Could someone teach me the proper etiquette for fighting games?

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See, this is what I was afraid of, lol. Oh well, I had it coming, I guess. I’m not really an ass though, it’s just how a lot of people perceive me based on my responses.

A. I don’t go out of my way to talk with people I don’t know

^ this is generally considered, “rude” in daily society, therefore…I am considered anti-social

B. I don’t like accepting compliments I don’t think I’m deserving of because it makes me feel uncomfortable

^ this is generally considered me, “being a douche” because normal people accept compliments on a whim 9 times out of 10

Anyway, maybe it’s because I don’t really have any local friends (I’ve got one, but even then…we only see each other maybe once a month) and most of my friends are from forums or something. So yeah, most of my, “human interaction” just comes from talking with people online via message boards, chatrooms, or instant messaging programs. Like I said before, I’ve never participated in an offline session or tournament before, so I’m honestly not sure how you’re supposed to act.

That’s why I’m trying to get help here to change my mentality so I don’t come off as an ass. It’s like this one time, my friend and I got into an argument about one of his BlazBlue videos. He started talking about how he was better than his friends cause he usually wins against them on a regular basis.

So I just said, “Well, maybe that’s cause your friends aren’t that good”. He practically blew up in my face and went on a tirade about how I was being a douche and basically insulted him along with his friends when I did no such thing. I was just basically trying to tell him to not be so egotistical just because you beat a couple of no name scrubs.

He claimed they were, “good”, but by whose standards? If the only experience you have is just playing the same 3 (or maybe it was 4?) guys every week, how do you know what qualifies as, “good” ? So here he was thinking he beat these, “good” players, which made him feel like he was even better, and I was just trying to make him look at the big picture.

“Maybe they aren’t as good as you think they are”

Anyway, he got so upset with me, we didn’t talk for a couple of weeks, lol. I don’t really understand why what I said was wrong, but when I talked with this about a few of my friends, they all pretty much gave the same response. “You actually SAID that to him?”

As if I had just told my friend, “You suck. You’re just a scrub. Shut the hell up” or something. Well, a couple of people have told me it’s fine to be honest, but you just have to know how to present that honesty. I guess I’m just brutally honest with people and that pisses quite a few people off.

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ha I dunno man, how is it any different accepting a compliment in SF than any other game or acitivity or area in life?

I know a lot of people who don’t like undeserved compliments, myself included. But there are much more graceful ways of conveying that than “no I’m not good, I’m just better than you.” Regardless of whether they are wrong about you being good, they are trying to be nice. I usually say something like “Thanks, I’m ok, but I still have a long way to go.”

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I don’t really like getting compliments in real life either though. It just makes me feel awkward, lol. I used to make Anime and Video Game Music Videos a few years back and some people would be like, “Hey, this is pretty good” and I’d be like, “If yo say so, lol.” or something like that. I just always feel like I can do better, ya know?

Granted, I don’t want people to go around just saying, “You suck!” either, but sometimes I think it would just better if they don’t say anything at all. If I ask for someone’s opinion on something, that’s one thing, but don’t go out of your way to put me on the spot and start talking about all these great things I’ve done or something. It’s just weird to me.

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^ think your friend’s insecure. that comment wasn’t violent or even a prod.

I gotta say, I still don’t think you’re an asshole or anything but that paragraph really made you sound like one. you’re right though, just cause you beat your friends doesn’t mean you’re good. hell even if your friends actually are really good. it’s the things you experience that determine whether or not you’ll survive tourney play

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It’s great that you don’t think you’re an ass, but that doesn’t mean anything when other people think you’re an ass.

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ya man I think you need to decide whether its worth offending people who compliment you for the sake of having the most genuine response to their compliments.

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Yeah man. For all I know, his friends could have actually been good. I don’t know one way or the other, honestly.

I was just trying to make him understand that there are better players out there, so there’s really no reason to get so worked up over beating the casual group. On a totally unrelated note, it’s kind of like when people who have never set foot off American soil say stuff like, “America is the best country in the world!” and I just have to ask, “And you know this…how? Have you been to every other country in the world? That’s right. I didn’t think so”

I just generally speak what’s on my mind and a lot of the time, it’s not what people want to hear.

It’s not as if I’m trying to offend people though. Like I tell most people who get offended by something which wasn’t meant as an insult, “No, lol. If I wanted to offend you, trust me, you’d know”. I have a very different attitude towards people I’m wanting to offend or insult in some way, but I don’t go out of my way to do it.

Basically, if they start something with me and got some beef, then sure, but I’m not going to randomly offend some dude.

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seriously do you have autism

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Actually, I do, lol. I was diagnosed with Asperger’s Syndrome when I was about 9 or 10. Now I’m 24 (turning 25 later this year).

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ok i figured as much in that case u probably don’t deserve all the abuse but really when people tell you ‘this is the way to act if you want to not piss people off’ you should probably roll w/ it even if it bothers you. i mean how much harm does it really do you to say thanks.

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First thing I can think of is not to ask for tier lists.

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kind of wondering the same thing lol

Whether you are trying to or not, people get offended by different things than you. It’s like if your mom makes you dinner, and asks how it is. You could be honest, and despite not trying to offend her or choose your words carefully.

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Why are you guys feeding this troll

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I have the same problem when someone will say it was a good game but, I don’t feel it was. I don’t know what to say even though I know they’re just saying it arbitrarily to acknowledge the match.

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I’m not a troll :<

I honestly want to change my mentality to make people not feel so offended in future instances. There’s nothing wrong with trying to better yourself, man. Sure, there are a couple of harsh comments in here, but hell…as far as I’m concerned, I’m glad I posted this topic.

It’s better than being the guy who just never says anything at all or thinks he doesn’t have a problem and lives in denial. So thanks for the help you guys have supplied so far. I’ll try to see if I can work with it and just try to force myself to get in a habit of thanking people, even if I may not mean it.

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damn some of yall so thin skinned…

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So you don’t want to lie and at the same time you don’t want to offend the guy who sent you a message ?

Here’s a protip : don’t answer it.

Here’s another one : if you really want to answer something, play a little game I like to call “MISTER TETSUYA HIKARI GRAND THEATER 2010”, it’s plain simple, act like you’re the one who send the message AND the one who answer it.
When you send a message to someone saying “you’re good”, what do you want him to say ? “Thank you, you’re good too” or “thank you, if you want an advice, here is one : don’t use your shoryuken that much blabla”.

People don’t want to hear the exact truth and you obviously don’t want to tell it, being autostic doesn’t mean being stupid, stop being so self-centered and please consider people aroud you like human beings, they want the same thing as you : recognition. Give em some, it doesn’t cost shit.

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I lol every time someone tells me “GGs” in SFIV.

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Yo I played Tetsuya on PSN one time and after our match I was like “hey man gg nice Sakura”

He messaged me back and said “GG MY ASS U GOT SERVED SON. SEE ME AT EVO $500 MONEY MATCH REAL TALK”

Dude totally flipped out. I mean I know I’m pretty crap at SF but there’s no need to rub in your wins or request unrealistic money matches. With that being said he’s still on my friends list and I play him to keep my ego in check. I start thinking I’m hot shit after beating a few flow chart Kens, so Tetsuya is there to keep me in check.

EDIT: I’m also adding the proper tags to this thread