I can’t speak for everyone, I just fell in love with a woman who isn’t as sexually interested as me. However, it should be noted that my interest in sex is greater than most people’s. I don’t mean that in the “I love fucking” way, I mean I study it like people study frame data. For a person who isn’t that crazy about sex, being with someone like me can be intimidating. Me and my wife having sex is like Daigo playing against a newborn in a fighting game. Yes, I called myself the Daigo of fucking. I had to put it in terms you guys may understand…
edit: I’m not the Daigo of fucking actually, I’m just really bad at it and my wife does not want to waste her time when she could be doing something productive with that 3 minutes.
Masterbation has nothing to do with sex. Having sex does not remove my urge to masterbate. When I was dating a girl we usually had sex on the weekends and the rest of the week I was jacking off.
And this is why i will like to have a partially agree or partially like button.
I disagree with Yuri and Friends not being good fap material, but i agree that there are a lot of stuff out there that are potentially better.
It’s easy, just go tu rule34 and search for mlp pics, i can assure you that you will fap in no time
real talk i feel like i do it too much too but is it really that big of a problem? Its only a problem if youre spanking it so much that youre not getting fully torqued when actual duty calls with a woman or youre hurting yourself.
To the OP. Once I had finally had sex, my masturbation habit dramatically decreased. I started 3 years later than you did, but maybe it’ll be the same for you if you didn’t have sex yet.
This is probably a bogus thread but anyways. I will post facts in case anyone is curious about this or has a similar story.
A) A kid doing that, that early on means some sort of trauma at a young age. Sexual abuse, physical abuse, neglect, bad boundaries with adults, something weird happened. Kids don’t do that normally. You may not remember it because of the way the mind can block things, but the implicit memory remains regardless of this.
B) Every guy faps a lot. And they start at different times during their teens. Usually 13-16. And in that age group you fap a lot. Probably like 2-3 times a day, or an average of like 12 times a week. As you get older and the hormones and testosterone taper off, and you just have more shit occupying your life/time. You probably get into a groove of more like 6 times a week. or like once a day.
C) However, considering the op’s (fake?) story, it seems like (A) is present so that sort of trauma would lead to sexual addiction. Its not just compulsion in this case, because addiction (in anything) is simply defined by it’s consequences. It interferes with his life. In that case he should seek therapy for the trauma, and/or get into SA (sexual addiction anonymous). They have groups and sponsors where you can work the steps to recovery.
It is unfortunate, but usually when stuff like that gets wired into your brain you are stuck with it for life and it is a lifelong thing dealing with sexual addiction. If you truly want to stop, you have to work at it for the rest of your life in the same way people do by going to the gym and eating healthy food to stay fit, but just for your brain.
I also worry about the op, because 90% of the time someone who was molested as a boy ends up being attracted to the same thing when they get older due to the brain wiring. They end up seeking that same trauma in reverse. Pedophiles are almost ALWAYS victims themselves when they were young. It’s a vicious cycle.