The Relationship/Dating Thread: We will argue over your issue like we're your parents...even yell

[BB_Hoody]

Yeah what @Reticently suggested. It’s worth a shot @“Dj Hyper Kid” The worst that can happen is they say no. God damn that is brutal. I mean her suggesting you stay in Chicago and have a long distance relationship was an immediate red flag. What kind of spouse would suggest that shit??? You’re married with a child, you don’t separate like that unless you’re wanting a divorce. Then she pretty much calls out your man hood saying you can’t lead the family? Like unless you’ve been sitting on your ass, job hopping and not saving money all the years you’ve been with her. Where is that coming from???

I could be off base but for this to come about so soon after she finished grad school. It honestly seems like to me, that this has been coming ever since that story you told us about how you save the marriage. Tell me was she in a position at that time to finish school and take care of herself without your help? If not then that could possibly be why this is now happening. I don’t wanna drag her because I don’t know her at all while you were married to her so tell me if I’m off base. But it seems like she was just sticking around for the financial support so she can get through school. Now that she got her degree and thus a career in her field. She’s all Ms independent now. Ms I don’t need no man I can do bad all by myself.

[dab00g]

Debt does a lot to people. It changes views on a person. Struggling sucks that is just heat breaking.

Me and wifey always said only get married when we are both working and financially stable. Which i am, and she is doing her paid internship.

But it is not like that for everybody.

People have been getting divorced for so long that people trivialize it. We have a decade together, oh you are gone forever? Wtf?

That would be some shit

You got the right mindset. Just be like Walter White. Make money to give your kid everything

[Dj_Hyper_Kid]

Already contacted the job, they filled the position. Yeah, totally fucked.

[BB_Hoody]

Debt does a lot to people. It changes views on a person. Struggling sucks that is just heat breaking.

Me and wifey always said only get married when we are both working and financially stable. Which i am, and she is doing her paid internship.

But it is not like that for everybody.

People have been getting divorced for so long that people trivialize it. We have a decade together, oh you are gone forever? Wtf?

That would be some shit

You got the right mindset. Just be like Walter White. Make money to give your kid everything

Minus the cancer, Drug Empire, getting your brother In Law targeted and shot up by cartel gangsters, then killed by Aryan mercenaries, Killing several people yourself, poisoning a child, watching a woman choke to death on her own vomit and doing nothing to stop it, setting off a bomb in a nursing home etc.

[Dj_Hyper_Kid]

The only way I can go anywhere is if I get a good job. I can’t get a bs job. As far as former Mrs Hyper Kid, she gets the blank face treatment from me. I’m basically a free agent, and will just need to get my foot in the door.

[BB_Hoody]

The only way I can go anywhere is if I get a good job. I can’t get a bs job. As far as former Mrs Hyper Kid, she gets the blank face treatment from me. I’m basically a free agent, and will just need to get my foot in the door.

What is your proffession and qualifications? I mean maybe I can put in a word for you at Bombardier and see if you can get some type of Management position or something.

[Dj_Hyper_Kid]

I could be off base but for this to come about so soon after she finished grad school. It honestly seems like to me, that this has been coming ever since that story you told us about how you save the marriage. Tell me was she in a position at that time to finish school and take care of herself without your help? If not then that could possibly be why this is now happening. I don’t wanna drag her because I don’t know her at all while you were married to her so tell me if I’m off base. But it seems like she was just sticking around for the financial support so she can get through school. Now that she got her degree and thus a career in her field. She’s all Ms independent now. Ms I don’t need no man I can do bad all by myself.

Honestly that is the same thing I thought. After thinking back on everything, I am seeing how the pieces are fitting together, like some Death Note shit. I mean she has applied for work in two different cities and gotten multiple offers, so she most likely is smelling herself because she is getting her career underway. It just sucks because I was doing everything while she was in grad school on top of work. Man these next few months are about to suck sooooo bad.

[Dj_Hyper_Kid]

The only way I can go anywhere is if I get a good job. I can’t get a bs job. As far as former Mrs Hyper Kid, she gets the blank face treatment from me. I’m basically a free agent, and will just need to get my foot in the door.

What is your proffession and qualifications? I mean maybe I can put in a word for you at Bombardier and see if you can get some type of Management position or something.

BA in Journalism from University of Cincinnati. Some IT exp as well.

[BB_Hoody]

The only way I can go anywhere is if I get a good job. I can’t get a bs job. As far as former Mrs Hyper Kid, she gets the blank face treatment from me. I’m basically a free agent, and will just need to get my foot in the door.

What is your proffession and qualifications? I mean maybe I can put in a word for you at Bombardier and see if you can get some type of Management position or something.

BA in Journalism from University of Cincinnati. Some IT exp as well.

Damn. I don’t think that fits anywhere in a Aviation company. Maybe the IT part could lead to something. I’ll ask when I go into work today. We do mainly use computers to look up maintenance manuals ( Thank god fuck those books ), and clock in and out etc. So they must have an IT department or something.

[Kashiyukasthighs]

Thanks for enforcing my belief of never getting married and not having kids. Im selfish as hell anyway.

[Raz0r]

The only way I can go anywhere is if I get a good job. I can’t get a bs job. As far as former Mrs Hyper Kid, she gets the blank face treatment from me. I’m basically a free agent, and will just need to get my foot in the door.

What is your proffession and qualifications? I mean maybe I can put in a word for you at Bombardier and see if you can get some type of Management position or something.

BA in Journalism

I’m sorry for your loss.

[MIRACLEARROW]

Its kind of fucked up to say but I don’t think I would date anyone that isn’t financially responsible enough that I need to support them. Going to school is great and all but we aren’t living together and I’m not gonna ‘pick up the slack’ to wait around for a chick to finish school, only for the outcome of shit that happened to DJHK.

He was already married so its different but you hear about this shit time and time again. Women using men to get ahead then fucking them over first chance they get. Thats more or less the reason my most serious relationship failed. She wanted me to ‘selflessly’ pick up the slack and show her ‘I’m a man’ without creating equivalent exchange like alchemy. She’s on some Philosopher Stone Shit.

[dab00g]

The only way I can go anywhere is if I get a good job. I can’t get a bs job. As far as former Mrs Hyper Kid, she gets the blank face treatment from me. I’m basically a free agent, and will just need to get my foot in the door.

What is your proffession and qualifications? I mean maybe I can put in a word for you at Bombardier and see if you can get some type of Management position or something.

BA in Journalism from University of Cincinnati. Some IT exp as well.

Apply to the bureau of prisons. You will get hired FAST

Law enforcement in general is an easy road. Especially if you got your head on straight

[BB_Hoody]

Its kind of fucked up to say but I don’t think I would date anyone that isn’t financially responsible enough that I need to support them. Going to school is great and all but we aren’t living together and I’m not gonna ‘pick up the slack’ to wait around for a chick to finish school, only for the outcome of shit that happened to DJHK.

He was already married so its different but you hear about this shit time and time again. Women using men to get ahead then fucking them over first chance they get. Thats more or less the reason my most serious relationship failed. She wanted me to ‘selflessly’ pick up the slack and show her ‘I’m a man’ without creating equivalent exchange like alchemy. She’s on some Philosopher Stone Shit.

Hey you can date broke chicks that are hot. Just don’t ever get serious with them. Fuck a couple of times. Take’em out to eat every now’n’then. Then break it off when you had your fun. Sounds cold but as we saw with poor Hyper Kid here, females be just as cold.

[NickRocks]

[details=Spoiler]So. A whole bunch. Mrs, Hyper Kid graduated grad school. We still couldn’t find work so we needed to move out up avoid eviction. We decide to move back to Ohio and stay with her parents as we regroup. Well my cousin links me with some great contacts and suggest I stay with him in Chicago for a couple of weeks to get a career going. Mrs. Hyper Kid has a teaching job starting in the fall in Chicago but we needed income before then to stay in Chicago. She agrees that two weeks I should stay and get things in order. Well fast forward two weeks I have a job, I am offered another job in my field that pays good money. I call her to tell her what’s up and I have a place for us as well. She tells me she got a job in Cincinnati teaching and already enrolled our daughter in school. She then tells me she isn’t moving back to Chicago and that I should stay if I want to work here and do long distance. I’m like hell no, because it wasn’t supposed to be permanent, just to get things in order. I decline the job because there is no point to stay if my family isn’t here. Fast forward to this past Monday. I am on my last week at my shitty golf course job before moving back with the inlaws. I have to get my dog from Cincinnati because the person watching her cant do it anymore and was gonna send her to the pound. Well after I get the dog I go see my wife and kid. The kid is sleep and my wife wants to talk. She tells me she doesn’t want to be married to me anymore and doesn’t trust that I can lead our family. Them says she doesn’t think her and our daughter are on my top priority. I’m floored and she is basically like so what are you gonna do about housing. Because I can’t stay with her and her parents now. So I’m literally homeless when I go back to Cincinnati on Saturday. If she wanted to leave me, then fine, but she could have told me way sooner, instead of waiting until I decline a great paying job in my field and am moving back to Cincinnati. Thinking back on it, the signs should have been more obvious. But we were talking everyday, she telling me how she misses me and stuff. then just shut out. Now I am in a very small country town in Indiana staying with my grandma because I don’t have any family in Ohio and the closest family is in Indiana. Its really hard right now, but the main thing I am focusing on is building up me and my finances so my kid can have everything. I don’t want to be like my dad (RIP), so I have to grind. I never thought I would end up back to my true roots. I am the only one in my family who has never spent any extended time there, and people are getting word that I am here. The only good thing about this place is that there are a ton of country girls here and are mad thirsty. Haven’t been here a week and have been getting hit on mass. But its only temporary. This is where Hyper Kid gets the more aged and grizzled look. No game playing at all. All business, I will get mine and build my empire for me and my kid.

Feels like me and her are running to the life boat and she turns around and shoots me then burns the other life boats, and leaves me for dead. Granted it hurts like a bitch and I am in bad shape, I am not dead, so I just have to crawl myself out and rebuild.[/details]

FUCK THAT BITCH I AM SO MAD AT HER RN

[Kashiyukasthighs]

@“Dj Hyper Kid” i also hope you know your wife has been getting side dick for months, if not years. She didnt just out of thin air think about divorcing you when she got a job, shes more than likely trying to get her freedom so she can stabilize her other relationship.

[Dj_Hyper_Kid]

Honestly I am just gonna have to hold this L and keep it moving. I will just continue with the blank face treatment. As far as future relationships go, fuck em.

[Negative-Zer0]

Honestly I am just gonna have to hold this L and keep it moving. I will just continue with the blank face treatment. As far as future relationships go, fuck em.

I hope you can at least build a future for your daughter man.

Good luck.

[MARTIAN]

I feel for you, @“Dj Hyper Kid”. I’m going through some similar shit right now with my woman. Been my best friend for ten years and now it looks like it’s ending. She keeps putting distance between us (she moved out today actually and left me in this apartment with all the rent and bills) and blaming me for everything, staying out and lying to me. Caught her flirting with her co-worker a month ago, now she doesn’t even want me looking at her phone “because she’s not ready to trust I won’t look through it”. Fuck off. That basically means “I have shit on here I don’t want you to see”.

I can’t imagine it’s on the same level man, I know you were married to your lady and shit and had kids even. You definitely handled your shit better then I have or would have too, man. Doesn’t even feel like I have focus anymore. Doesn’t feel like I have a semblance of actual happiness anymore, and I know this shit is only temporary, but goddamn in the moment it feels like it’s not gonna ever feel different. Shit is so discouraging and heart wrenching on so many levels.

I’m keeping you in my thoughts, man.

[Dj_Hyper_Kid]

I feel for you, @“Dj Hyper Kid”. I’m going through some similar shit right now with my woman. Been my best friend for ten years and now it looks like it’s ending. She keeps putting distance between us (she moved out today actually and left me in this apartment with all the rent and bills) and blaming me for everything, staying out and lying to me. Caught her flirting with her co-worker a month ago, now she doesn’t even want me looking at her phone “because she’s not ready to trust I won’t look through it”. Fuck off. That basically means “I have shit on here I don’t want you to see”.

I can’t imagine it’s on the same level man, I know you were married to your lady and shit and had kids even. You definitely handled your shit better then I have or would have too, man. Doesn’t even feel like I have focus anymore. Doesn’t feel like I have a semblance of actual happiness anymore, and I know this shit is only temporary, but goddamn in the moment it feels like it’s not gonna ever feel different. Shit is so discouraging and heart wrenching on so many levels.

I’m keeping you in my thoughts, man.

Thanks fam. That is rough dude. I know right now I am pretty numb to pretty much everyone but my daughter. I got done dirty, but I know I did everything within my power to do right by her and my family. Yeah it sucks because she is the person I thought was my ride or die, the only woman I’ve ever confided in, and she was my best friend. But this is still quite fresh (happened two weeks ago) so I am still in the middle of trying to figure out everything.

I considered losing my shit and going off, but honestly it wasn’t even worth it. The damage is done, and all I can do is move forward with a new perspective.

I will keep you and everyone else in my thoughts though. Shit is rough, and granted dudes can be pretty bad, but women take the cake with treachery. I would have never thought to do some shit like this, but hey some folks are on some other shit.