COLLEGE Frank, seriously it’s time to get on that shit. I’ve meet a lot of women from classes and such…
i met my last girlfriend through college, so this is a true statement. but SU is hella small and even though there are hella asians, i was mostly in classes with white girls and i usually don’t click with them. and the asian girls that were in my class were boo’d up. but yeah, all my interests/flings that were with people worthwhile i had in college.
My hero!
I thought I’d link this classic post from alt.games.sf2 on gay street fighter, back from 1997
http://groups.google.com/group/alt.games.sf2/msg/e0bfef6357b05b8f?hl=en
Rofl, I was probably 13 years old and I think I just thought about it like "Yeah girls are stupid!"
Never realized that is what they were going for.
Don’t you have that “Gaydar” thingy? :wgrin:
What I was always told was to go to places you like. If you like to read, go to a library to meet someone. If you like to workout meet someone at a gym. You get the idea, figure out what your interests are, where they take you, and then try to meet someone in those locations.
Then again if I really think to how often that has happened to me then I would have to call bullshit…err wait. Actually there have been a few. So it’s not complete bullshit!:lovin:
It is always nice to have common interests with someone though. I’m not sure I think it’s necessary, but it definitely helps.
It’s also super awesome to be single and on the prowl! I sometimes miss being single simply because I only did what I wanted to do. There wasn’t this sharing of time taking place. If I came home and wanted to play a game I would go play a game. I wouldn’t have to wait until Deal Or No Deal (Yeah my girl likes gameshows) or whatever show is on was over. Bah, I’m off on a tangent again! I’ll stop here.
church. you know its true because they said it in boyz in da hood
So this shit might seem hella ridiculous, but its a deal breaker if my significant other is not willing to learn fighting games. Although there is more than its seems here…I really seek out that competative spirit/ trash talking banter. So this article definitely has points haha…Im still endlessly jealous of my friends whose GF got HIM into tekken and they both travel to tournaments AND she is a european (like covers and shit) high fashion model with a degree from a top school.
This was significantly easier to find back at school…(the people whom play games, clearly not the model combo)
THE ACTUAL QUESTION IN SPIRIT OF THREAD: Anyone fuck with that online realationship site shit?? seems like a disaster waiting to happen, but also like a good resource I suppose if you believe these people arent full of shit.
QUESTION NUMBER 2 Who do you think is going to win Project Runway this season? I think Maya has this shit on lockdown. Maybe Seth Aaron
I think we already know the answer…
Not necessary to have common interests in a relationship? Really? That sounds hard as fuck.
Yeah, I’m sad I never got to experience that. I dove head first into relationship at like the age of 17-18, now I’m kinda feelin’ strange about it. I finally started to communicate that though, at least. Hard to say things like that.
Whatever you do, don’t use eharmony. Moar liek ehomophobes. Fuck them.
I met my boyfriend online… but uh, it wasn’t for a “date.” 
It just kinda turned into that.
Yes. This post is grand. I believe that the harder you look for it, the further away it gets. I’ve recently noticed (embarrassingly enough) after several years in a relationship that I have been kinda wearing a mask or playing a role that isn’t truly me in my relationship. I had a night that reminded me of the first night we spent together and I had this “HOLY SHIT” cosmic revelation while lying in bed sleepless. I realized that the one personality flaw I’ve been working on lately wasn’t going away because I still used it in my relationship. I realized I was so worried about being accepted that I censored myself and only let little bits out at a time so as not to like overwhelm him or scare him away or something. No more of that, now that I’ve noticed, but damn your subconscious is a bitch. It’s so hard to figure out shit you do subconsciously.
Like stric said about sharing your time - I realized that half the reason I can’t make decisions is because I would put my assumptions of what he would want, in front of what I want. I’d like not go out and hang out because I felt bad that he wasn’t doing anything so I would want to hang out with him. Now I’m like sheeit if you’re that bored come with me! Which won’t ever happen, but it’s fun to say.
Well like my girl and I don’t really have any hobbies that we do together. I’m into video games. She is into card games. (Gonna be a poker pro someday lol) I guess you could look at it in a broader sense and just say we both like games?
We both try to workout and do some active things together. But other than that we don’t have too much in common as far as interests go.
I did bring her out to do some graffiti with me once because she likes art and painting and stuff, but she didn’t like graff too much.
I don’t know man, still seems like her and I don’t have too many common interests, but I think our relationship is still really easy and is still going really well after the 4 years we’ve been together.
The things that we have in common I think are more on emotional and intellectual levels.
Maybe it’s easier for gay’s to find people with similar interests? Are lot’s of gay guys into video games?
I always picture it being like a man/woman relationship only with two men. Like one is the more traditional “man” and the other is more the “woman” of the house. So I figured that the situation would be similar as far as not having common interests go. As I type this though, I begin to believe that it probably goes much deeper than that, where a “man” type gay, might be attracted to other “man” type gays. Which would make common interests easier to come by?
If any of this is offensive (sterotypical in nature) I apologize, I come from eastern washington and my experience with gay people is rather limited.
Thought this said “Which won’t ever happen AGAIN” and it made me laugh and feel like we were instantly closer because I can totally relate to that feeling sometimes lol. Sounded like something I would have said. :lol:
Well I guess that makes sense. I guess my fancy man and I have our own hobbies, too. If you enjoy each other’s company enough you don’t have to like all the same things.
Yeah, I think in some situations it is. Keep in mind there are queeny gays that are girlier than any girl you know, though. :lol: But yeah, typically there are more guys in general that enjoy video games more than women, whether the guys are gay or not. So naturally it’s easier to find a boyfriend that likes video games than a girlfriend.
Not at all. Well, I’m sure there are some relationships like that, but I don’t think it’s the norm.
Tru dat. Granted I’ve only been in one relationship, but it sure seems easier to find common interests simply because we are both men. Our minds are wired more similarly than a man and a woman. But perhaps when a man and a woman who are different find a bond it could make it that much stronger.
No worries. Only one way to find out about these things. On the whole though, there’s not really roles like one is the woman and cooks and cleans, and this applies to the bedroom as well. You could see a tiny 110 pound guy with a beefy 220 pound bodybuilder man, and when they get in the bedroom the body builder might be the one getting tied up and being called a bitch. :lol: There’s no rules, it’s all personality.
Or just whatever is logical. My boyfriend makes about a million more dollars than I do a year. I am most the time unemployed and sometimes lucky enough to keep my minimum wage jobs. He has his master’s degree and works at Boeing. Who do you think buys dinner? Sometimes I insist on buying us some teriyaki once in a while so I don’t feel completely useless. You might think that if he does the cooking/buying for the food that I would be the woman and do the cleaning up. But… not really. I think he’s worried I won’t do things the habitual ocd way he needs them done. :lol: EDIT: Maybe I am the ‘woman’ in the relationship. But that would make him pussywhipped, right? Because if a guy is doing all the cooking and cleaning and buying for his lady then guys make fun of him, right? 
:lol: Did you bring her out to an event once? I feel bad for the girlfriends that get brought out to the events all the time. Mor and Deanna are troopers, they don’t seem too bored by it. Or maybe they’re just really good girlfriends.
Yeah I brought her out to the first TW’s I believe. First one I went to anyway. We just kinda hung in the back and watched. I could tell she was bored after a while though, so I just quit bringing her. She doesn’t hate it by any means. I just can’t seem to get her to to understand all the strategies that are going on in a match. She just see’s fireballs and DP’s. I mean, she thinks I’m good! I try to tell her that I suck and she just kinda says stuff like “You can do the moves. I’ve seen you do that that ultra thingy before.”
But I guess I don’t see all the strategies being played out in a poker game either, which is why it bores me.
And as far as being “pussywhipped”. He is only “pussywhipped” if he isn’t happy about it, but does it anyway imo. As long as you are meeting his needs, that’s all that really that matters. Now if you are just mooching off him and he is doing everything and you aren’t doing anything for him to meet HIS needs, then yes, he is pussywhipped. 
bump?
Hey Frank, you should just hang out more on broadway. Your chances of meeting someone out of a bar will increase dramatically.
I’ve thought about this…but the temptation of just saying fuck it and going to “Club Z” or “Basic Plumbing” is too strong…
Truth! Through some amount of soul-searching I’ve pretty much come down to this very conclusion, and is also why I’m so complacent with not having a girlfriend. I know quite a few people who drag on and get depressed at their “lack of ability” to land a relationship like its a skill, and its pretty obvious to me that if you have to “act” to impress people you like you’re doing it wrong. Its more important to be secure in your own life before trying to drag anyone else in as well. I know that right now isn’t the best time for me to have a relationship anyways what with all the things I do (Full-Time school, my band, gaming hobbies, working, etc), not to mention that most girls around my age still haven’t figured things like this out. “Just keep on living the life you want to live and everything will fall in place” - This is how I’ve been feeling recently.
I kind of understand this type of relationship. I’ve only had one meaningful relationship ever that lasted about 2 years. Now the girl and I are still good friends, we see each other and talk about our lives etc, and we still very much like each other, but we just have different lives right now and being together isn’t really the thing that would work out. But while we were together we had about 5-10% in common. For instance, she doesn’t even understand video games. She knows that they’re fun when you’re into them, they can be good time sinks, etc…but for instance the other day she was watching FF13 and what I noticed was this: during the battles, she was completely not interested and would be paying attention to the animals in the house, or talking to me or my friend, etc…during the cutscenes when things were moving slower and there was a lot of character interaction she would pay attention and later told me “This game seems more like a movie.” Now for me I’ve grown up playing videogames all my life and theres about a million things running through my head when I play that she just doesn’t even consider (not that it wouldnt be possible, but rather she just doesnt have the inclination I do from years of gaming). She’s told me before that she wishes she could like videogames. Just about the only things we really had in common were that we enjoyed the same TV-Shows and some of the same music and food tastes. There are some cases in the other direction too of course. I think any relationship can work out if both members are willing to work for it but there are always cases where its better off to split, whether permanent or for just a while. Without a lot of common ground in a relationship, when you work at it, you start to build ground of your own for both to stand on, knowhatimsayin?
Since this has/is still bothering me.
Straight guys, for those that go and “are on the prowl” protected sex every time right? Especially for the One Night Stands and what not? I’m trying to see if I’m out of the norm here. Mainly bringing this up because I was in talks of getting some action, but once I told the guy that I only play safe. He got hella mad and cut the conversation off. Is the only thing on straight guys minds is not getting a girl pregnant? Or are you thinking about STD’s too?
Well, there are guys who are retarded that hate wearing a rubber, but I can’t think that I would ever NOT wear one, especailly if it was with someone I didn’t know all that well or for very long.
It’s all about being truthful and honest about your history and when your last test was if you were hella active. If none of that, I’m always wearin a rubber.