The Relationship/Dating Thread: We rough up our significant other and they love it!

Weeks · 2011-06-22T08:13:04.000Z

Yeah me and my wife dated for 6 years before getting married.

Neesa · 2011-06-22T08:18:54.000Z

FreddyL0c0:

but its ure dentist who took care of you…(ends smartass remark)…he prob just wanted the day off to be with you through it all

Nah. It was an emergency. I didn’t sleep the night before due to pain.

FreddyL0c0 · 2011-06-22T08:22:24.000Z

lool i deleted it anyways but its cool, im just extremely bored

abandonist · 2011-06-22T10:34:12.000Z

My wife and I had known each other since we were 15. We got together at 22 and married at 24. It’s 5.5 years later and we’re happy.

sambo · 2011-06-22T10:44:55.000Z

Qrazy:

I really tried not to respond but here it goes…
The first highlighted point boils down to this…how DARE you not be at her feet the same way all the other guys are? She is hot and everyone want her, so why should you wait for her?
So that first point actually answers the questions you posted on here.ong story short, if she is worth it you need to clear this up with her.
[LIST]
[]You aren’t dating
[]If you are then she needs to let it be known
[]and needs to make time to date
[]If she cannot make time to date then you need to see if this is worth it for you
[/LIST]

long story short: I did try going out with her. I’m not that stupid lol. the problem here is that she’s a flake. she can’t help being a flake because her job, school, and home life require a lot of time from her. and when she’s not doing either of those things, she’s going out with her girl friends. I’m at the bottom of her list of priorities from what I can tell. if she actually made some time to go out with me, of course I’d go for it.

and from what her friends told me, she’s too shy around guys(particularly me) to do anything. the few times that I have met up with her she handles herself very poorly. terrible body language and ambiguous responses the whole time. in other words, she supposedly likes me but doesn’t know how to show it.

and believe me, I’ve waited for her for a long time. I’ve made my moves, and let her know what I think of her, but she doesn’t do anything.

Kousen:

Well, she probably feels like you did her dirty, because in her mind there was more then just a hangout thing AKA she liked you. So, it will probably be pretty hard to come back from that, but if you can get a hold of her tell her the truth why it happen that way, and the way you felt. It may not fix anything, but if she is worth it go for it. If it doesn’t work there is more fish in the sea.

I don’t want to sound like I’m insulting this girl, but I say this bc I know her well enough to say it: she doesn’t understand the concept of a date. she thinks that dating someone means you’re going to marry them. this is one of the [many] reasons why she hasn’t dated anybody before, bc she doesn’t want to get married. that doesn’t make any sense to me, but it’s the way she thinks.

if anything, she probably counts me being around her as something in between hanging out and an actual date.

but yea, I get what you guys are saying. basically I gotta clear things up with her. I don’t know how tho since she hasn’t been responding to me, and technically I’m not supposed to know that her friends told her about what happened at the party.

Neesa · 2011-06-22T19:16:59.000Z

abandonist:

My wife and I had known each other since we were 15. We got together at 22 and married at 24. It’s 5.5 years later and we’re happy.

Aww hell yeah. My boyfriend and I knew each other since we were 14. Got together at 20 and still together. Haha. Only reason we even know each other cause he sucked in Freshman Spanish and I was assigned to be his tutor.

Koop · 2011-06-22T19:52:42.000Z

Neesa:

Aww hell yeah. My boyfriend and I knew each other since we were 14. Got together at 20 and still together. Haha. Only reason we even know each other cause he sucked in Freshman Spanish and I was assigned to be his tutor.

lmao nice…

thurst · 2011-06-22T20:00:56.000Z

@sambo…so why do you care about this broad? she’s extremely hard to get up with and when you do hang out with her personality is wack? nothing about that situation sounds worth your time.

one of the worst things about being abroad is that chicks are randomly hung up on niggas back home. for instance, shorty i was fucking with (and was about to cut off the rest of the team and try to lock down) randomly had some skype date with this nigga back home and now she’s all “we can’t fuck anymore bcuz i think this guy 3000 miles is the one, even though i have no idea when i’m going back home.” this wouldn’t be as bad if i hadn’t seen how this story ends so many times. [/venting]

The_Epidemic · 2011-06-22T20:05:54.000Z

^The walls make cats put up with a lot of bullshit son…you already know lol

sambo · 2011-06-22T20:19:21.000Z

thurst:

@sambo…so why do you care about this broad? she’s extremely hard to get up with and when you do hang out with her personality is wack? nothing about that situation sounds worth your time.

sambo:

man I havent been in here for a while.

so there’s this chick, apparently she likes me but she 's too busy to do anything with me more than once or twice a month. if she’s not with me she’s with her family, with her girl friends, or working. she has zero experience dating dudes. meanwhile I’ve been taking out girls here and there cuz I dont see any point in puttin all my eggs into one basket when that basket is too busy to hold eggs anyway. she has never dated before, or even kissed a dude.

I’m not putting much (if any) time into her. I barely spend time with her in the first place. that’s how this whole problem started.

she likes me, but doesn’t have time to see me. when she does see me she acts weird. so I started seeing other girls. she still hits me up like she wants to go out but nothing happens bc of how she is. when she hears that I’ve been seeing other girls she gets angry.

I was just wondering how I could fix that last part in case I felt the need to. but ehh, I got this other girl on my mind right now so it’s whatever.

thurst · 2011-06-22T20:37:18.000Z

The_Epidemic:

^The walls make cats put up with a lot of bullshit son…you already know lol

lol truer words don’t exist.

Koop · 2011-06-22T21:46:00.000Z

thurst:

@sambo…so why do you care about this broad? she’s extremely hard to get up with and when you do hang out with her personality is wack? nothing about that situation sounds worth your time.

one of the worst things about being abroad is that chicks are randomly hung up on niggas back home. for instance, shorty i was fucking with (and was about to cut off the rest of the team and try to lock down) randomly had some skype date with this nigga back home and now she’s all “we can’t fuck anymore bcuz i think this guy 3000 miles is the one, even though i have no idea when i’m going back home.” this wouldn’t be as bad if i hadn’t seen how this story ends so many times. [/venting]

shouldve of just used some of your [S]govt issued neurotoxin [/S]game u spit an put it on her…

an what the hell is a skype date… i mean… how does that work?

AcEtUrNeDjOkEr · 2011-06-22T21:48:22.000Z

Koop:

an what the hell is a skype date… i mean… how does that work?

THIS!!! Fuckin’ technology these days…what the hell…smh

Demolition Man is coming true

thurst · 2011-06-22T22:19:44.000Z

lol a skype date is just when you set a time to video chat (over skype) with people back home…also a good alternative to talking to broads on the phone bcuz you can get them to show those tittays.

Qrazy · 2011-06-22T23:19:31.000Z

thurst:

lol a skype date is just when you set a time to video chat (over skype) with people back home…also a good alternative to talking to broads on the phone bcuz you can get them to show those tittays.

unfortunately it also allows the fellas to capture screen shots and record video of said event…

Koop · 2011-06-22T23:41:34.000Z

thurst:

lol a skype date is just when you set a time to video chat (over skype) with people back home…also a good alternative to talking to broads on the phone bcuz you can get them to show those tittays.

so it basically replaces the ol’ art of phone-bonin…

wow… these mean streetz of the innanetz

Neesa · 2011-06-23T03:30:49.000Z

Koop:

so it basically replaces the ol’ art of phone-bonin…

wow… these mean streetz of the innanetz

This made me laugh pretty hard.

orochizoolander · 2011-06-23T05:00:30.000Z

Warpticon:

I like your use of “allowing,”, like it’s a privilege or something. :lol:

I was trying to find an old post and found this gem instead:rofl:

Awhile ago I posted about a girl who I liked more then anyone else I was talking to at the time who disappeared on me for 2 weeks which turned into over 5 so I assumed she lost interest. But she called me 2 days ago and apologized for not calling but at a karaoke bar a producer noticed her now she’s getting studio time and eventually a music video so she’s been super busy. We’re both still talking to other people but if things continue to go the way they have been she’ll eventually end up as the first serious gf I’ve had in almost a year.

Qrazy · 2011-06-23T05:14:11.000Z

orochizoolander:

I was trying to find an old post and found this gem instead:rofl:

Awhile ago I posted about a girl who I liked more then anyone else I was talking to at the time who disappeared on me for 2 weeks which turned into over 5 so I assumed she lost interest. But she called me 2 days ago and apologized for not calling but at a karaoke bar a producer noticed her now she’s getting studio time and eventually a music video so she’s been super busy. We’re both still talking to other people but if things continue to go the way they have been she’ll eventually end up as the first serious gf I’ve had in almost a year.

That is actually a really short time to be without a “serious” gf.
How many serious gfs do you go through in a year?

jwillennium · 2011-06-23T17:38:39.000Z

Okaaaaaaaaaaaaay. This is driving me a little mad, so I’ve come for opinions on the matter.
I really believe that sharing certain details are important in order to get the best advice, but I’d rather do it via PM. So if anyone’s seriously interested in helping me out, please let me know and I’ll PM the “juicy” details. It’s really a long story and I find myself replaying the WHOLE thing in my mind in hopes of better understanding what’s going on now.

Anyway… where I’m at now is analyzing and agonizing over signals. If you’ve beaten my Makoto in SSFIVAE lately, this is why. (joking) There are two particular signals of the red light class that concern me.

She cancels plans to spend time after having expressed to me real interest in hanging out. Now, I don’t think this is going to be an “always” thing. I can’t say I’ve noticed a pattern, but you know this always makes one wonder the level of interest someone has in them. If you’re truly interested in propelling a relationship forward, how do you cancel plans to spend time with such ease, especially when the opportunities aren’t frequent anyway?
She never actually calls me. She calls me BACK, but that’s a different story of course. Now, I know some women follow a golden rule that says “HE SHOULD BE CALLING ME”. Some women have flat out stated that they never called guys they were interested in. They felt like it was his duty to call them. I don’t know what this woman’s style is about calling men she is interested in, but this tendency to not call me is sending me the message that she’s not ROMANTICALLY interested in me. I know she at least wants to be friends. Again, there’s a detail that I’d share in private that keeps me thinking she at least HAD (not even a year old) interest in us being more.

Now, you’ve got to understand that there are some seriously conflicting signals here. There’s so much more to it. I’m talking about the positive signals that make me think there’s a strong possibility that she is still interested in me beyond friendship. But above are the bright red lights that have me really confused right now.

What’s the deal?