I mean the duties that the Man of the House(not referring to Jonathan Taylor Thomas and Chevy Chase’s flick, mind you) is supposed to take on, as parse to social norms, like: paying the bills, doing the lawn, laying down the law with the children, if there are any so to speak. Blah blah blah. Or are these split.
…Sorry, I was asking the homosexual male here, or gay guy. Not to be confused with the gay guys of SRK(in the happy sense, like some of you are at the current time, but thanks anyway).
so yeah … that’s split. It’s 2 guys… it’s one household just like anything the responsibilities incurred are split. Kindof a weird question.
Can I ask… is it really that hard to imagine that 2 guys could be 2 guys together? I mean if we took gay out of the picture and said roommates would that help you wrap your mind around it? This is not just directed at Ryoma i’m just saying.
So the sex is one thing I know some of you guys can never fully get that concept and you shouldn’t have to… unless you plan on spending a long stint in prison… or plan on comming out of the closet. but as for married life. it’s pretty much the same as living with your best friend. … unless you treat your best friend like a bitch and wine him and dine him… in which case you may as well fuck.
1/. See what you mean and 2/. no, it is not anything challenging. I have seen it done and I find it to be as normal, also. People do it all the time, whether it’s same sex roomies or co-ed. It’s understandable. I got the copcept if thats’ what you meant. And it is hard for many people who have a single form perception. This coming from a guy who believes that “plugs don’t go into plugs and sockets weren’t meant for sockets”.
I asked because I wasn’t sure of how the responsibilities are split up. My apologies for coming off as a challenge or threat than a question from someone seeking knowledge.
No worries pup. As i said i wasn’t directing that soley at you. Your right somepeople do have problems just getting there mind around the concept … and that’s what/ who i thought you were … i stand corrected.
Not trying to attack you, I know you were just asking and it’s a valid question, but everyone who asks these questions: Do you really think everything is not just split in a logical way? When two guys are together, you don’t get forced into roles in the same way you can in a heterosexual relationship. There are no social constructs based around who has to do what. It’s a very mutual, equal type of thing, and it totally varies from relationship to relationship. There’s no man of the relationship, nothing like that. Get it through your heads, guys.
Exactly. I’m not sure why everyone thinks there has to be something weird about it.
Yeah, it’s really not even close to as weird and different as people think. It’s bizarre how skewed some people’s views are… someone told me their friend’s crazy ass mom was going off on some tangent about how gays have hundreds of sexual partners a year and at least one orgy a month. The weird ignorant stigma around homosexual relationships… I feel like they’re partially fueled by really flamboyant gay guys. The gay guys that you see anywhere and anyone can tell you they’re gay. Those are the gay guys that everybody bases their judgment off, so they assume there’s all these women-like roles and shit, but the truth is lispy flaming gay guys are just weird.
Being around a lot of heterosexual relationships and seeing how the male and female psyche mesh together, and comparing them to me being a guy with a guy… there’s so many conflicts and things we skip, but I can’t really just sit down and think about it. It’s just little things I notice, that just wouldn’t happen in my relationship, like the things they argue over, the gf nagging about stuff, etc. I can’t really cite any good examples, sorry. :lol:
I’m not directing this shit at anyone either, just voicing my opinion on it. Homosexual relationships are much more similar to any other relationship than people tend to recognize. Just like, think of a good male buddy of yours and how your bond is chill and laid back in a way that you can’t quite achieve with most girls. It’s like that, with some romanticism (that you don’t have to understand) thrown in.
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I’m outi
Mechanicath
P.S. - You guys ever drop the soap with a guy in the shower? I giggle every time.
Upon reading this post again, I really don’t understand this part. Like, it’s either really just flying over my head, or it doesn’t make sense. you were addressing the gay guys on SRK, not to be confused with the gay guys on SRK… but in the happy sense, like some of us…? …thanks anyway? Thanks anyway for what? WHAT? WHAT IS GOING ON? AGH MY BRAIN
Agh, I don’t know. It’s getting nowhere. I realized after he’d left for work the last time we were together that I didn’t talk to him about it, so I left him a note letting him know I wanted to talk about it… but thanks to unforeseen circumstances (Boeing’s working him like a dog :wasted: ) I still haven’t gotten to see him. :bluu: :sad:
Trannies are… um… I don’t even know what I think about them. They boggle my mind, to be honest. I just don’t really get it. To answer your question, there’s pretty much nothing gayer than wanting to be a woman. Like, even being attracted to masculinity… I can’t imagine not being happy with what you got. It’s all about how you use it, anyway. :wgrin: Seriously though, I think being a guy is awesome. I thought that since before I was attracted to either gender.
All I can say is the world does not need more women. Especially not when they’re guys! In fact, pretty much everyone on these boards would probably disagree with me up until that sentence.
Also, sorry I post in this topic so much. :pleased:
I read an article once that said transvestites and dragqueens are typically straight. … but that was in a gay magazine so here, take multiple grains of salt with that one.
Its sad that in among gays we do ostracize eachother even inside the community. I’ll hear it all the time the Eww’s and the That’s gross I’d never do that… from guys even in the bear community… and bears are a sub culture of a s ubculture that get’s Ewws and “that’s gross” from “mainstream” gays.
There was an article in out magazine once that totally wailed on bears calling us gross ugly and hairy. this from a GAY magazine. Same feelings I’ve heard echoed throughout the gay community regarding transexuals. Sad really. So to answer your question … it upsets some people… others just find it amusing.
From what i can tell of testimonys and stuff i’ve read and seen most transexuals feel that they ARE women or Are men but just in the wrong bodies. To say that… they feel god made a mistake. that they are actually supposed to be a woman and they get the surgery to try to correct that.
don’t apologize for that. with the large percentage of the gays in this forum boycotting me for making this thread, and the half of the remainder having some sort of personal problem against me, conversation can be scarce. I appreciate everyone that has chimed in thusfar.
I have a question. When you see a bunch of fools type “fag” or “faggot” in a heated argument or “flamewar” on srk, does it bother you, or do you not really care?
Also, I dont want to sound like a jerk or anything but on a “fruity” scale, what kinda gay are you guys? 1 being “you couldnt even tell im gay” - 10 being “I do everything a girl would do but wear dresses…exept that one time”.
It kinda bothers me sometimes because I know you guys are smarter than regular guys for the most part… so if “Fag” is the best insult you can come up with… I’m like wow… guess i was wrong. There are defintely worse things you can be than a gay person.
I don’t know… i mean I don’t hide that i’m gay but i guess i don’t do flamboyance. In your terms… if i never told you I am gay I guess I’d come off as a 1… unless i’m intrested in you. then i’d probably be a 3 or so.
word. I’ve noticed, its mostly the idiots that resort to that, but I would hate it if “sand-nigger” became the replacement for “fag”. Im an Indian guy, and that shit would not be cool to me. It must be tough being gay sometimes.
1: I’m so used to other people saying it and even saying it myself that it really doesn’t have any effect anymore. The only time it even remotely bothers me is when someone says it to me with nothing but hateful intentions.
2: To most people, I’m a 1. To people I like or people who know I’m gay, probably about a 3-4.
The weird ignorant stigma around homosexual relationships… I feel like they’re partially fueled by really flamboyant gay guys. The gay guys that you see anywhere and anyone can tell you they’re gay. Those are the gay guys that everybody bases their judgment off, so they assume there’s all these women-like roles and shit, but the truth is lispy flaming gay guys are just weird.
WHAT IS GOING ON? AGH MY BRAIN
Especially not when they’re guys! In fact, pretty much everyone on these boards would probably disagree with me up until that sentence.