The Relationship/Dating Thread: We will argue over your issue like we're your parents...even yell

[HD-Man]

What does one do to regain his confidence when its been completely shattered in regards to dating/dealing with women?

[xEGAxBeastkingx]

By the WTF tag I got from ol boy I’m gonna take that as a yes to my question.

I did that cause you stupidly thought that I posted a screenshot of what i said on here on something that is Snapchat-lite.

You said yourself that shamoo somehow read your Instagram story and I asked if it’s the same one that you told us about your path of simpness. Unless you’re the type that speaks with pictures you clearly put it in the form of pure text. Where the hell is this talk of screenshots coming from? Get out of your feelings fool. It’s not that serious.

[Wasted]

Unless you gym and take a topless pic, you ain’t getting shit from Tinder besides solid 2s if you’re lucky.

Just go on okc or pof. Honestly though it isn’t that hard

I get more matches from Tinder than either of those. Been a member of those two for over a year and never had a genuine profile reply to me.

[Alkipot]

What does one do to regain his confidence when its been completely shattered in regards to dating/dealing with women?

Focus on just you for a while. Gym if you’re not happy with your looks. Money if you’re unsatisfied with what you have. The rest will follow.

[HD-Man]

Excellent advice I’ve received before, just needed some second opinions. Gonna be a long road, but its achievable

[Raz0r]

To that new dude.

Just call her and hang out. You’re not dating and she isn’t going to just wait around for your “I don’t feel like going out” ass. She’s going to go with a guy who is up to do something.

Just an aside, not showing up to shit is how you make a woman lose interest in you. Either go out or find a homebody to date.

[MIRACLEARROW]

What does one do to regain his confidence when its been completely shattered in regards to dating/dealing with women?

Focus on just you for a while. Gym if you’re not happy with your looks. Money if you’re unsatisfied with what you have. The rest will follow.

Yeah, whatever it is focus on you. Gym is good for them gains but dont sleep on martial arts or bjj type shit too.
Whatever it is, if its something that takes dedication, girls like it when you focused on something and have priorities other than them.

Excellent advice I’ve received before, just needed some second opinions. Gonna be a long road, but its achievable

Like anything, if you want something bad enough you will do it. If you don’t you will fail. Simple as that.

[BB_Hoody]

Hey guys 2003 lurker but had account deleted.

So… I got this girl’s number at a house party on Saturday, talked to her Sunday and monday and she invited me out to meet her and a few friends Monday night, I was busy that day and couldn’t make it out.

It’s all good, we were still talking and stuff over the phone. Only been a week and Saturday night comes up and she tells me she’s going to a concert, didn’t invite me, I know about the concert cause my friends are going. I told her she’d probably see my friends there but not me, I was feeling lazy and didn’t feel like going.

So that night my friends got me a little drunk and I agreed to go. I didn’t tell the girl I was going cause I wanted to suprise her. Well surprise she was there with another guy and some of her friends, now I knew it was a first date thing for them cause they looked awkward with each other. she came and talked to me and stuff, I was polite, and stuff, I had my own crew there and plenty of female friends to dance with so I didn’t bother her on her date.

So the question is should I call her and see what’s up with that guy, or should I just walk away. She was hot, and we hit it off when we first met, and I guess it figures a hot girl can replace me just like that.

I know I should probably just walk away, but I think my head is still caught in the good vibes we were having when we were talking to each other.

Sounds like you missed that opportunity when you wasn’t able to make it on the night she first invited you to go out. Now if you had important matters to attend to then yeah handle your business always. But if it could’ve waited and you really wanted to get with this girl. Well then you blew it man. To inquire about the new guy would just look desperate and jealous. Instead don’t even acknowledge the new guy. Just straight up ask her in private if she still wants to go out. If no, then that means new guy replaced ya.

Like @Raz0r said. If a chick you just met invites ya to do something, and you decline. Odds are you’ve killed that before it even had a chance to go anywhere. Because she’s gonna take it as you’re not interested in hanging with her.

[Amazing_Funbags]

What does one do to regain his confidence when its been completely shattered in regards to dating/dealing with women?

Just focus on yourself and your own shit really.

These nice looking girls on OKC are cool until they mention they have kids:

[dab00g]

What does one do to regain his confidence when its been completely shattered in regards to dating/dealing with women?

Stop dealing with hood rats
Delete your facebook

You put way too much stock in that shit.

Find a hobby. Don’t be a simp and try to bang ugly fat broads like af who is a simp and a chubby chaser.

Find a skill. Maybe do some boxing or metal working. Try learning a skill that gets you somewhere like electrical wiring or plumbing.

But don’t instantly be that dude who fucks ugly fat broads to boost your ego.

[JLALloyd]

What does one do to regain his confidence when its been completely shattered in regards to dating/dealing with women?

I’ve been there before, gym helped me a lot. I took 2 years of my life working on myself and what I felt was wrong with me (for most people it’s physical, but I even worked on the way I acted). Then the confidence came back higher than ever. I know you can find books about it, I never bought one tho. Take your time!

I have a question for married people or those who have been in a long relationship, how do you deal with trust?
My relationships never lasted more than 9 months mainly because of trust and I’m 23, that’s pretty bad. I’m asking because there’s a married woman that’s trying to cheat on her boy with me, it happened before but they weren’t married. I think I’d kill someone if this happened to me… I don’t think I can stay sane if my marriage gets ruined because of cheating.

[dab00g]

Fuck her and then Block her

Or

[nikeSBstunna89]

Never fuck a married woman cause that shit brings way too much drama. If that guy finds out he will definitely be coming after you.

[Reticently]

What does one do to regain his confidence when its been completely shattered in regards to dating/dealing with women?

I’ve been there before, gym helped me a lot. I took 2 years of my life working on myself and what I felt was wrong with me (for most people it’s physical, but I even worked on the way I acted). Then the confidence came back higher than ever. I know you can find books about it, I never bought one tho. Take your time!

I have a question for married people or those who have been in a long relationship, how do you deal with trust?
My relationships never lasted more than 9 months mainly because of trust and I’m 23, that’s pretty bad. I’m asking because there’s a married woman that’s trying to cheat on her boy with me, it happened before but they weren’t married. I think I’d kill someone if this happened to me… I don’t think I can stay sane if my marriage gets ruined because of cheating.

At some point you just need to be willing to risk the fact that someone you love could hurt you badly. All there is to it.

If you are with someone worthwhile, and you both remember to keep your relationship amazing (which is a lot harder to do than you’d think), you’ll probably never have to worry about it.

And if shit happens, shit happens. Getting cheated on is hardly the worst shit that can happen.

[NickRocks]

Hey guys 2003 lurker but had account deleted.

So… I got this girl’s number at a house party on Saturday, talked to her Sunday and monday and she invited me out to meet her and a few friends Monday night, I was busy that day and couldn’t make it out.

It’s all good, we were still talking and stuff over the phone. Only been a week and Saturday night comes up and she tells me she’s going to a concert, didn’t invite me, I know about the concert cause my friends are going. I told her she’d probably see my friends there but not me, I was feeling lazy and didn’t feel like going.

So that night my friends got me a little drunk and I agreed to go. I didn’t tell the girl I was going cause I wanted to suprise her. Well surprise she was there with another guy and some of her friends, now I knew it was a first date thing for them cause they looked awkward with each other. she came and talked to me and stuff, I was polite, and stuff, I had my own crew there and plenty of female friends to dance with so I didn’t bother her on her date.

So the question is should I call her and see what’s up with that guy, or should I just walk away. She was hot, and we hit it off when we first met, and I guess it figures a hot girl can replace me just like that.

I know I should probably just walk away, but I think my head is still caught in the good vibes we were having when we were talking to each other.

Ol Lazy ass missin pussy ass

[ViciousIce]

OK so I called her up last night, she was pretty happy to hear back from me and we’re set to hangout on Sunday at my place.

She said the other guy was just a friend. I’m still a bit weary about it, but at least I got some time booked.

[Reticently]

She said the other guy was just a friend.

Sorry, and nothing personal, but I literally HAVE to:

[dab00g]

OK so I called her up last night, she was pretty happy to hear back from me and we’re set to hangout on Sunday at my place.

She said the other guy was just a friend. I’m still a bit weary about it, but at least I got some time booked.

You know girls can play the field right. She isn’t exclusive to you. You sound so fucking desperate. That is sad.

She probably just looking to bone. So go with it. Or she could just want to talk because you seem nice.

I bet when she saw how much you wanted it, it clicked in her head oh snap i got me a money mark

Yup yous a sucka.

[JLALloyd]

Never fuck a married woman cause that shit brings way too much drama. If that guy finds out he will definitely be coming after you.

Well she’s like 15 years older than me and I ain’t about that hitting on milf life so it never crossed my mind that I’d fuck her. My point was that I never fully trusted a girl and with this happening I’m even less willing to trust. I mean we were joking and I told her she’s pretty, she stared at me like I killed someone and told me it gave her shivers/chills (“la chair de poule” maybe you use this expression outside of France), she showed me her arms and it was true. Wtf, did your husband never complimented you? I know drama is coming if I do anything lol.

At some point you just need to be willing to risk the fact that someone you love could hurt you badly. All there is to it.

If you are with someone worthwhile, and you both remember to keep your relationship amazing (which is a lot harder to do than you’d think), you’ll probably never have to worry about it.

And if shit happens, shit happens. Getting cheated on is hardly the worst shit that can happen.

I’ve been cheated on once at high school, since then I stopped caring too much or getting jealous. Looked around me and cheating is everywhere, scary.
But you’re right I guess it’s the game. Thanks for the answer.

[MIRACLEARROW]

OK so I called her up last night, she was pretty happy to hear back from me and we’re set to hangout on Sunday at my place.

She said the other guy was just a friend. I’m still a bit weary about it, but at least I got some time booked.

You know girls can play the field right. She isn’t exclusive to you. You sound so fucking desperate. That is sad.

She probably just looking to bone. So go with it. Or she could just want to talk because you seem nice.

I bet when she saw how much you wanted it, it clicked in her head oh snap i got me a money mark

Yup yous a sucka.

The fuck are you talking about lol. He went from not showing interest to showing interest. She was clearly always interested in him if she’s that quick to react like that.
And there is 0 chance that guy was just a friend. Just saying. You were her #1 choice to take but she settled with taking #2 or #3 lol.
Also Dab00g is right regarding girls playing the field. You guys haven’t even gone on a date yet. You’re not allowed to be weary of anything.