yeah i used to belong to a bear group I was thinking about rejoining my local one but I mean i don’t usually have the time. i’m trying to get my bf to join one though… he definitely has the time … and lately he’s been extra clingy, maybe getting busy with a bear group or something would help… I guess i shouldn’t complain… but still it can be annoying sometimes.
That’s pretty much exactly why I haven’t done anything gay related yet… outside of the sex, of course. =P
I’d really like to hit up a bear or chub gathering/event of some sort, though, but there’s the first timer’s intimidation coupled with the fact that I’m deathly shy and I have no one to go with, and topped off with a dash of I’m a fucking nerd.
Btw, I got the PM. Not chubby, but still nice.
Yeah, what sucks is that when you go to these, people there already know each other, and the trend seems to be unless you really go and try to talk to them they won’t approach. Sometimes you have to leave shyness at the door, but it’s hard sometimes.
What worked for me was when I went to pride I got invited to a party. I don’t do very well at parties and meeting people for the first time. Once I get to know people I’m fine. Well it turned out this was a bear party, and mostly bears attended (duh). I would have normally had trouble having these guys talk to me, since most seem to think young skinny guys aren’t into older bears. LUCKILY the week before I found a shirt at my local gay shop that said “Bear Catcher” and has a paw clawing through. This shirt got me so much attention, and a really good time. =)
You should atleast try it once and see if you’re comfortable…I know it’s hard, but just bite the bullet and go for it. If they have a group or mailing list, try talking to some of the guys through email or IM beforehand and get to know them, then it won’t be as bad.
No, you do have a reason to complain…it’s nice to have someone in your life, but damn we all need our space. I’m kind of lucky right now where my partner lives 2 hours from me, so we only see each other one weekends. We do talk during the week, but we each get to do our own thing during the week. I don’t have to ask him if I can go, or if he wants to go, or if we have other plans.
Also, it’s hard to say…hey, you’re getting annoying, go away, join a group or something. But you should try talking to him, unless you already tried and he didn’t get the point. =\
And tell him I loved him in those pics you sent me. 
i wish you guys lived closer… all of you. hanging out would be so much more fun than it is
it’s really hard to talk to him about things he should look at about himself. he gets super defensive. Eh… i’ll find a way to suggest it lightly to him.
Yep I told him he says thanks 
For sure. We’re definitely gonna all have to hit up some tourney at some point.
Also:
A: Tell him Jon and I definitely agreed with IWST, if he didn’t already know. =P
B: Jon’s curious about your boss since everyone’s calling him hot, and I accidentally deleted the pic, so can you send it again please?
Glad to hear the bowling league is still going well… ROFL @ the dykey lesbians that rub on each other and drink beer. Hahaha. Good.
Me too. :sad: That would be awesome… I don’t know anyone in real life that’s gay anymore. The ones I did know that vanished or moved were all frighteningly gay, too… Not a huge problem but it bothers me when I feel like they’re TRYING to be that flaming and not just being themselves. I never really understood that… Embrace the gay, but don’t overdo it, I’d say. :lol: Plus just like I’d much rather hang out with guys instead of girls, effeminate gay guys are pretty close to girls on my spectrum.
So I’m going to Pride (San Francisco of all places). It’s my first pride so what can I expect?
Yeah I just figured out whoever I talked to was wrong and you don’t have to pay money to go on the march. I knew that sounded fishy. I might be going to the pride march here in Seattle on Sunday which would also be my first one. Not sure yet.
EDIT: OH! That’s what I’m forgetting. PM me those pics GTC!
check your pm mech and aza
I’ve never been to SF pride, but if it’s even half of what I hear it is, then SF might not want to be the first one you go to. It could be wild, overwhelming, and (dare I say it…) “overly gay.” <<interpret that how ever you like.
Most Prides, though, are cool fairly laid back, like all events with humans, there will be uppity “I’m better than you” type people running around. Lots of drunkenness, lots of skin (in SF I hear LOTS AND LOTS of skin – like LOTS).
Either way, keep your mind open and don’t pass judgments and you should have a good time.
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Unbelievably enough, sex is not that important to LS. I dinna understand it.
that’s actually a good thing…
LS is a hottie anyways he can get it anytime he wants. Sometimes it’s better to remove it from the equation you make better decisions about everything when you do most times
starts alerting the chubby bear crowd LS is single
"Excellent"
yeah ooooook. heh
Sometimes it’s better to not even go, which is why I’m going to EVO north/MWC! 
how did you take that pic GTC? I mean, did you have an invisibility cloak or something?
The two of you must know some other LS. 
Chaz (or should I say Andrew, Mr. Assumption maker based on things I’ve never said)… Sex isn’t as important to me as it is to you. But sex isn’t as important to ANYBODY as it is to you. Sex is important though. I’m not Tony… or Tre for that matter.
GTC… When have you seen me? I’ve got body hair, but there is no chub going on, unless you’re using Hollywood standards. 5’11" 185#
I put my phone on silent and took the pic in a very sneaky way that’s why it’s not all centered and you dont really see the face .
I only fixed his quote which was telling others how to enjoy pride. Even if he doesn’t do it, he should make sure to tell others to try to get laid!
Pride can be lots of fun.
Pride gets me depressed 