3961

why are you talking to girls that you don’t want to have sex with?

3962

This is why I like my women to be upfront. Sometimes you have to say no because you’re in the work place. She said no, but what she really meant was “Get the fuck away from. Watchu gonna do about it? Bitch ass niccuh!” on some Stinkmeaner shit, but she can’t say that. Cause she’d lose her job. But she was thinking something close to it…that or me being up this late with a bottle of Ciroc and pepsi just aint working out

3963

Rofl

3964

bc like you can have good convos w guys, you can also have good convos w girls, lol (some girls that is).

3965

wow :rofl::rofl:

3966

So the first 8 inches were consensual …

Anyways, now that I hav ur attention, has anyone had the “reacher and settler “ argument with their bf or gf ? There’s no 50/50 … ratio could be 49/51 or god forbid 99/1 but one is the reacher or settler .

I haven’t been put on the spot for this yet but I’ve seen some friends of mine put on this and everytime it was not pretty haha. I want to batman prep shit for this argument not if but WHEN it comes …So essentially if u don’t know what either is ….

Every good relationship has a REACHER and a SETTLER:
One person REACHES (the reacher) for someone out of their league, the other one settles (the settler) for someone below theirs.
The settler is never jealous of the reacher becauser that person is the best the reacher could ever get.

So if this was ever brought up to u, how would YOU answer and handle counter-arguments … to me it’s a lose lose situation … I’d be the settler if i had to choose coz I hav to much pride in admitting that my other settled down for me and could have done better but then my partner would feel offended as if they could not do better …

3967

Nope, I think that’d be a pretty horrible discussion to have. Sounds like a “no-win” situation. If that ever came up, I’d be dodging like Mayweather.

3968

why would you entertain some stupid like that long enough for an argument to start in the first place?

3969

I agree it’s a stupid thing, and a no-no win … I wouldn’t bring it up or hint it at all or would ever want to entertain the idea. Thats why i’m asking just in case if someone brings that shit up, like a salty third party … which is always how it is usually brought up … how would u answer ? because honestly, i wouldn’t want to answer and will evade that question like the plague, like some of u guys were doing now anyways … that’s why i’m asking now here, where i’d assume its safe rather than talk to other friends about it, coz then gossip goes around

EDIT: as far as i know and my tactic to if it ever comes up somehow, is to ignore it and change subject … but u guys know how some people just want to be an ass or are salty and push through with the question

I’m not forcing anyone to answer but i’m hoping at least someone has an answer that finds a loophole

3970

i’m drunk, don’t mind me.

3971

Yea…I don’t think I could entertain that convo. I’d probably get tight with whomever brought it up. lol.

3972

Hm… I feel like that’s me sometimes. I hope that doesn’t sound mean cause I love my BF, but sometimes I wondered if I settled. He’s been wanting to be with me since we were 14. I was the girl out of his league and could only have in his dreams. He’s dated enough girls he could count on one hand. I need all my fingers, toes and other extremities to count. But, I gave him a chance and 3 years later, I’m still here. Sometimes I wonder if this is the right thing to do or am I just being naive.

But, that’s not a conversation I’d want to get into too much. I get the “Are you happy with me?” questions a lot. And I can save 90% of the time, yes, I am happy. But there’s that 10% that eats at me and sometimes makes me second guess myself. But then I think about all he’s done for me and all we’ve done for each other in this time just to start over again in hopes that I find someone as good or better… Meh. I’ll take my chances.

Even though he’s already gotten the final warning if he fucks up with me. But, that’s another story for another time, fellas.

3973

In all reality…aren’t we all on both sides of the reacher/settler argument?

If we are all honest with ourselves, we never end up with the person we imagined ourselves with…

For the record, I think that is one of the dumbest things to discuss/think about when in a relationship…I also think it has a lot to do with perspective.

Please don’t share that story…I like having you two in lollipop perfect relationship land.

3974

LMFAO! Lollipop Perfect. Love it. Hell, I’m cooking dinner again tonight. He made the cutest comment that made me smile “keep this up and you might find a ring on that finger a lot sooner”. I was like, “Aww snapz. Lemme hit the grocery store.” :rofl:*
*

3975

Qrazy while Im around you cant be encouraging Neesa wit that bf talk lol.

3976

Ugh not again, Koop can you help me out Neesa is makin me jelly again. talking that cooking for another man talk. I need a thumbs down icon. Or Neesa needs a comment about her bf like once a day…lol.

Edit**
Nah it’s all good. Its a nice change of pace since we always talk about how ish goes wrong with our relationships.

3977

Dis nigga is so salty. :rofl:
<3 Rod

3978

Ugh, got me losing my status on here damn you Jersey girls. A brotha was jelly about the food duh…lol.

3979

Koop is busy again…he may get back to you Monday…
:slight_smile:

3980

@ Qrazy not again o_O no doubt way to hold Koop down.

Well at least a few people are happy in here. Just wait Imma find me somebody to hold me down. Then Imma make all ya’ll hate me. Imma post pics of me and this girl holding hands and wearing matching outfits with matching j’s.

Sorta like:

Imma get my revenge on you happy couples in here!!!
Imma post pics of us feeding each other spicy chicken sandwiches @ wendys.