. Except for one time. My 125’th anniversary gold-trimmed Winchester BB gun actually got taken back to Wal-mart after I brought home a teachers’ note, effectively destroying it. I didn’t even know my mother had bought it for me. My behavior at school pretty much changed over night as a result. Mom got her money back and taught me a lesson. Win win. For me it was lose lose. I’d never see that thing again. Even if I did somehow convince my mother to get it back, it was a limited run item that was never going to be stocked again in the time of no ebay/craig’s list, etc. Still miss it to this day, but I digress.
In this girl’s case, a big part of the “crime” was publicizing it on Facebook. The punishment should be equivalent, meaning that it be publicized. Perhaps not on Facebook, but something equally embarrassing. Yes, it is embarrassing for a parent to have their kids acting up in front of people. A large part of punishment in public is the embarrassment factor. It’s a bodily function that tells you when you have violated a social norm. You NEED this function! The girl tried to play that emotional game on her parents, effectively blaming them for perceived misgivings in her life, and that had to be dealt with in a manner commensurate with her actions.
Dude can’t be blamed that his video went viral. he certainly didn’t mean for it to go that way.
First off, he specifically put it on her FB site(grievance section) . Who’s to say that someone, maybe her own friend’s didn’t copy the video and put it on youtube? Second, let me remind you yet again, that this wasn’t the first time she did this stupid shit. And who gives a shit about the relevance of people viewing what ever people put up, again it’s the principal behind it. This isn’t about a job, you don’t get it, it’s about a child disrespecting her own parents on the internet. He addressed this her friend’s and their parents again invalidating your youtube BS.
And as far as being stern and justified, I’m going to say right on the money.
I dunno man, I probably wouldnt have destroyed that laptop. Shit, my daughter is grounded right now for being disruptive at school and talking back to her mom. Im typing this shit on her laptop right now. For the time being this thing is mine. w00t!11huh?
Meh, shit happens. She was clearly given an opportunity to redeem herself by not being a dumbass and she blew it. The best we can hope is that she learns from her mistakes and becomes a better person from it.
I remember when I came home at… 7PM or so one time without calling or telling my parents, when I got home my father had just arrived from work and still wearing his work clothes. First thing he did was he grabbed me by the shirt and lifted me then slammed me against the door and proceeded to punch me a few times. See, I knew I fucked up. I had a tendency of playing hide and seek without telling my mom that I was playing hide and seek so I’d “disappear” randomly when I was a little kid. Made her cry a few times (thinking I had been kidnapped) and she was pretty shook up that I wasn’t home on time (living in the Bronx and everything. I was pretty good about telling her my whereabouts to begin with and didn’t really like staying at people’s houses when it was dinner time). I learned my lesson, if you’re gonna stay stay out past 3:30PM, call. I was like 13 too… First born = experimental child.
My parents probably thought that they took it to the extreme because my sister was allowed to be outside til 11PM when she was that age as long as she called (I wasn’t allowed to be out that late even if I did 
). Fucking biased parents (specially my mom, my sister can get away with murder and she’ll support her), gotta love them though. It’s good for you to realize that your stupid behavior affects your family and that are capable of not doing stupid shit, even if you are a teenager.
Personally, I have a hard time believing that anybody posts something to Youtube without hoping that it goes viral. And it’s not like an IT guy is ignorant of the possibility that his video of him shooting a laptop could be become viral. It combines comeuppance with destroying expensive things; it’s like if the Will it Blend guy only blended things that belonged to his cheating ex-wife.
I think the example you gave of what happened to your BB gun would have sufficed in this situation. If he wanted to humiliate her in front of her friends, he could have posted a message about it on her Facebook (which he already did from my understanding). I can’t say much about the situation since I don’t know the people or their situation that well, but I thought that taking the laptop out back and unloading a pistol into it kind of made him look like a jackass. I love seeing spoiled kids getting punished, but video taping it and putting on Youtube seems like a bit much. That stuff never goes away.
Regardless of the appropriateness of the punishment, shooting the laptop was stupid as hell. That thing was easily worth more than $130, and she still has to raise the money for a new one regardless of how he disposed of it. What a waste.
The lesson being taught is of much higher value than the item being destroyed. It’s sad that all of you are so attached to the laptop. I guess that’s what happens when you live in such a materialistic society.
But its not a waste if she learns her lesson, its money well spent.
But part of why he was mad is because he spent all that money on her laptop, and then he just went and threw it away completely. Heck, he could have given it away to somebody or donated it if he wanted her to have to pay him back for it specifically. And a laptop is a lot of money; if I wasted $300+ in a fit of rage, I sure wouldn’t be happy about it. And she learns her lesson regardless of what he does with it. No matter what he does, she loses the laptop and has to buy her own replacement. But not putting bullets in it doesn’t give you internet fame.
And for the people that are wondering whether he was the one that put it on Youtube, it definitely looks like his channel. Unless he has a stalker, of course.
I can’t resist. I’m money on this path final any way. First off it’s a public youtube page, and his personal page. If he wanted to only address it to her fb, he would have posted the video directly on her wall. He works IT he should know how to. Justified? So you publicly humiliate me, I get to publicly humiliate you? That is so petty coming from an adult. Parenting is not about “trying to get even” it’s about letting your kid know why she was a dumb shit. I have not once said that I believed it was bad parenting, I just believe it was poorly executed and completely ineffective.
He is mad not because he spent the money but because she didnt appreciate it.
If you put on your grown up hat for a minute Mechzz you would realize that it wasnt a parent trying to get revenge but a parent trying to teach a lesson. Seems like the lesson is that it does indeed feel shitty to be trash talked on the internet by a loved one.
I don’t know WHY he destroyed it but I can think of a very good reason. She was probably very attached to her laptop (and to her electronics in general). Sometimes people get attached to their devices a lot more than they would get attached to a person (family included), so destroying it hits where it really hurts as it is an excellent way to send your message. Ultimately the laptop can be replaced, regardless of how much money he spent on it. He probably thought it was a dumb thing to do as well, but figured it would get the point across in which case he probably thought the pros outweighed the cons. Sometimes you just gotta do shit like that because it’s the only thing that works. It sucks, but that’s the way some people have to be treated.