I do this . the last three. They don’t work all that well but the first hour is fun, then everyone leaves…
life is hard huh lol.
when i used to feel sorry for myself, i thought of all the people who have it so much harder than me and who do so much better.
heres a good way to see things too: when you look back on your life, do you want to know you gave up and became a whiny little bitch when things got “hard”? or that you manned up and overcame? one life, bro. give up or get going.
there is absolutely no refutation to the point that if depression beats you, you have failed in life. everyone has problems. the weak just can’t take life as a human. if you think you are more than a pathetic excuse for a man, then you bust your ass and get on your grind and you will be better. if not, then you might as well kill yourself.
I’m not sure what you’re replying to. <-- Not an aggravated tone. I’m really just not sure.
Unless someone’s brain is pumping toxic levels of seratonin, there’s still enough control to recognize self-sabotage. (BTW, I’m speaking from experience.) I didn’t just say “think positive and it’ll be all right,” I said to focus thoughts on something productive, to fight it.
I also said (twice) that professional help is best and that I’m no scientician, and yes I’m aware there are no “scienticians.”
Dr. B has the perfect imbalance leading to super-balance.
This has worked for me. Avoid psychiatrists, their only answer to your problems is pumping you full of prescriptions. Medicine is not the answer, it’s merely a tool to help you manage the depression.
The truth is, different people respond differently to various treatments. You need to find the right combination that works for you. Therapy is a big help for most people. Some peeps find that being alone is bad for them so they surround themselves with family/friends as much as possible. Some folks focus on a hobby. As for exercise, that’s a pretty broad term. For some, just running or hitting the weights will do the trick. Some people like sports because of the social aspect, and some (like myself) like the martial arts or yoga because of the focus/concentration that is required somehow “centers” them. You may laugh, but meditation has also been shown to help people with depression.
You need to try different things and see what works for you. One way or another tho, your first step should be with a therapist. Remember tho, like all people, you have to find a therapist whose style works for you. They may be too “sappy” or may be to blunt or direct with their approach, so if the fist therapist you see doesn’t work, don’t give up.
It’s all about trial and error, and seeing which tools work for you. There is no one solution that works for everyone.
My girlfriend has anxiety and it gets pretty bad sometimes. But I help her out a lot. She takes meds once in a blue moon if it gets really bad. I’m a positive person and the first bf she’s ever had, so I usually help her with it a lot. Just talking to her a lot, going out sometimes, and just being in her presense a lot seems to help a good amount. Whenever she gets an anxiety attack around me I’ll usually calm her down and remind her of the postive and such. Mainly her anxiety gets triggered cause of shitty friends and if she has to get up in front of the class. Other than that its pretty much smooth sailing.
Terrible advice bro
The problem with this being that even with recognizing self-sabotage, some depression victims will deliberately not stop sabotaging their lives because they feel that life isn’t worth living or that they deserve the sabotage.
You have to find something in life worth living for before you can focus on doing something productive.
Part of the reason I say that is because of self-experience: in my teens I was prescribed such about every single cocktail of anti-depressants and anti-anxiety meds that they could offer. No joke, I probably was prescribed around 20 different combinations of meds in a 5 year span.
None of them had much of any effect on me, except one that caused me to have bloody stools, and another which had a strong reaction to which put me in Shock.
Meds alone aren’t always the answer.
The other reason is what Mort said, people respond to different treatments. No one’s depression is exactly the same.
Some people can get away with popping a happy pill every day and going about their business. For others, if there’s a deep-rooted cause or issue, therapy and counseling are more useful than meds. For others, a simple change in lifestyle: exercise, eating better, making friends, trying new things is best.
Or any variety of those above.
All I’m saying is that the idea that all depressed people can just pop a pill and feel better or that depression is something that you can just “think” your way out of are very harmful myths.
Unfortunate you saw professionals and it didn’t work, but I think its kind of iffy to rely on your friends for help with this stuff because people always tend to give advice on things despite having no training or background in solving those kinds of problems.
On therapy: I have very mixed feelings.
Unfortunately, quite a few therapists are the stereotypical (?) egotistical blowhard quacks. However, a few of them are quite amazing. Most are somewhere in the middle.
For the vast majority in the middle, I will say this: you will only get as much out of therapy as you put in. If you don’t put in any effort in therapy sessions, you won’t get anything out of it.
As pherai mentioned, a professional therapist is not your friend, and that’s a good thing. People need friends and family for emotional support, but no matter how much they know you, they’re not always the best ones to root out psychological issues. Sometimes they simply just don’t have the knowledge, sometimes they can’t communicate effectively, and sometimes the people you love are too afraid to tell you the things you really need to hear.
A decent-to-good professional therapist (which 80% of them are) will take interest in helping you without being your enabler, your buddy, your scapegoat, your displacement victim, your suck-up, your antagonist, and all the other messy relationship hang-ups you may have with family and friends.
In my personal experience, I had several therapists but with the exception of one, none of them seemed to help me much at all.
In hindsight, however, I believe it wasn’t that they were bad therapists as much as because I was an immature kid who refused to trust them or poured out my problems without any intention of changing myself because I thought I deserved pity.
Don’t go into therapy trying to make a buddy, or expect a pity party, or someone to justify your negative attitude.
DO go in with a resolve to understand yourself better and be prepared to make the changes necessary to better yourself.
Whoops. I meant to reply to Slide. Fixing now.
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ugh it’s fine to talk to a professional about your problems, but i recommend exercise the most. it’s like natural medication.
Obviously a doctor prescribed it.
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For sure man. My bad though, I guess I was just kind of inconsiderate. If it’s something that has helped you deal, and it wasn’t destructive, than it is valid. I guess that’s just the thing about advice, what everyone says should always be at least considered in some form.
personally what i do if im sad is…
stay at home, play games, browse internet, masturbate, go for a walk, go eat at a restaurant, hang out with friends, read books, do stuff with your girlfriend(s)
i would not recommend masturbating in general though cuz it can make you socially weird
Pet dogs help men get through a lot of shit.
do what im doing right now, DRINK AWAY THE PAIN. (just grabbed a few beers to chuck my weekend)
nah but really, i do suffer from social anxiety. i have to give a speech next week and i feel like im about to pass out just thinking about it. i also have very low self esteem = depression. i never seeks PROFESSIONAL help cuz i dont know how to go about it and it seems weird to actually pay some1 to talk about your problems. what else do they do? but, what really helps me is like most ppl have already said, eat hardy, exercise, being in a social environment and the outdoors really releases all anxiety and gets you in a flow. it also seems like depression kicks in for most ppl when theyre on some alone time. in that case, watch comedy. so i guess, its really you have a low self esteem and being negative within YOURSELF. so take like in your hands, get out and be man.
edit: i havent had some pussy in a long time.
especially if its a female pet dog
Necroing this thread.
What are your guys thoughts on antidepressants?
I suffer from depression but dont want to take antidepressants. Exercise has helped but it still sucks.