Hey babe, I’m here for ya
Good thread, I’ll be sure to break down here once a week.
girl i was talking about earlier just told me she likes to eat crackers with mustard and ketchup on almost anything.
part of me wanted to say “thats why you so big now”
the other part of me still wants to hit it.
So as some of you may know I broke up with my long term girl about a month ago and that relationship is dead as dirt. I know a lot of people usually don’t want to get involved with someone again after the end of something long term, but I guess since this long term thing was really good I’m not put off by the concept.
I’m not a super shy person, so I’ve been trying to work whatever angles I come across, but I haven’t had much luck. One wasn’t interested and another shot me down harshly. Then I met this new girl at a party, who is basically my ideal woman. I talked to her for about an hour at the party and things seemed to go really well, so the next day I shot her an email asking her out for coffee. She agreed - but mentioned that she had a boyfriend. I met up with her anyhow and sure enough she was great to talk to.
I know I’m not going to get anywhere with this girl, but since I met her everyone else seems to pale in comparison. I still really want to find a new girl, but I can’t work up much enthusiasm for anyone else. Any suggestions on how to get this ideal girl out of my head?
^ too funny. And yeah I know what comes after cuddling. grin Shit I started drinking last night and was still all alone so I ended up masturbating.
I hate how it just doesn’t feel as good as having someone do it for you. Does that happen to guys too?
Hard shit, i know. If you’ve met that guy that you felt is “The one that got away”, it’s hella difficult to not only not talk to that guy but, just sometimes cross your mind.
What helps me resist and shit is really occupying yourself with something that you want to do. Go game, snack on something healthy, even take a walk for a breather. Just avoiding the thought of them or seeing their name online/phone/whatever really helps. When i was tempted to call my ex, i shut off my phone and hid it under my pillow. Just gotta walk away from it.
For the times when we’re weak and just want to cuddle, or loved, etc. Hug a pillow, draw a fluff infested picture, call your best friend (female preferably) do whatever to just satisfy that side. Find someone to tell you how special you are or get some comfort in knowing that things are great they way they are now. I find this feeling is a craving to just feel special, so meet that need somewhere else that is not in former lover.
Thats really good stuff there. Thanks a whole bunch. I know theres things I should be doing, and stuff to occupy my time, but I just want a man’s attention and affection. I’m craving a new love bad too, and thats just not fair to the new guy to fill some silly desire to be held and cuddled…but still I cant just stop wanting affection.
I mean I’m so desperate for any kind of attention from a guy, I posted up in my local thread looking to see if anyone just wanted to hang out. Not that I want to cuddle some random stranger, but just hanging out at a movie would have been nice too.
I get what you mean though. But I can’t be satisfied with hugging a pillow, because they don’t hug you back.
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that kind of applies… D: ( don’t know if they make a guy version of it )
you should go out and meet new people. preferably at social events that draw your interest. I’m moving soon, and I hope to do just that, since I won’t have many people I know where I’m going. it would be nice to hit up some nice asian girls at an arcade/skate park/book store/art museum/anywhere where there are asians/i like asians/asians are cute/i’m going to stop now.
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so yeah… it can’t hurt to look around. do you still go to school? that would be an easy place to start.
edit: although, and i probably shoulda mentioned, i currently have a gf… dunno if that’ll change when i move.
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Sex is a good way to feel special
That is a damn good way to feel special. Hell, i’m not knocking friends with benefits— if that’s strictly what it is. >_>
@Sweet Honey: Nah i get what you’re sayin too. A mans touch is something hard to substitute. However, i’d definitely encourage just hanging out with people since that’s what you’re looking for. :] Go out with some girl friends and flirt with some guys, that way you won’t get caught up too much over your head if you meet someone whom seems pretty cool. Or, just hang out with a close friend and have a good time.
Lol even like i said above; If you can find a strict friends with benefits, use that until you fill that gap. I’d say, have fun right now and you’ll meet your other half when you least expect it :]
I guess I will step in and take my hand in this. Normally I keep anything related to my personal life and gaming life separate but I’ll make an exception this time. Sorry if I appear so cold, that’s just the way I speak online.
There was a girl I was in love with quite a while back. I met her back while I was still in the Army and was in the process of getting my paperwork done for a medical discharge. During this time, I was also going through quite a depression and sought out to travel since I was getting sick of my surroundings. She was transfered over to Ft Sam Houston in San Antonio, so naturally I drove out there and back at certain intervals just to get away from it all. What made me fall in love with her in the first place was her sense of humor and how honest she was to me. Something happened one night though. One of her friends that I spoke to told me that she couldn’t take the lies of the girl I loved anymore and told me everything about what was going on while she was in the city. At first I didn’t believe it, but it sunk in slowly and I eventually packed up my stuff from the hotel and left to go to where she was living at. I walked up to the front steps, paused, and with a sorrow in my heart, left the city that night without knocking on the door. I thanked her friend for letting me know the truth and went on my own ways.
That point was a defining moment for me as I realized that I would have to respect myself by focusing on what I would want to do as a person. Even though I was depressed, doing the things I wanted to do gave me a feeling of empowerment in such a time where I felt emotionally powerless. This led for me to travel throughout all sorts of areas in the United States to do whatever I felt like without any rules or people subjecting me to whatever. It’s important that you remember that even though it feels as though there isn’t hope in whatever relationship or situation you’re in, it’s you who can decide what you feel like doing. Just listen to your heart, though it may hurt now, wounds heal over time.
As for that girl I mentioned, it turns out she got pregnant by some other guy and is on some other base wherever already married. I don’t have feelings for her anymore because she broke my trust and that was all that led me to love her for the way she supposedly was. As for the offer for that movie you mentioned, I’m still putting school as a priority these next two weeks, but I guess a Starbucks or something of the sort would be better if you just want to talk, just let me know.
My friend had a conversation with this guy on his job. Here’s how it went down:
Co-worker: “I love her. Been w/ her 2 months & been buying her everything she wants. $350 heels, $500 earrings, 5 Star restaurant dinners, it’s been great!”
Him: “Wow, I guess that’s great. What has she done for you?”
Co-worker: “What? Nothing. She supposed to? I love her!” “Ok, I guess the lovin is on point?” “…I haven’t seen her naked. I love her!!”
Him: “What?! Man, you on that Halloween shit, trickin & treatin!”
Not sure if this is the best place to ask this. But anyway, I recently decided to get out of the club scene. As I’m starting to realize I’m getting to old to be in clubs (I’ll be 31 in just a short few months). I’ve also realize it’s harder for me to pull women in clubs than it was in the past, maybe because I don’t work on my swag (whatever that is) or anything else anymore. And lastly, I just don’t find women in clubs that attractive or appealing anymore. Sure some are attractive, but it seems lately being pretty just isn’t enough to keep me interested in a woman.
My last club outing was just this weekend, and I hated every minute of it. I finally decided that it's time to abandon the club scene, and focus on LTRs. Although I've had many sexual encounters that either led to a FWB or nothing at all, I have almost zero relationship experience. I was in only one relationship that lasted 4 years and this ended in 2006. I just recently paid for a membership to a dating site, but I'm not having very much luck. I don't think I'm an incredibly unattractive guy (as I've been able to bed plenty of women in the past), but I do not have any clue how to pursue women for LTRs. It seems all of my experience with women has been geared toward finding ways to getting them in bed, but not making any of them fall for me. Any tips on this?
The women I desire are anywhere from 27-35 as that’s my general age group. If anyone have experience dealing with these women, it would be appreciated. Thanks
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so upon visiting my gf in rural-ass fuck canada (saskatchewan) we more or less broke up halfway into my 2 week trip, so now i’m stranded here until me, her and her parents go on a trip to winnipeg tomorrow and i can dip in a motel and hop on my flight back to jersey.
moral of the story: hoes are crazy, always have an escape plan…oh and buy one-way tickets as they are WAY easier to salvage if you have to cancel/move your return.
That sucks bro^ Im learning more and more that long distance relationships is hard as hell to maintain. Everytime you go to visit the other person its like a break up is foreshadowed.
Thrust did she come to jersey to visit you or was you doing all the traveling?
@ Vicious Kat:
It’s simple break down the traits that are important to you, then you will break the mold of this perfect person or ideal person.
Because you have this image in your head you might be missing out on something thats not your “norm” but is really what you need.
Basically just switch up your selection in women, keep your standards of course but switch up personality. Like I use to always go after homebodies–but after awihle i was like damn let me date a few women who do other stuff beside stay home…once that happen things took off.
To get you out your funk, that might be all you need.
I guess I will try to make this brief. a friend of mine said “assume all girls are single until proven otherwise”. So when you talk up a girl and you think she is cool and all that do you just ask if she is seeing someone or what? I can never figure out how to close the conversation on a meaningful note. I feel like a goon. I don’t want to ask a girl on a date or something and get death threats from Mr. Jealous boyfriend.
Meh I’ve gotten in the habit of asking straight away as in before I find out if she is all cool and that. Having the assumption ‘‘She is single until proven otherwise’’ is flawed in my eyes as most women won’t let you know if they have a boyfriend until you try something or you get close enough to them that they feel like sharing parts of their life with you.
That being said you’re unlikely to get your ass whooped for asking a girl out who is in a relationship.
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we met in korea and started going out like right after valetine’s day and now we’re in between contracts but going back to korea in 2-3 months. i did the traveling to see her bcuz she was stressed out, bored, etc… single, $600 and 10 days later i’m posting from a super 8 in winnipeg.
i usually jokingly ask if a girl is with her boyfriend midway through first meeting them ONLY to avoid drama of him rolling up on me while i’m trying mack on his girl, beyond that i couldn’t really give a fuck about making of move on a dude’s girl if she’s gonna let it go down. a chick who is really about her man is gonna shut you down somewhat early anyway though.
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i always wonder how you guys handle other dudes macking on your girlfriend/wife
