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I’ve always strayed away from dating within close friendship circles - but since you’re past that point, personally my advice to you is to make sure that your buddies know you as a good guy who’s going to take care of their sister. It’s not as bad if you’re known as a good guy they can trust. However, if you’ve done your share of dirt they know about with women, things won’t be good for you.

Just be up front about it with them.

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Dating within a friends circle was such a bad experience for me. Especially cause other girls started dating the guys within our circle. One girl still has a grudge against me til this day. Mind you, we were 17 when this happens. Yeah, I’m 23 now and she still hates me for dating him.

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But, I definitely think you should just let them know ahead of time instead of surprising them.

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I know a guy who intentionally dated people’s exes after they broke up with them. Like, he was known for going after the ‘leftovers’ as well called them. Did I mention we could never get people together for parties etc with friends of the opposite sex because of this guy showing up on surprise or we’d have to avoid telling him about anything?

Talk about ruining the experience for everyone.

Oh, and none of us are friends anymore.

I’ve seen fights, police being called and family arguments of all sorts because of it.

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Dude sounds like a asshole. One of those moments your chillin in front of the crib and dude rolls by, everyone finishes their drink/smoke and walks inside to avoid him.

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From a long-term relationship POV (not a political one), does anybody think what Anthony Weiner did was wrong? Other than jeopardizing his job/career, I don’t get what makes him a scumbag. Unless he met any of those girls in person, everything that he was caught doing should be fair game in a marriage.

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I’m curious to know, what makes you feel that way Taito?

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Here’s a interesting question, unrelated to the above situation. At what point do you think a girl is ready to date again after breaking up? And what would be the best way to go after a friends ex?

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He became the “scumbag” due to the fact he was married and he was aiming at younger women (the real point). An they pushed it over the top cause of his wife now being pregnant. Was it wrong what he did, yep, DUE TO your job. You want to talk big shyt and have people trust in you… then be ready for the storm when something happens to you regardless of what it is. Look at newt gingrinch(sp?)… he cant even be taken serious cause of his MULTIPLE marriages (bump his platform or history as the speaker…etc.). Donald Trump may be a idiot and a attention genius but he couldnt be serious cause of his MULTIPLE marriages.

The image given off is one wife… no affairs or mistresses… clean cut… do good and your ok. How many “players” “playboys” “bachelors” do you see is high end gov’t (ie senete, house, congress…etc.). Even the gay ones hide it and act clean cut an married n faithful…until they get caught then all hell breaks loose. Even the ones that do get caught up still play it as everything is fine (ie Billy Clinton… u know damn well he aint hittin hillary… he aint hit that since woodstock or shortly before conceiving chelsea(sp?) )

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Ask her to hang out. Don’t tell the homies, I’m sure they know but they’ll be in denial at first.

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  1. that could take forever really… but I would drift the 4-6 month range…depending on HOW an WHAT they broke up over

2)I can’t answer that cause my friends ex is my ex… thus i would never touch it an she falls into the bros before hoes situation. I mean you want to touch something you friend most likely shared intimate details bout?

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In my mind, a girl is really only ready to date again when she’s mentally ready to date again. I guess in so many words, it’s really not up to us to make the judgment call on that one. When I was young and dumb I used to try and get girls to hop right into something with me, sweet talking them knowing what I could offer over the previous guy. All I’d really get was my foot in the door temporarily before they had time to think things through, and realize they needed time to themselves.

You’d have better luck asking the females who post here…

No disrespect to women intended, but I think as emotional as women are, there’s no one more qualified to answer that question but them.

The best way to go after a friend’s ex? Don’t.

I suppose it’s only cool if your friend is cool with it, but imo, I’d stay farrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr away.

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Because this ass-backwards, dishonest outlook on marriage and sexuality in the US is probably why the divorce rate is so high. Is marriage or monogamy a priesthood? I don’t think those couples you hear about lasting 50+ years till death, think/thought it is.

I don’t even want to watch the bullshit news over in the US, and the phony debates going on right now. Everybody’s eternally sexually attracted to their mate, right? If you don’t cheat (and you absolutely shouldn’t imo, or don’t bother with marriage), you do SOMETHING to get away from the face you look at every day. Strip clubs, flirting at work, porno and Jergens, or whatever.

So yeah I get the image and the game in politics and everything, but back to his marriage, I don’t consider anything he did a foul, and his wife should forgive him if she hasn’t already (provided that’s all he did).

PS. Like I said, I don’t want to talk about politics because it’s a farce. In Italy it took a prime minister to screw a prostitute that was underage for the public to go, “okay that was wrong.” People in the States are too sensitive over the shit that doesn’t matter (or doesn’t exist, like Obama being a Kenya-born Muslim)

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I would think so too, so why would those ex’s get with your friend.

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Lemme see if I can answer this:

Like Kaz said, when we’re mentally ready to actually move on into another relationship out of respect of myself and the person I’m talking to. When I was younger (than I already am), I’d jump from relationship to relationship thinking that being in one would help me get over the previous guy. How dumb I was. As I got older, my aunt told me to give myself a full 30 days or so to just deal with myself before jumping back out there. Last thing I wanna bring is my whole closet of bullshit from my previous relationships to my current one. It’s not fair to the new guy. Of course we’re gonna have baggage, but at least over the time you spent letting yourself heal/get over the past relationship, you can try to focus more on what’s to come and not what came. Can’t move forward looking backwards.

But in the end, time is usually the deciding factor.

Only way going after a friend’s ex works if you’re a former friend. All it does is cause way more drama than it’s worth in my opinion. I lost friends behind doing shit like that. The (former) girls and I broke the “Chicks before dicks” pact way too much. Not friends with most of 'em anymore anyway and I think it’s better that way.

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I still haven’t dated her. I’m thinking if I should ask her out. I don’t really know how she feels about me, so there’s a huge risk of losing our friendship and maybe with her brothers too if this doesn’t pan out.

Then again, I’m not sure if I want to let it pass by and regret it later for not doing anything.

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hey guys need some advice.

last night went to a bar event. talked to some girls and then saw this one girl sitting by herself. she was hot but she wasnt my thing at that very moment because i had my eyes set on some other hot models there, but i figure, hey shes alone, seems nice enough, im not nervous so i’ll talk to her cuz nothing on the line. so we talk a lil about this and that. she goes on about how shes got a degree in accounting, retired from modeling etc. asks my age, i dont tell her, shes all “omg how old are you, am i too old to be talking to you” etc. and im all well we’re here now so lets just talk or whatever now. turns out shes got like fetish asian guys (thatsme) my friend comes over and interrupts us. we move over there and talk to them for a sec and go back to talking ourselves. break in the conversation. she tells me shes gonna go over there or something and we’re about to leave. she gives me her name and tells me to facebook her.

so where should i go from here?

**actually lemme tell you the tldr version. **see hot girl. mildy uninterested. talk to her anyways. have a nice lil convo. shes got an asian guy fetish. we move over to my friends. break in convo. she goes over there gives me her facebook, we leave. wat do.

heres her model mayhem http://www.modelmayhem.com/425638

any more details needed then ask me. she seems super cool so i dont want to just wing it on this one.

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oh and it would be nice to if you get back to me asap cuz she just accepted my request on facebook

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Is she one of those that has over 600 friends that adds anyone?

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^^This

I’ve been out/never in the game but its moved past “name and number” to “name and facebook”? Well, I guess if you get facebook on your phone…but wait…

Anyway, I have a ton of “modeling” friends on FB and I see their “friends” numbers and its stupid. LVP has a point that if your friends with her along with 900+ people, don’t get too excited.

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Yeah, for real. If it’s a stupid amount, congrats on being just another number, broski. I’m still wondering how I have over 200 people myself!