B - don’t dot dot dot dot me! makin subliminal statements that draw on casual moments and observations of ones character so that one can improve his quality of life without feeling called out… LOL!!
with that said…one must learn to be a square to keep his circle together… *wind blows… O_O!!!
I asked the waitress to give me some BBQ sauce with burgers yesterday. she didn’t give it to me when she brought my food and I didn’t want to remind her to do so…
my excuse was that I didn’t want to sound like a pric, because when I have to project my voice in order for others to hear what I’m sayin, I get a little bit of
an attitude. to avoid coming off that way, I let it go. burgers where fine, especially since I stole john’s BBQ sauce lol. later on that evening, B made comment
suggesting that I should just reach out and grab the waitresses titty the next she walks by, and nod my head so she can give what I asked for initially lol
It’s really not an issue of you lacking any kind of confidence or whatever is implied, you’re a native speaker of African American Vernacular English(AAVE), who has two major properties that relate to this:
#1. AAVE is very heavy in consonant clusters, i.e. is lacks a lot of vowels(vowels add sonic resonance, where consonants do not, thus you cannot have really loud consonants), this in and of itself tends to lower volume(funfact, the act of whispering is the removal of most/all vowels).
#2. AAVE is also heavily stratified by gender, in which males are expected to speak low, well women still have the issue of #1, they compensate by over-compensating via amplitude and pitch, which is the root of the “loud-voiced black woman” stereotype.
#3. The social impact of AAVE males raising their amplitude/pitch like women is exactly as you describe, it’s meant to be your “angry voice”. So you’re correct in interperuting that people will probably consider it rude despite your intentions(we’ve seen this multiple times, example: Tully’s).
#4. Despite all this, I’ve witnessed you speak Buffalonian English as opposed to AAVE, I’m not quite sure the situations(this is called code-switching, where multi-dialectal/multi-lingual speakers switch their dialect/language based on who they speak to and circumstances, just like I switch to AAVE when speaking to you), so I know you can do it, you drop the tonal AAVE qualities and change your lexicon to BE.
So my only advice is maybe take a more conscious role in your language use, cause it seems more like an issue of mismatched code-switching.
Also, gonna totally call myself out here:
I’ve probably also totally creeped him out with the revelation of just how much attention I pay when he speaks, lol.
wow celest… you continue to amaze the hell out of me lol. I’m not creeped out at all, besides, I know you study this kinda stuff anyway.
sooo… I just tried to speak putting more emphasis on vowels, and I noticed I spoke a little bit louder than usual lol.
but really, I never thought about it like that in the sense of switching codes lol. I guess It depends on how much energy I have. I theorize that I speak BE
when I actually have the energy to talk, otherwise I just use AAVE. I was a bit tired at bar louie’s yesterday to be honest
Oh man, I’d be all over that tournament if I wasn’t already taking off of work june 2-9 for Florida and my pharmacy boards. If you guys get a group to head over, I’ll send my brother with you to beast on some people, assuming it didn’t conflict with his exams and all.
Krav Maga is a fantastic workout…I have never had sweat literally pour off my face during an exercise session before, so awesome. Running after a 45 minute session however…bad idea. I can’t imagine what my poor legs are going to feel like tomorrow morning.
I also wish i had pie sensing powers like celest. I’d love to know when pies were atop stairwells. I live on the fourth floor so i’d own any person running up stairs.
^ yea it would be cool being that the only thing that other state think of is nyc when you mention ny. also i can look and see how much it would cost for th chineese bus instead of grey hound bus. they are usually way cheaper
oh celes question bout the iphone… the data plan include texting as well or is that a separate rate alone… im thinking about getting the iphone 3gs. just curious on the the data plan works… this will save me a trip from going to the apple store or at and t store and asking questions and then get hassled into buying it at the on spot.
If MvC3 is legit I am totally gonna learn how to play MvC2 in prep…remember, my brother is only 16 and is pretty boss at sf4 with excellent reaction times…we gotta get him into as many fighters as we can so he can take it to the house and dominate tournaments.