1601

I’m going to the movies with a friend who’s been interested in me for a while next week. My boy told me you can only watch certain films when on a date. Fuck that, I’m a huge film geek and tend to hate most “date friendly” pics and even if I didn’t if there’s something I and my date want to watch who cares if it’s not a sappy love story or some dumb teen comedy? I understand if the goal is to get head from a new girl you don’t want to take her to a screening of 2001 (actually, choice of film shouldn’t matter at that point lol) but outside of that letting the person you’re with dictate what you pay money to see is retarded.

Dramatix sounds like you’re just jealous lol, who cares if other people are dating and you’re not? Just be happy for them and know that you’ll meet someone too eventually.

1602

What kills me is that, my mom claims that it’s not cause he’s White. She told me that she’s never liked him since we were friends in high school. Never gave an actual answer besides, I just don’t like him. I’ve had tons of white friends… Since I went to mainly predominately white schools for most of my life. She just never liked him. Hell, I’d rather her tell me it’s cause he’s White. Though it would still be bullshit, at least it would be a reason.

Just sickens me cause, my grandfather (on my mom’s side) didn’t want my mom to date my dad cause he’s Puerto Rican. He tried to get my grandmother to tell her that she couldn’t be with or marry my dad cause of his race. Didn’t believe she was going to go through it until he was walking her down the aisle. If she caved into my grandfather, I wouldn’t be typing this message right now.

I’m not dating him out of spite. Goodness no. I could find some White dude that’s covered with tattoos and piercings to do that. I’m with him because I love and respect him as my boyfriend and as a person. Don’t care who it is, I’m not going to leave him unless I decided that. No one else. So, if my mom or anyone else in my family doesn’t like it… Oh hell, oh well. My life. Not theirs. Sometimes you have to cut people off to progress in life. Including parents. I’ve been coming to terms with that. It’s hard but, sometimes, it needs to be done. And for me, my greatest adversary has always been my mother. Saying no to her has been my biggest problem because, I never want to disappoint her. But, I can’t keep trying to live day to day to please her. She will never be satisfied unless she can mold me into what she wants me to be. I can’t keep doing that. I’ll be 24 in two days. Time for me to wear my big girl pants and keep them on.

My BF does that for me randomly. It’s not as frequent as it was in the beginning of our relationship, but I’m happy it still occurs at all. I get the same way. All flustered and whatnot… Especially over cute things/Hello Kitty. I’m very easy to shop for. Haha. I was finally decisive for what I wanted on my birthday (Tues). Told him I wanted a spa day. He’s gonna pay for my hair, mani/pedi and whatnot. He spoils me rotten. <3

I figured going on four years, talking about it seriously seemed to be right. Setting up time frames and goals are our next step now. Seems like the smarter and more mature thing to do than just rush in ass first. :rofl:

Again, thank you. Things have been a huge turn around lately. I can’t see myself with anyone other than him. And, I know some people might say that, I only say that because we’ve been together for so long, blahblahblah. But, the bond that we have formed from 14 years old til now can not be duplicated. To me, having a deeper bond than just some fluffy “I love you” bullshit is important. Having a true connection like that is what keeps relationships together and keeps happily and healthy marriages together.

Growing up sucks, but, I’m ready to legit accept that.
/sorry for the rant.

1603

Don’t spend your life trying to please your mother, my mom did the same thing her whole life, we know where she’s at now…
I know what it’s like to not like someone and have no reason, that phase of my life has past. It was never like that.
Happiness is something one must do for themselves, not for others. So you’re doing the right thing. Love is worth whatever you’re willing to sacrifice for it and at the end of the day it is a choice.

1604

I wholeheartedly agree. It’s gonna take a lot, but, I’m at a point in my life where, it’s now or never. And, it’s now. If she truly loves me and respects me as her daughter and a person, she’ll eventually forgive me and move on. We’ll see how that goes. My mom is notorious for holding grudges for years.

1605

If you ever have kids, be it you, a segregate, or adoption, that bullshit she pullin right now will go out the window. That’s one thing I noticed, if a parent or parents don’t like who you’re with, when a baby comes. It’s like this acceptance takes place, everybody just co exists with not many issues anymore. At least in my experience.

1606

so as i mentioned before im dating an 19 year old asian girl almost 10 years younger than me. shes playing games. tonight i went out to a show, danced with this geeky chick, started talking to her. turns out shes a comp sci grad student at the university of washington my alma matter and she’s an israelite but not religious. i got her digits at the end of the night and we talked for over an hour about computer science and math and other nerd topics

at one point i was talking about how i wasn’t smart enough cause computer science was difficult. and she was like “you know its not attractive when you say you’re not smart” and i was like oh shit, she’s right i’m not being confident. so i just looked her in the eye and said, “fair enough, but i still wanna take you out for dinner next week, what’s your number?” GOT HER DIGITS AND ITS ALL GOOD. CONFIDENCE FOR THE WIN.

EVERYTHING IS COMING UP MILLHOUSE YESSSSSSSSSSS

EDIT: I’ve been “legit” for over a year and a half now, and not looking back!!! although to any virgins, nothing wrong with getting some training wheels if you know what i mean

1607

NIGGA…israeli chick, son? make it happen ASAP!

1608

I was at the local big 5 Sporting Goods Store with a friend buying boxing gear to spare and what do I see from the corner of my eye? The most beautiful woman I have seen in a long long time. Not to mention she had a nice ass; she was wearing those stretchy leggings and I could see the entire shape of that beast. Stalker Status was enabled and right when I was going in for the kill to talk to her and get her number, her mom pops out around the corner of the shelves and I froze up!
I wouldn’t have mind if it were another friend, or her little brother/sister etc etc, but for some reason I backed down once I seen the mother, so upset with myself. If I ever see ole girl again it’s on. (fail)

1609

Moar like THRYLLHOUSE amirite?

1610

oh god terrible hangover. i need to get to the point where i can talk to a girl at a bar without having too many drinks. although i didn’t get sloppy drunk last night. for some reason its hard for me to say “hi” unless i’ve had a few drinks in me. i dont know any canned pickup lines. i was surprised saying “hi” yesterday worked. what do you guys do when you talk to strangers?

1611

I was in line to get some coffee at the bookstore one time, and there was this cute girl in front of me. She had on these weird tiger striped shoes, so I asked her how many animals they had to kill to make her shoes. She laughed, but I really didn’t pursue the situation any further. I just wanted to see how she would react to my opener.

I’m married now so I don’t even talk to any other women, but when I am out, if I’m paying attention I can typically tell who is checking me out. I think if you are aware of who is around you, you can pick out the people who are eye balling you which might make it a little easier to approach.

1612

Yes, I am jealous, and it leaves me contradicting myself. I’m practically reeking of desperation (though I feel it’s more anger and bitterness), yet on the outside I’m like, “I have better things to do than to waste my time on a significant other”. I don’t go around searching for a partner, looking pathetic. Everything/where I go/do, I see couples or people hooking up or something of the sort. It magically happens for other people from how I see it while I myself have to wait, but yes, I’m jealous. I’m just not going around hating on couples. though. If they’re happy, then I’m glad to see that. Until then, I’m just gonna bottle up my jealousy and whatnot and figure out why everyone else has someone for them and is happy while I have to wait. Griping about it here won’t fix anything.

1613

generally, i let chicks approach me first, but when i do approach i just keep it super casual and introduce myself like “hey, how you doing my name is thurst. blah blah…” i’m usually pretty witty but i only consciously try and get cute with a line if there’s something going on that lends itself to be joked about.

1614

I just don’t get why you think looking for somebody makes you look pathetic.

1615

Well, I already feel desperate, so looking for someone in this kind of state is rather…sad, I suppose. I didn’t mean in general, however. Plus, where I’m at, there’s nothing really anything to look for, which is why I don’t believe in “stop looking for love”.

1616

To be honest, I think there is something wrong with that line of thought. It doesn’t just magically happen for anyone. It happens when you put yourself out there, take the necessary risks, and find the right person. If you think someone is gonna magically approach you and sweep you off your feet, you’re setting yourself up for some disappointment(unless you’re a pretty girl, then that is exactly what’s gonna happen).

1617

That’s the problem. I don’t know how to put myself out there. Why should I go out my way and do that when my friends met girls who just came into their lives out of nowhere and they all just happened to like each other? I even look at my surroundings and say, “none of these people are appealing, why should I approach them?”. Some people are just lucky, and yet my friends claim they have to work for that shit. I don’t believe it at all. It’s either people like you or they don’t, and I just happen to be the unfortunate latter.

1618

It feels like you think you’re entitled to meeting someone. Some people have fateful encounters, others have to work hard to meet the right people. Life’s not always fair.

Also I doubt they just happened to like each other. Your friends probably had the guts to do things that those girls found appealing. You should ask them for advice if you’re comfortable speaking about that stuff with them

1619

The only advice I got was to go out to make my own happiness and look for signs if someone like me, which will be the day when America stops bombing for peace (which means never). I don’t think I’m entitled to meet someone at all; I just don’t get why it’s easier for everyone else. I’m not even straight, so they can’t even help me. I hate being the third wheel or the accidental cock-blocker. It makes me tired. Oh, and my friends? All they did was having some simple conversations with them; the girls really did like them back. They longed for this, and they got it. Me? No. Years falling for guys who happened to be straight and embarrassing yourself in the process just left me feeling stupid for over-thinking things. Whenever I do ask my friends, they say I’m cold, too self-critical, standoffish, intimidating. If I have to work for these things, so be it, but I won’t have much luck, I’ll say that much.

1620

Well, it does kind of “just happen.” Usually, it “just happens” when you least expect it. Just go out and meet people and don’t worry about it. If you go around trying your damndest to meet that special someone, then you won’t have any fun.