Lol, I dig bears but not exclusively into them and I’m not into the super worship that goes around here for them. I dig Nick Frost but that’s the only “super” bear I’d invite over.
Bear culture perplexes me though. Sometimes I feel like bears are treated as outsiders or outcasts in the greater gay community and then sometimes I feel like they are treated as a special commodity. And then I sometimes think that bears are very exclusive and don’t want to deal with non-bears.
Whatevs. I do think it’s hurtful when we fetishize certain groups though.
but do what you want… is your gripe that more people arent into transvestites in this thread? or not enough people talking to you from here? just trying to understand.
If we were fawning over brad pitt or orlando bloom would that be any better?
desi asked is bear fever sweeping the gay community… it’s totally not. not even at srk really… of the 12 or so of us only about half are into bears… and of that only 4 of us are into chubby bears.
To the greater population of gays bears are gross.
A transvestite is a drag queen. I’m a pre-op transsexual. There’s a difference. Transvestites are just dudes who dress up like chicks, like Chris Crocker or Nathan Lane (at one point). I actually consider myself a girl inside, and am working to make that the case on the outside as well, so I can be a woman in the eyes of the world.
Also, I’m not actually griping with any seriousness, I just like to complain at random when I’m in a foul mood, and I’ve been in a foul mood for the past several days. Sorry about that.
Don’t get me wrong, I was not trying to make a judgement on what is better (or worse). If folks here began to “super worship” guys in boy bands, I would have teased a little about that.
The gay community is very judgmental and I don’t want to add to that. I know I’ve sometimes felt embarrassed about who I date or I find attractive when I’m around my regular group of friends cause what I enjoy doesn’t always fit the “gay mainstream” norm. Folks can be pretty judgmental when you don’t “fit in.”
I’m not into bears sexually, but I do like to hug them.
Bearhugs are pretty much the best kind of hugs. My best friend is a bear, and he’s pretty much god-tier at hugs. Bears kick ass at that, which is why I like having them around.
I just realized that you’re the only chick that posts contantly in this thread. :lovin:
?I know you’ve been waiting, but I’ve been up making babies and like a chef making pastries, it’s time to make you sweat, ding?
I heart that song. <3
Finished moving all of Doug’s stuff from his old house to the new one. The moving men are here and are setting everything up from his house in Nevada. I thought I sucked at doing stuff around the house, like handyman type stuff, and I never thought about moving as being a big deal…but I found someone worse. He says he always has handymen do stuff, and he always has moving men move his stuff. So when we were at his other house and I was removing drawers from this huge armoire to bring it down the stairs, he was like, oh I was just going to leave them in.
I was like . Not only do they add about 30+lbs., but bringing it down stairs the drawers could come out and hit the walls or something. He was like :wonder: “wow you’re so smart”. I just LOL’d. Also last week I had to take measurements of stuff and buy all the face plates and outlets to replace the old power outlets, and also buy all the new door knobs for the doors around the house…when we went there he had taken count of how many he had, and he counted wrong…then he got non matching ones…so we went back and he had me grab everything. :looney: He thanks me and says he’s lucking to have me, and I can’t help but lol.
This thread = one of my favorite threads on SRK. It’s this and the Premo Think Out Loud that take up ninety percent of my SRK time. GTC and Azagtoth alone would make this thread worth coming to, but along with you and the other regulars, I’m set for life as far as kickass GD threads.
I never post in GD outside of this thread. Fun fact.
Movers finished a while ago…everything is moved in, although most of everything is in boxes…we sat down for a bit in the living room and he said just wait until next week when everything is moved in. He then said, it will be great, and then the only question remaining will be “when will you move in?”
:lovin:
It’s about 100 degrees out, there’s no sprinklers out so we were watering everything for about an hour…now we’re resting and waiting for his folks to show up…I guess I am going to meet them… EEEk.
Ah, so it’s just an SRK thing then. I guess bears just go against the grain of today’s standards of “beauty”, where being stick thin is apparently considered hot, which is why they’re considered “gross”. Just needs some time I guess. :woot:
lol @ meeting parents… that’s one thing I’m glad I never had to deal with. that and dating chicks with overprotective dads. that must be fun to deal with.
Yeah! And back massages!! I need a guy with some strong ass arms to work my back deep enough. :lovin:
Mostly, yeah. That’s why at first we were all like “holy crap!” because for a minute there every new gay guy was into the same/similar tastes. Except for like… Lightning Storm. And Rosie O’Jimmythehand.
Ironically, compared to when I was first posting in this topic, my tastes have rather opened up in the opposite direction. I still don’t think I’d really date someone my age/that looked like me, but I like regular body types more than the slightly overweight bear body type. I was never into big guys, though, really. I still gotta have dat body hair, though, that’s my appeal with the bear culture. No body hair = no go. If I want something smooth, hairless, and pretty, I’ll fuck a girl thx.
It went well. It was his mom and step dad. Right away we started talking and were taking stuff apart and deciding on how to rearrange the furniture, etc. Doug sucks at that shit, so it was mainly his mom and I. After I left he messaged me later and told me his mom said she loved me already. I was like :lovin:. She was really nice…he complains that sometimes she worries a lot about everything he does and doesn’t want him to make wrong decisions…but that’s just a mom being a mom. When I was leaving she said I didn’t have to go because of them…I said it wasn’t because of them I just had to go. She then said the would be there all week and that I should come visit them.
Between that and the comment about moving in, i’m on cloud 9.
FUCKING YES.
My best friend, I’ll call him ‘Potemkin’…god, his massages are god-tier, his hugs are god-tier…If I were into guys I swear to fucking god, I’d love him like he loves me.
^
So your one of those dudes that go from male to “female” (aka male with inverted cock on estrogen pills) but still like women so they become lesbians but they are not really lesbians as they are still genetically male? Are you sure your a tranny or just one of those people that want to have their one of their limbs cut off which in this case a very special limb? No offense but getting your dick chopped off is a big deal and if you are not going to “properly” use the resulting aftermath then why do it? If you want to insert stuff into you, you already have other holes.
I talked to him a little while ago on AIM while his parents were out on a walk. I asked exactly what his mom said, and he said that she said that I seemed very nice and helpful, and that she really liked that…then he said, wait till I tell her we’re sleeping together.
I said, oh so she doesn’t know? He said he didn’t tell her, but that she’s not stupid and probably figured it out, and that if she was to ask he would tell her the truth. I believe him on that part cause I know he’s told his coworkers about us and my age, and that some were like WTF? (I’m 21, he’s 42…although my ex was 56!) but then said, whatever makes you happy. He said his mom would not care about the age either. I’ve spoken to his coworkers, and even hooked up one of his assistants with a shitload of products from my company (I work for a skin care company, and she swears by it), and he says they always ask about me.
My last relationship, my ex’s family didn’t even really know I existed until almost 3 years in, and I only met one of his brothers (they all lived in the east coast, he was the only one in the west coast…but still, he never mentioned me on the phone or anything), and he never told them about my age either, he was kinda scared on how they would react. I hate having to hide anything from anyone, or have to lie, and I no longer have to…and I’m glad things are going so well right now.
Also, Desi, thanks for reading, cause I’ve noticed you’ve read some of my long ass posts before. I never really expect anyone to read them, and you, the non gay guy, always does. :lovin:
. Not only do they add about 30+lbs., but bringing it down stairs the drawers could come out and hit the walls or something. He was like :wonder: “wow you’re so smart”. I just LOL’d. Also last week I had to take measurements of stuff and buy all the face plates and outlets to replace the old power outlets, and also buy all the new door knobs for the doors around the house…when we went there he had taken count of how many he had, and he counted wrong…then he got non matching ones…so we went back and he had me grab everything. :looney: He thanks me and says he’s lucking to have me, and I can’t help but lol.
