Probably the last update to my affair with this single mom.
I went there again last night with the firm intention to break things off since that’s not the kind of stuff you do on the phone and just disappearing without a word is pretty scummy.
I get there and she’s in this see through deshabillé(I must not falter I thought at that point). She still had custody of the baby but she was sleeping peacefully in her little baby bed so she didn’t really get in the way. Anyways, we go to her bed and she starts telling me how she’s missed me and suddenly mounts me. I’m like nah, we need to talk first. I really like you but I’m not sure we should continue this relationship. She’s like is it cause I have a kid?, I tell her partly because of that, partly because I don’t think she’s emotionally stable enough to know what she really wants. She starts tearing up a bit at this point, says she knows her life is in a mess, and has been that way since she had her child and her husband started being a abusive mofo, which prompted her to leave him and get a place of her own.
She tells me that she’s been looking for the right guy to comfort her and help her go through this period and possibly more. That she’s met many dudes since she broke up but she hasn’t connected like this with any of them so far. I tell her look, i’m just a broke college dude, I don’t want to be in a serious relationship at this point in my life, I come here cause you’re fun to hang around with but I don’t want anything more. Then she tells me that she’s going back home for a bit(2-4 weeks) next week to get her ideas sorted out about what direction she wants her life to take through spending time with the fam, and that I should at least stay with her till she leaves. I agreed to this and we just started making out and made love to some Aria OST and chilled in her bed for the rest of the night. We had to keep it not too loud order to not wake up the baby so I had my hand on her mouth, I felt kinda like one of those japanese anime rapist. Also, I dunno why but she was lactating(probably had something to do with her baby being around) and I tried some of the milk, it’s really good, no wonder some babies don’t drink regular milk.
Kid woke up once(luckily it wasn’t during le steamy time), had to go take a piss but she fell asleep again almost instantly and didn’t notice me.
I forgot that today was the day when her dad came to pick her up so I slept over. She woke us up pretty early but I didn’t really mind. I played with her for some time, doing the airplane game with her food and all and giving her piggy backs, she seemed to like me. Around 11:00, her dad calls and announces he’ll be coming over in 15 minutes to pick her up. That was my queue to GTFO outta there.
Anyways, I think I got myself out of this situation.
Cuz
1022
Is there a WTF moment award on SRK?
Do any of you guys ever notice that a specific type of girl always seem more naturally receptive to you? I have no racial preference but pretty much every girl that has approached me in the last 2 years have been of latin descent. (I’m black)
At first it seemed like a coincidence, but it’s like the 9th time in a row I’ve gotten a number from a latina in the last 7-8 months just through casual conversation, no flirting or mackin’.
Kzoh
1024
fat black girls and skinny hoodrats, fuck life. …
Koop
1025
Light skin - high yella (southern for a high shade of light skinned women a touch above the other southern term redbone)… that is the only constant when i think on it.
Qrazy is ‘high yella’… she denies it but she is.
Get to the gym, get a haircut, and groom yourself
Because those girls probably are not attracted at all and you probably are way to lame/funny to date
As a friend you are that cool, no chance ever, guy who does shit for them that a guy they like won’t
I would recomend you hit on not so hot girls and fat chicks. I also say you hit up plentyoffish and okcupid
Don’t try to get with girls in your social circle because they aren’t attracted to you romantically.
Kzoh
1027
I am not in places right now to meet women, but once I get back in school that will change.
That doing a shit load of favors for a broad I’m not with ain’t goin down kid.
I did that shit in grade school, I learned my lesson.
I already said I tried this with a fat/chubby girl. Same story…Honestly Im just lame.
Kzoh
1029
you gotta be socially awkward or some shit, my advice is what most tell me, just mingle and eventually you’ll find someone.
I also think if you give off this energy of seeming desperate for a chick, they are apprehensive.
edit: I know some ass out all ugly as the fuck dudes with bomb chicks. confidence my dude.
when you think you’re the shit, the broads will think so too.
wit goes a long way, you can make a chick laugh.
cooking, get familiar with a stove and an oven.
be handy, learn how to build shit, fix cars, etc.
trust me, you’ll find a chick and she won’t be someone you just settled for.
Not really I just talk normally. But Im just unattractive to be honest.
Not all asians are the same, not all girls are the same
Typical asian gf=spend lots of money
Of course i am filipino, so asian girls are most of my dating pool.
There is no difference between girls of race, now class is different.
High maintainence is Gonna be expensive and a headache
Low maintenence is easy
I prefer to spoil my gf, but you kno whatevs
As far as pussy tiers
Chinese>korean>indian>viet>flip>jap>rest
Girls that are super short, I’m close to 5’ 7" myself. Also redheads, but not superfine redheads, just regular looking girls really.
When it comes to the freindzone, I’m convinced it’s a combination of me being short, skinny, and the fact that I don’t put myself out there. I don’t play the game, I just meet people and don’t front on who I am, and expect them to do the same. If they’re doin’ the show, I’m not interested, period.
I’m a good looking, funny, and communicative guy, but I just don’t like showing off or whatever to get chicks. I skateboard and whenever girls look at me when I do it and am doing well, I feel great, but I know that it’s stupid for them to be attracted to me for that reason. Sadly younger girls have often been attracted to me and my babyface so I had to grow facial hair to basically ward them off. Not trying to get jail-baited. Also, I don’t dress like I’m tryin’ to get much attention. Don’t get me wrong, I don’t dress horribly, and I got a little style, but I don’t flaunt it all the time; moderation.
I’m all about real communication.
Been with my girl for almost 3 years now. It’s not perfect, but we’re pretty good for each other, so it’s all good.
I know the sure fire way to find a girl is to be rich. I don’t have that. So Im a lost cause but thanks for the advice.
A lot has to do with the energy or vibe you send out. Stop thinking so negatively of yourself, and if you think you can’t get any girls cause you’re fat(which is not true), hit the gym. Being a downer is not really an attractive trait. Neither is being or sounding desperate.
Also, the friendzone isn’t such a bad place. When they get heartbroken and start crying in your arms and realizing that you’re the one who’s always there for them, you realize it pays to be in the friendzone(sometimes).
So my girl and I split up a month ago today. I’m missing her so damn much right now. Brief summary:
We were together for four years, met in Uni (college to my American friends) during our first year, and had been together ever since. We moved in together very quickly and there was never an issue of lack of compatibility. We did EVERYTHING together, no secrets… and even when we argued we usually made up real quick because neither of us could stand being mad at the other for longer than an hour.
Then last year, about June or so, she started talking seriously about going back to Malaysia (she’s half British) to pursue her dream of scuba diving. Long story short things started to go down south as I slowly realized that her new dream basically didn’t have any room for me, and that sooner or later I would be losing her. It all culminated into her leaving last month, in one of the saddest days of my life.
When she left, there was no hatred. No animosity. Neither of us had necessarily fallen out of love with the other. She just felt this is something she had to do on her own I guess. It was one of those goodbyes you go through, but can’t really believe is happening. And just like that, the most important person in my life for four years (it was our anniversary a week before she left), was gone. Needless to say, the next few weeks FUCKING SUCKED.
On the advice of a few friends went out with this girl who’s apparently liked me for a while. It was cool, we saw a movie, but all I could think about was my ex: How she’d hold my hand during the tense bits, how she would always put the large coke we’d share in the cup-holder for me because I was to engrossed by the screen to look down, or how she’d smile whenever I geeked out at something that happened during the movie.
I miss her so much guys. We still talk, and she tells me she loves me. With her everything was that much better and now even after a month I still miss her like crazy.
Sorry man, that blows. Most of the girls that I’ve parted ways with, or parted ways with me, there weren’t enough serious emotions for it to be all that bad. Not that I enjoyed it or anything, but I’m sure shit sucks right now for you.
For me, love comes before anything I want to pursue. For my girlfriend, she thought she was holding me back for awhile, but I was really holding myself back. I still am in several aspects, but she told me that if she was holding me back that she would end it for my sake and I told her to never fucking say that again.
It bothers me sometimes that she ever thought that and that she would consider doing that. I can’t decide whether it’s really unselfish of her, or if she didn’t value herself enough to know she was important in my life.
I don’t know, I probably wasn’t giving her enough attention at the time, but that isn’t really a problem anymore.
Well I can’t speak for one night stands. All the ones I had were with hookers, so it was pretty much guaranteed lay for me. In terms of relationships though, there is plenty you can say that can cause a girl who was interested in you to lose interest pretty quickly. Girls don’t really want to be with someone who comes off clingy and needy or with low esteem. I guess there are some girls who want doormats, but they’re typically not happy relationships at all.
Just take a look at some of the posts in this thread from guys who are talking about how they are fat ugly and broke. They just give off pretty negative vibes, and nobody, girl OR guy, wants to be around that.
I think I’ll just leave this here.
Spoiler
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It’s more of a humour piece about stalkers that I think SRK would love. Enjoy. 
0:28 is pretty much exactly how I feel about that video.
Lunaid
1040
The one who’s always there for them…as a friend. Chicks aren’t gonna mess up that kinda friendship. I think saying sometimes is being very, very generous.
Dude who’s whining, work on yourself. It sounds like more than anything, you’re unhappy with you. Other people don’t give a damn. Do whatever you have to do to be happy with yourself and everything else falls into place. I know it’s easier said than done, I myself have a lot of things I’d like to change but am too damn lazy to get started. It is the only way though. Think of what you’d like to see in the mirror every morning and work towards that goal.
