I haven’t lived at home for any length of time since I went to college. I have been very lucky as far as I have always had a good paying job or plenty of opportunity mostly because I spent a good deal of time becoming well connected in places I have lived. College really needs to stress that connections and playing politics will always be secondary to job performance. Now if you do those things AND are a dedicated worker, you can really make things happen for yourself. Even though I had a pretty good job before I returned to grad school, I decided that career wise going back and getting my doctorate degree would translate to even more opportunity and pay for myself. I have 4th year rotations coming up, and I will most likely live at home for 5 of them at the suggestion of my parents. They don’t mind at all seeing how I haven’t been a burden on them since I was in high school, and haven’t needed any financial support from them in over 10 years.
Its all good to each their own… but dont lie to yourself… if you like it then do it if you dont then try to change it. The problem is with living under anyones roof (currently in girlfriends place, just got back from college) is that its not your place. And man that can be stressful especially if your a man with some pride and the person you living with is not like you.
Yeah if there were a few things I would recommend to those of you still in school it would be these:
-Connect with your professors. Talk to them regularly and ask them as many questions as possible that pertain to your profession.
- Bust your ass for internships. That networking is priceless and pays dividends down the line.
- Connect with a few classmates that you share similar goals with. More networking that can pay off down the line.
- Meet with councilors routinely to make sure you’re on track. Two years ago I had a big issue with my school in regards to graduating 3 units short because of a class that I took not falling under a list of Upper Division GE classes under my major. I spent the next year fighting it and then finally winning my battle.
Oh man… your in a heep of trouble. Just dont be surprised when you have to choose between putting up your parents or putting up with your girlfirends bs… (pro tip: choose the parents, they are smarter and cook better probably, and they dont nag when you watch porn in your room)
I’m 29 and I have lived with my parents all my life. I fucking hate it. They don’t mind me living with them though.
My younger brother and younger sister have both moved out. I went to college, got a master’s degree as well. A lot of school loans.
Had a decent job then the recession hit. I live in California. There are no fucking jobs anywhere. I send out a ton of resumes, never hear back. I have a part-time job, but it pays nothing. So I live with my folks out of necessity. There are so many people I know who have college degrees, a lot of work experience, etc. and they don’t have work. Those that do work, it seems as if this whole employment thing is random in California, like Godzilla stepping on fleeing people, there is no rhyme or reason.
The recession has ruined mine and many others’ lives so living at home, that is the norm. Moving back home, that’s the norm. Hell, parents moving in with kids, that’s normal too.
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I fell your pain, I’m in the same situation as well, a majority of everyone living in California is experiencing the same thing.
I know about internships. I wish I had gotten on that train early in my college career, but I was ignorant of that stuff until around 2008 when I graduated CC (thus the “I’m a loser” first post). Now, I’m about to graduate University in 2011. Even now, when I’m tuned into them, a lot of the internships that I find out about or that come through the school mail are either out of state or WAY out of my skill/years of experience range. I was truly sad when the only one I could find that was doable this past summer only went as far as an interview.
i remember when i lived at home trying to sneak in those jerk sessions tho
its like mom is in the shower, ok i got 10 minutes or shit the water just turned off hurry hurry, etc.
i think the stress actually made it better
You know what’s worse, is when you have an older brother who wants to do the jerk session too…Watching Beta max porn was like the only way to go cuz it had super ffwd button not like my crappy vhs that was a wired remote & had no rewind button haha…
So pretty much all i had was the AAFES catalog, i bring it with me to the bathroom…I would look at the lingerie women haha
I’m not knocking anybody who still lives at home with their parents because everyone’s situation and reason is different, some may be home with their parents because they’re in college or just finished college, to save money and find a job or they may be saving up money to move into their own place etc etc…
But NO woman wants to hear those 5 words when she asks were do you live and you tell her… “i live with my parents”…especially when you call yourself trying to get some or if she wants to be intimate, those panties aren’t dropping anytime soon.
Yea, I can’t bash people who live with their parents who are older than 20. It just gets annoying sometimes, cause you can’t do everything you’d do if you lived by yourself. Then their is the nagging. If I was able to get a job close to home, I probably would still live with my parents. I think the savings would be worth it.
I make 20k…it’s fun, as long as you have no aspirations whatsoever.
I live with roommates right now but in a few months the place where I work is closing down. I’m seriously thinking of moving back to my moms while I collect unemployment so I can save up some money and have more time to play Street Fighter, Fallout Vegas and drink beer. Fuck getting a new job, I wanna be a dead beat until unemployment runs out. I have been employed and on my own for 5 years I think I deserve it. Also when people ask me why I’m unemployed and living with my mom I will just blame the economy even though the real reason is because I’m a dead beat loser. FUCK YEAH!
i know earlier i said living at home is not so bad but i’m starting to change my mind…
i can’t stand living with my parents anymore especially with my mom. today we went to the mall and she just left me stranded because we had an argument. she still treats me like i’m fucking 13 years old and i had enough. i had to take the bus back home. luckily i had some cash on me. that was an irreparable act and i don’t think she can be my mom anymore. i will remember this for a long time. i have a college degree so i’m hoping to land a job soon. in fact i have an interview coming up, but i don’t own a car. i’m currently borrowing her car and it sucks not being able to take it out whenever i want. i need to land this job badly to get the fuck out of the house. when she gets older fuck her. there will be no one to take care of her. she’s not my mom anymore.
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I live at home for half of the summer, and when I get vacation (aka winter break or spring break).
but I’d rather live at school in the dorms, or in the apt’s. it’s hard tryin’ to find ways to keep busy when you don’t have a job, or don’t go to school, or have any responsibilities. so yea, I’d rather have a job or be learning despite how stressful both may be.
my plan is basically to graduate, come to live at home for a month or so, go to grad school and live in the apts or commute and once I get a job and enough money I’ll move out.
I actually live with my brother and sister. My mom was cool and let me and Infini live at home until we finished college, after which me and my siblings decided, “Hell, we get along fine so why not just live together?”
Too good.
When you start talking shit about people you’ve known for a while is when you know it’s bad. So check this - a couple years back there was an open spot in my apartment. I had a friend who was living at home at the moment so I hit him up, told him about the situation, and told him he could take the room. So it was 3 dudes living together… got along just fine, smoked together, drank together, played SFIV together even. It was cool. I shared a bathroom with this dude. He doesn’t do a damned thing despite me constantly being on his ass about shit.
So I’m like, I need to GTFO… we were living out in the cuts. I’m the first to announce that I’m moving out. 2nd roommate announces he’s moving too. 3rd dude - the guy I’ve known for years - is like… alright, I guess I gotta go too, cuz his ass is too lazy to find 2 replacements. Me and 2nd guy, we both find new spots to live. 3rd dude… moves back in with his parents. Homeboy is 30 now, living at home with his parents not because of necessity… he’s an accountant, for crying out loud, but because he’s too lazy.
Bottom line - if you’re in your mid 20s or older and living with your parents because you’re too lazy to live on your own, you better get your shit together, because good luck with moving on in life.
The trick I found was living right outside of LA, but still within a reasonable commute… and by reasonable, I don’t mean taking 5 different freeways to get from one spot to the next. I was living in Montebello, took me like 25 minutes to get to work and 30 to get to my girlfriend at the time’s spot in West LA. Rent was relatively cheap, like $600 for one room in a 3 bedroom condo.