Going to be 24 in November. Still living with Parents. I hate it but mainly because of WHERE I live (Arkansas) and not who I live with. Though I don’t have a great relationship with either of my parents, I have enough of one to be civil with them and have them willing to help me when need be.
I’m likely moving in with my girlfriend in January or February though.
I’m 21, unemployed, and live with my parents.
Went to college for a year, lived there, failed miserably, and came back. Attended community college for a year and am currently planning to go back to school in January.
About relationships, I am autistic and have never had a sexual relationship that lasted beyond a one night stand so living with my parents has not affected me in that regard. I can see how this would affect those who actually do have relationships though.
Living on my own would probably be not that different for me. Experiences with roommates would though as my roommates have tended to be psychotically outgoing jocks who force me to socialize.
Yikes sounds bad. Thats what I feel vancouver has become. An old timers retirement home and a mainlanders/hongers kids playground. Except everything costs alot. And tax hurts. Honestly I’m just starting school at the age of 24 (becoming a nurse) and once I get my degree I’m out of this city.
I went to College and graduated at 22 - all while living at home. Worked for 2 years and have about 1.7 years worth of salary saved up and just paid off my car. (Would not have been able to do this if I didn’t live at home. I still paid $200 a month as “rent” to my mom because I didn’t want to be a mooch.) Cost of living is wayyy too much in the Bay Area.
I just moved in with my sis about a week ago. And started a new job with better pay. I do miss some aspects of home, but individual freedom is priceless. Now we just have to wait until a 2bed/bath opens up in the apt. complex. Searching for furniture also sucks, thank god for Craigslist.
Oh yeah, I should add that many of the people I worked with were doing the same thing. Lots of my co-workers (who come straight out of college) still live with their parents and are saving to live on their own. They’re not LAZY - they wouldn’t be working 60-80 weeks if they were. It was most likely the nature of our jobs (rarely at home, no point paying rent) and the fact that the Bay Area (Silicon Valley in particular) has an insane cost of living. I think only NYC beats us out in terms of COL.
I am 26 and still live at home, but I pay 200 a month for rent, and got a job. I want to move out (out of Racine all together) but its just that my financial situation sucks and has sucked since I graduated from college (its my own damn fault for getting a crap degree and not supplementing it with internships, a minor or relevant jobs). However, I am actually starting to make some money and I am hoping to get another raise. Hopefully by next year I will leave my house and go out on my own.
I feel you seem to have a good grasp of most of the backgrounds of people here, and their reasoning. In fact nowadays it is completely socially acceptable to move back home after graduating to look for employment. Especially during these times. I’ve worked plenty of part-times with recent graduates from schools as prestigious as Columbia without jobs.
The majority seems to be from category B, and some A that think they are following social norms. Of course, voluntarily choosing to move out is a good move if it improves your character.
I didn’t leave my parents house till i was about 25…gawd if only i had gotten out sooner!!
All those years spent at that dump, like a mighty Lion in captivity for 20 something years. So much potential, but that environment and my parent’s “influence” held me back too much.
Even then it took a good few years after i left to break out of that shell i was trapped in. 4 years later am still having a tough time adjusting to certain areas.
Yeah, the more I think about it, while I had plenty of freedom when I lived at home, I feel like there was still that “It doesn’t matter how old you are, you still have to listen to your parents about certain things” vibe going on. Obviously, under their roof, I follow their rules, but yeah, like True Grave is saying, it still took a while to break out of that shell.
For example, my mom wanted me to like, never drink alcohol, even after I turned 21, so while I lived at home, I didn’t drink. Even after I moved out, even after being half the globe away, I still didn’t drink for a long time because like, that was my Mom’s rule (and partially her irrational fear that I’ll drink so much I get alcohol poisoning and die, because she read way too many articles in the newspaper about that happening to random retarded college students with their friends)
Also, my parents are very religious, and I’m not religious at all, in fact, the older I got, the more I started to realize I didn’t need or want religion in my life (especially since in this country, very few people actually actively practice religion). However, I vacationed back home, and like, it was expected I go to church every Sunday I was there, plus on Xmas eve or whatever. And swearing NEVER happens around my folks. My dad is like “I don’t care how old you are, don’t swear in this house” It’s just another one of those things. Their place, their rules, which is fine, so even if they give me about as much independence as they can for living at home, i still would feel really caged if I had to go back to that.
Though even now, I feel like they’re judging me. I saved up a buncha money and bought a nice big TV and a new computer, and for some reason, I feel like, worried that they’re gonna tell me “YOU SHOULD SAVE YOUR MONEY AND NOT WASTE IT ON THINGS LIKE THAT”, even tho I don’t live at “home (their house)”, and am never planning on living at their house again. And even tho I have a job, and was staying with my parents on paid vacation, I felt like when I was up late playing games with my friends and acting like a neet, that they were gonna tell me to stop playing so many games, and not get home so late, to go to bed, etc. Even though they realize I’m an adult, and “let me” have certain freedoms that I didn’t really have when I was still living with them, it was hard to not feel like a 19 year old stuck at home, even when I was just temporarily there on vacation.
People always ask me when I’m gonna go back to Chicago to visit, and are surprised when I say that a year and a half after the last time I visited sounds good.
Also, like VEGA_OMEGA said, it’s not all bad living at home. You have someone to talk to. There are days when I go to work, come home, stay in my apt alone without talking to anyone for the night, and then go to sleep, wake up, go to work and repeat that till the weekend.
But having my own place with only my stuff, with the freedom of being an adult beats all right now.
I feel you. This thread seems to be in denial about what happens to a person that lives with those crutches for too long. If you can use it to your advantage and save money without becoming lazy or whiny, good shit. Just like if you can get a good job while supporting yourself you have it made, cause your mindset will be godlike. Two sides of the same coin.
My mom kicked me out when i was 18. My girlfriend lived with me at my moms house and she came with me. My mom wasnt kicking her out. Wierd story how we got together and why she lived there but thats not important. Me and her lived in a motel for about a month an a half while we saved up to get an apartment. My girlfriend was pregnant at the time so not long after we got our apartment she stoped working. I was going to school and working part time and she was working part time at some gas station. When she stoped working I stoped going to school and got full time work. I never went back to school.
Im not with her anymore and Ive moved around a bit and have had roommates in the past. Been kinda tough. Would have had things a lot easier if I had stayed at my moms and finished up school. Oh well. Life isnt so bad now.
not to be in your business or anything but was the baby yours?
damn yo, shit got heavy in here all of a sudden :shake:
Yes, the baby was mine. She’s 11 now.
ok I have a question that kind of pertains to the predicament that most of us are in with living at home. (refer to the previous page for my situation) Im trying to get a job out of state. new jersey to be specific. to my jersey members, hows the job outlook out there currently? I just need something DECENT just so I can get up there. any tips for even landing a phone interview or hell even a in person one out of state? I feel like when employers look @ my resume and see my “current” job being out of state they just throw my resume to the side. Ive been applying like crazy an not even a callback or follow up email from anyone have I gotten… 
what do you guys think of this…
i moved to new orleans for college from chicago. i like it here. a lot. so much that i really do not want to go home. I’m paying 10k for room and board. my roommate and I broke it down, and it is basically like paying 20k (because we both pay 10k) to have a small ass room with two beds and a shared bathroom for eight months. we are thinking of moving out for next year and getting an apartment, because even a shitty one has to be better than this. not to mention having to deal with being room searched and all these dumb ass rules (like no visiting past 12 etc, even though thats a joke to get around it’s still a hassle and a risk.)
do you guys think two full time jobs and a third roommate could pay for a decent apartment? it isn’t in the city of new orleans, it’s a few miles out, and I talked to a few guys that live off campus and they say they don’t pay too much. i’m just trying to get input from you guys. what do you think is the max rent I could afford?
sorry if this is rambling, i’m in between colossal amounts of homework and am wasting time.
It’s bad out there right now, lots of people can’t find jobs. I won’t judge anyone who lives at home. That said, I could never live with my parents as an adult, unless I was about to be homeless. That shit would drive me crazy.
College dorms are fucking rip off. You can and will do much better just moving out with your room mate.
i am moving out with my roommate lol
I tried moving out due to the fact that I was feeling chained down to the family. My so-called friends couldn’t hook me up with a room for rent, so I hit craigslist looking for total strangers to share a room with. Thing was, I live in an area that doesn’t have public transportation of any kind, and I wasn’t gonna be able to afford gas, food, rent, and tuition for community college off of a 9.00h retail job, so I had to decline. Also, my grandma was giving me a hundred reasons why it was not a good idea, so I got talked out of it.
Now I’m unemployed, and can’t get a job anywhere to pay my tuition or my credit card debt. Just happy I don’t have to pay property tax on my car, otherwise I’d be forced to rob somebody.
My mom is visually impaired and its hard for her to do things on her own. I’m staying with her to save money and help take care of her. I realize this is probably cutting the amount of pussy I could get down to nothing, but I love my mom. People tell me all the time to get a nurse or some aid to come by and help her. I don’t trust that shit.
I think I posted this in this thread already but I can’t remember. Its been so long since I posted on SRK.