6301

Ah college. I miss it. I’ll finish one day…heh

Man, the roommate thing is something you’re going to have to deal with, like an adult. Hyper Kid basically said all that needs to be said on it though. If it’s at some wild hour at night, you’re just gonna have to, “be that guy” and block, to get your rest in. It’s kind of disrespectful to do bring someone over, knowing the other person has things that need to be done, or a place to rest their head. Some days can’t be helped though.

I was fortunate enough to have a dorm room that was basically the size of an apartment, so whenever one of us needed the room, the other took the sofa in the living room. If not that, then an attempt at “ninja sex” was tried. lolz

You never know what a relationship will do, because you don’t know what the person may bring to you. If someone makes you happy, then you are already benefiting from the company they bring, and the color they put in the often colorless world depression can make people see in (especially during fall / winter).

For certain, you have people with eagle eyes that are on the look out for relationships. Some aren’t though. Besides, it’s fucking college. Everyone has a chance with somebody. Not saying you have to whore it up, but college is the biggest sign that there is someone for everyone…

6302

I totally agree. You’re too young and too inexperienced to be so damn jaded and bitter. Fuck, you haven’t even experienced life enough! Put a motherfuckin’ smile on your face and go out there in that big world and do shit. Make mistakes. Make bad choices (just none involving binge drinking or drugs). Talk to people. Become friends with people. Potentially date them. Have good and bad relationships.
ENJOY LIFE, MOTHERFUCKER.

Like… for real bro… You’re only 18. Shit. I did more shit by the time I was your age than I’d like to say, but, they’ve helped me out in the end. I wouldn’t be the person I am today without fuckups. Just how life goes. Gotta take the good and the bad.

In terms of the roommate thing: Just like anything. You gotta set out clear and concise ground rules. Otherwise, you’ll be waiting outside your dorm door while your roommate is playing “Who’s In My Mouth” with whoever he brought over.

Don’t want any of that…

6303

Ite fam, I’ll try that approach then.

6304

You wanna know why I’m so bitter? I embarrassed myself being in love several times. Besides, I was that guy no one wanted to be around, the social awkward one, the one no one really invited anywhere. Sure, I feel never put enough effort when it came to people, but I could sense that people never liked me. They don’t. Shit, I’m usually nice to people in general. It makes me tired how people ask me about my so-called life and how everyone seeks love. Are they that lonely and pathetic? Just hearing people bitch about being stuck in the friend zone pisses me off; if the person doesn’t see you as more than a friend, move on, and they have the audacity to claim the person was giving them mixed signals. No one gave them mixed signals, they just misinterpreted what the other person did. It’s annoying, and all of this romance-bullshit gives me diabetes. Yes, I haven’t experienced life yet, but other than the fact that I’m breathing, I have no reason to smile.

6305

All I can say to you is: You have soooooo much to learn my friend, so much to learn. When you find that person you want to have more than a friend and it doesn’t work out, then you will understand. It is easy for you to say those things because you haven’t been there yet. You may be nice to people in general, but with just about every post you have made it has been somewhat negative. Now I wouldn’t want to chill with you if you are always oozing negativity. Like my girl Neesa said, smile and enjoy life. I mean you are posted in the relationship thread for a reason.

6306

What’s there to enjoy? I destroyed the relationship with my mother and looking for somewhere else to stay. I got fired for no reason and don’t own a vehicle or the necessities to take me where I need to go. It’s hard to enjoy life when there’s nothing to do.

6307

You sound clinically depressed my dude.
1- that is your mother, what ever you did to destroy that relationship you need to chalk it up and fix it.
2- Lost your job? File unemployment and start looking for a new one.
3- Public transit is not available where you are?

6308

According to my therapist, I am.

  1. There’s no point in that. Apparently, I’ve been disrespectful and from time to time, we would have these big, stupid fights over nothing, but this time I should just live in some shelter.
  2. I’m looking for a new one now. My last job claimed for two weeks I’ve made nothing but mistakes but never said anything despite saying I’ve been doing a great job lately.
  3. There is. Just worried about bus fare.
6309

Dude we all have had those low points in our life. When I first moved to Cincinnati for college, I ended up being homeless from winter quarter until mid July (a good 6 months). When my friends found out I was homeless after the fact, the couldn’t tell because worrying about it wouldn’t help me none. The point is that its how you handle the situations you are in. I know here in cincy taking the bus has a huge discount for college students. And as far as you and your relationship with moms, have you looked at what you bring to the situation? Are you disrespectful to her? Just remember you can only control what YOU do, so just make sure you have your shit on point with everything. And like Qrazy said unemployment is an option, and I have been there with jobs where they basically fire you off some bs, but it happens, ust keep your head up bruv.

6310

Yes, I do. She keeps claiming she’s miserable and that I’m miserable, but I don’t know why she’s telling as if I know how to help her. Besides, I just see her a person most of the time, so I might as live somewhere and cut all ties with her.

6311

Well if you think it will help you especially with obtaining happiness, then more power to you, but would you want to have a better relationship with your moms?

6312

We already have a good relationship, I just damage it, and this time the damage can’t be fixed.

6313

You didn’t answer my question. I said do you want a better relationship with moms? How can a relationship be good if you claim you have damaged it beyond repair? Lemme ask you somethin. What do you want to see happen for you throughout life?

6314

Yes, I do, but it’s futile at this point.

6315

Well if you don’t mind me asking, why is it so futile? And what do you want for yourself? out of life? You can PM me if you want.

6316

It sucks hearing people tell you to just suck it up and do something good for yourself. It’s way harder than it should be to put the effort in and improve your life, but you’re always gonna be miserable until you do. You can’t be one of those people who sit around with the answers right in front of them and refusing to act on them. I’m learning this right now for myself and it is hard but if you can see happiness in your future you can make it happen man. Nothing in this life is free and good things will not come if you sit around waiting for them.

6317

Hey, reposting something that seems to have got lost in the shuffle that is the Relationship/Dating thread. Kinda hurtin on this, so any feedback, thoughts or ideas would be greatly appreciated =)

So… I went and told the girl I’ve been seeing that I have feelings for her. She’s an old friend… but she told me that she thinks of me as a friend… the thing is… she was like really pressuring me to tell her what was on my mind when I told her I needed to talk to her about something. When we sat down, she was like “Out with it, theres no need to be shy” while giving me a lot of eye contact and she started like getting all misty eyed. I guess i misread that as her wanting me to tell her…

The thing is, when I told her that I had feelings for her ever since like years ago she was like “Why didn’t you tell me back then? Things could have been different” but she didn’t go further than that. She was also saying how it was really ballsy to tell her and she really respected and appreciated it. She said that right now she’s in a transition phase between relationships and theres one guy shes casually seeing but she doesn’t see it going anywhere…and she was also saying “don’t go awkward on me, I really love spending time with you and we have a deep connection and we better still hang out” I jokingly was like, “dude, im gonna make it so awkward, just watch” and we laughed and whatnot. A couple days later she texted me saying she just wanted to say hi. In any case… do you think maybe I just jumped the guy too early in telling her my feelings and so she reacted badly and sabotaged my chances with her? Or is it a done deal and I can never have a chance with her? She’s someone really special to me and it’s not gonna be easy getting over her… >_<

6318

Dramatix is your mom hawt?!?!

6319

@JSN I’d say you acted too late not too early. You either caught her at the wrong time or she’s just not interested. I could be wrong but I think your only shot is to just keep doing the friend thing and maybe your chance is gonna come, you don’t wanna push too hard if she’s not into it right now, never know how she’s gonna react to that.

It’s real hard to be friends with someone you’ve got feelings for but if you keep being there while these other relationships “don’t go anywhere” you’re probably gonna be that different guy, you know? She knows how you feel you just gotta wait it out or move on.

6320

Yeah… that’s what I keep telling myself. Improve upon myself and just keep going forward. Keep hanging out with her since she genuinely enjoys my company even after like a 3-4 year hiatus. We picked up like fine right where we left off, 2 meetups which I perceived as dates… I guess incorrectly >_<

How can I stay on good terms with her though while not falling too deep into the friend zone? I’ll be honest, I have that friend zone tendency. She wants to meet in a week or two again perhaps… >_<

Just have to stay interesting without overstepping my bounds?